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  Would You Rather Be Married or Single?

  by minimus in

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  I hated being married.

  I hated being single.

  I REALLY hated being married.

  I hated being single.

  Now, I love being married. It's true that it takes being married to the right person for you.

  It took me 3 times to find that one.
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  Disfellowshiped Last Night - Elder Question

  by johnnyc in

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  i know some of you know me by my posts...as someone very much on the "fence".

  recently, i had made an effort to start coming back to meetings after being inactive for 2+ years.

  during that time, i did have a prescription drug problem following an injury.

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  My mom was hospitalized for depression (a breakdown). She was using prescription meds and alcohol at the time.

  I love my mom, she is a beautifu person...allbeit at JW....

  She wasn't councelled as far as I know, let alone df'd for her addictions...

  I think they (your judicial committee looking for a way to df you (they similarily did that to me)...in my opinion...they wanted you out...and this was their way. Chin-up...it's good on the outside!
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  did your wife run off and get pregnant?

  by oompa in

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  or is it just me?...ya...it was wicked hard to deal with and i will never be the same...we had two cute kids at the time, very young, and she was out knocking on doors with a 35 hour a month average....i was never spiritual enough and hated service....and felt there were too many meetings......she truly just disappeared one day...no note...i found her thousands of miles away, not even in the us....ya how is that for weird?.....can anybody top that?....i lost 20 pounds the first month and was already skinny.....i still care for her greatly, and know she was truly mentally ill at the time......cause you would have to be crazy to leave a guy like me!!!

  !.....lol.....that line has gotten me through a lot of tough times....she really was ill and on tons of meds.......oompa....this one should be on oprah.

  again.....can anybody top that?....step up to the plate....i could not find anyone to help me with that, as nobody had had that happen to them.

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  While we were both still active jw's, my now ex-husband left 10 days before our 5th baby (our oldest was 5 1/2 at the time) and moved in with a girl from his work. OUCH! He was not even there for her birth.

  That baby turned 15 yesterday.

  Funny story, kind of related. My grandma passed, and we went to the "memorial" on the weekend. My oldest daughter was sitting in the "family" section. Her grandmother (the mom of the ex mentioned above - still a JW) came up to her and asked her how she was related to the family...my daughter said, "uh...I'm YOUR granddaughter."
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  Is this girl on the bike Sarah Palin?

  by SixofNine in

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  tis the season for outdoor activities!

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  http://s4.photobucket.com/albums/y142/lonestarnot/?action=view&current=girlonbike.flv

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  I was watching that video...with an eerie sense that I'd been there before. It looked so familiar...then the scare!

  My 1st job was at Playland...I ran that ride...the swings...(the bumper cars and the music express)...

  Not good video!
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  Do we have any elders on here? "secret letter"

  by Muney in

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  recently my wife (pioneer) told me her friends father (who is an elder) told her about a "secret letter" that wont be read to the congregation and to be kept just to elders was sent out.

  apparently it had to do with the changes in the org and the "closeness of the end".

  anyone else hear of this letter?

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  My JW granny, died today around noon. She was born April, 1910. She's been a witness since the 30's. She so expected to see armaggeddon and be one of those who walks into the new system. Just last week she was telling my son to look out the window of the hospital and see the new system....it's just at the horizon.

  Gary Bussellman's words are so bizzarre for me today.......she wholeheartedly believed, she a part of the few left of the generation of 1914... died today. She was so sure that she'd see then end.

  Today, when I found out about her, I looked up to the sky, shed a tear, and wondered...is Grandma up there laughing...realizing she's been duped all these years, seeing her parents, husband and son who predeceased her...and then a part of me wonders, is she right, and just asleep awaiting the new system...or what/where/how happens after death???

  (((hugs, Grandma...I'll miss you.)))
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  Sask. JW church failed to report sexual abuse: Victims

  by Tatiana in

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  i don't know if this has been posted yet, but i just read this.

  edited for link... http://www.canada.com/topics/news/national/story.html?id=c9d1bb57-3db6-4c5d-81d1-6f70fd9f1b4d sask.

  church failed to report sexual abuse: victims .

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  Interestingly, one of my abusers came from Saskatoon, too. Just about a decade earlier, though. The M.O. is very similar. It was a JW friend who was the same age of myself' who probably inadvertenly introduced me to her father. The family befriended me, took me camping, gave me alcohol, treated me really nicely...

  His wife told me "it" was just part of a "therapeutic massage," something he'd evidently been trained in - yet here in BC he was doing business for Trim-Line." He had been a teacher in a high school in Saskatoon. I wondered why they'd left Saskatchwan with him being a teacher (my outright questions to this never really answered) to come to BC to put stickers on cars. It didn't make sense.

  Although I told the elders about everything that happened...in the end I always thougtht that I was disbelievied (3 different times - within 5 years!). I bared my soul to them, and nothing seemed to be done. You'd think that if things were done in a committee situation, they'd at least let the victim know the outcome of the meeting. This is not the case. You're left "out in the cold," with no other information, except to "wait on Jehovah." You think Jehovah sees all and knows all and will make things right...but that's not what happens.

  He died of a heart attack 10 years later...or I'd probably be in court today. This Cult deserves a demise that it forcasts for Babylon the Great. It, it my opinion, is a part of it!
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  Daryl Tucker commits suicide.

  by dogon in

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  i do not know if anyone knew daryl tucker of vanderbuilt, congergation in michigan.

  i just got word that his wife of 28 years left him and he shot himself.

  even though he was a witness he was one of the good ones.

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  (((hugs))) how traumatic for you and his family.
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  DC Drama 2008: A dream come true for the GB

  by outofthebox in

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  for years the gb has been creating these dramas for the conventions, trying to use the bible to provoke guilt trips and make the r/f obey, but none of those have the whole message they wanted to get across, meaning: "the perfect jw family".

  so, they decided to create this non-biblical account and voila!

  they have the perfect drama.

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  An interesting end...to the supposed perfect family...real life....

  1. A complete perfect JW family (no monoparental)

  I was raised 3rd generation, non-monoparental, in a JW family...

  1. A perfect teenager with no desire for comedy, fun or entertainment (basically a GB member in the body of a girl)

  Yup, that'd be me...and turning everybody, my brother, friends, anyone who wasn't following officially the "perfect" jw into the elders...

  1. A representation of themselves: The John Class!

  Yes, my grandmother, on her deathbead at 98 (almost 99) telling my son to listen to the witnesses (while shunning me), when I took him to see him to see her one last time (with me pleading with him to go see her...that it's not about him...it's about giving her closure...especially since she kept saying she was sure she was going to live to see armaggeddon, and survive into the new system ...this past weekend...

  1. A dead JW that went to another city to work. For the extra touch

  almost got killed (well, that's probably an overstatement...he ran a stop sign, nearly nailed me in the driver's side door of my car (i was turning left onto the street he missed the stop sign of), but a dump truck hit him first, and, (amost miraculously ) hit him out of my path by a mere foot to foot and a half...by someone I recognize as a JW today...bizarre really...

  1. A crazy apostate with all his bad qualities

  that''d be me.

  1. A sexual deviant wordly person that desire little girls

  that'd be my kids' grandfather, he has a baby with is daughter. Oh yes, he is a JW. (I was also molested by 2 JW's ... one an elder, one a "brother".) in the 80s

  1. A pefectly family that want to go and preach where is more need

  Yup, that'd be my family....

  1. A father with no desire to get more money

  Yup, a famiy, who could have a good retirement...but turned it down...to keep their "live's simple." This cult has taken so much from my parents/grandparents. They're so "faithful.." it makes me want to puke.
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  Did you ever go in field service after realizing it was not the truth?

  by Samuel Thorsen in

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  i did not, but i did fs when i had seriuos doubts and i thougt some householders had pretty good arguments some times, but i could not admit it of course.. and i did fs for a long time after i realized the magazines was very very poor.

  i still remember my very last hour from door to door.

  geee that was torture, i hatet myself and hoped no one was at home.. do you remember your last fs hour?

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  I quite honestly cannot remember my last day in field service...although I think it was round about the year 1999/2000.

  I feel embarrassed now to think that I spent 35 (well, maybe 30...some I was just an infant) years of my life preaching a lie. I feel horrible for having dragged my children out in FS and subjecting them to it. I'm glad I never brought anyone into it.
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  well, we had a baby...

  by drew sagan in

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  i've mentioned this to a few jwd friends but haven't posted it.

  on september 1, 2008 me and my wife (who posts here as 'amber rose') had a baby boy.

  just wanted to share!

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  Congratulations! He's a cutie!