I have known several people who had it done and all are thrilled with it. There is scarring, and you have to be prepared for it, but it isn't awful and a good surgeon will give you such a nice shape that the thin scar will not get in the way of anything. Biggest issues are possible loss of sensitivity(none of my friends have complained of that side effect) and breast feeding issues possibly. I have fed my kids both ways and they all survived and are happy, so don't let that deter you if the size of your breasts are an issue for you. The scar won't show unless you are a naturist or flasher:)Frankly, I don't think your husband should be disappointed with a C cup-thats still pretty generous! It is your body, and while I think a lot of decisions are marital ones, this is personal. He married you, I assume, not the breasts, so he will get over it. You might well have lost them with the weight and he would have had the same results, just saggier! He can be happy you will have professionally shaped breasts:) Or just happy that you are not plagued with back pain and shoulders scarred from permanent bra indentations. Or just plain happy that he has such a lovely wife (that is your pic?) who is healthy. Ah, he should just hush up already!:) Your insurance may even pay for it if you are that out of proportion and have lost the weight. Just go to your primary care doc and complain about the sore back/shoulder issues. Your losing weight should show that you have done all you can for the problem. They'll set you right up.
JWdaughter
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Anyone had a breast reduction?
by bluesapphire ini'm a short 5'2" latina.
i have this tiny frame.
i finally shed the 20 lbs.
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Oprah for President in '08. Why? Why not?
by AuldSoul ini have seen the idea floated a few times in some interesting places, but also on threads here.. i think she would get the vote out in a way it has never been gotten out before.
it would also throw all the pollster's margins of error way out of whack (which might be worth it, all by itself).. why do you think she should be or could be elected president?.
why do you think she shouldn't be or couldn't be elected president?.
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I think a black person could be nominated and win. I think a woman could. And a black woman. I do not think that Oprah would be elected, but many would vote for her and she would definitely mess up the pollsters predictions.
I think she would be very opposed, but if elected, she would have the power to do a lot of changing of the country. She is very smart, but political(in the sense of decision making for a nation) sense may not be her strength. She has a soft heart, and I don't think I would want anyone who has too much soft. Then again, if she was the best offer on the menu!! I like her.
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Spend how much for wives/girlfriends?
by greendawn inhow much should a man tolerate a girlfriend or wife that is very demanding on clothes/shoes and other articles such as perfumes, handbags etc?
is there a limit to what one should spend to keep them happy beyond which it becomes a case of them taking advantage?
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Most of my marriage I have been a stay home wife and/or relatively low paid worker. I don't DEMAND anything. I know our budget and because we are in a marriage, I respect what we have to spend on various things. I am not a clothes freak and a bit cheap to boot, so thats nice for my husband.
I do want him to remember special occasions with thoughtfulness(not $$$ness). He is still learning that one rose that is a color I love is far superior to a dozen of the color I loathe(hate red roses). Kind of slow there. I try to gift him with things he wants and needs(sometimes with his own money!) and I choose all of the kids things. He shops at 4:30 Christmas Eve. Then claims when it is the wrong size etc., that it is the thought that counts. IT IS TRUE. So think!
Sounds like someone wants more than YOU feel comfortable with, so that is an issue you need to deal with. When anyone wants more than you are happy to share, you need to examine whether it is your issue or theirs. Be honest. My sis and her husband spend a lot more on clothes and shoes than I would ever THINK of, but they are comfortable with that and in agreement about the way they wish to present themselves to the world. I got my first new coat in six years last year-last one purchased when pregnant with my (now)6.5 year old. Girlfriends-why would you buy a GF clothes? Jewelry, books, flowers, a trip-but clothes? I don't think GF should expect clothes, if you gift her with it, great, but that is not anything a guy should feel obligated to buy.
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UNDERGROUND RAILROAD (helping JWs see)
by apocalypse ini am an "active" jw.
i serve.
give talks.
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My mom is in. I am constantly re-evaluating where she is in the borg. We don't discuss it much. She is wary of me because she knows I have the goods on the org. She thinks 'most' of the teachings must be right(cause they have told her that for 60 years now), but she was very slow to be baptised and has been very sporadically active since I grew up and left the house. More so in the last 5 years since my dad died. Any further suggestions would be taken to heart. I know about how far I can go in a discussion. She has given me articles to read that are supposedly 'not' religious,like a recent article on gypsies, that obviously have a lot of JW propaganda in it. I am just waiting for the flyer or the renewed shunning due to a recent article I read. I was never baptised but I DID leave. And told them why the first time. The second time(I studied to make sure I had left for the right reasons in the first place) I just stopped going.
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NORM'S OPERATION!
by Dansk inour dear friend from norway, norman hovland, is to go into hospital tomorrow, thursday 18 october, for a small operation.
here's to norm - a real thorn in watchtower's side!
thinking of you always, mate!.
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NORM! Hope all goes well, don't get fat from the hospital food. Pester the nurses in whatever way seems most effective. Take care of yourself!!!
Shelly
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Are you really free from the Watchtower?
by yaddayadda inthe thread on how long it took you to get out of the organisation made me think.
i honestly think anyone that spends more than half an hour per day on anti-jw sites like this is, psychologically, not out of the organisation at all, despite their best protests.
the watchtower clearly still fascinates them to the point of an obsessive, compulsive need to frequently post on this website and others.
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JWdaughter
Every subject here is discussed ad nauseum. . .just depends on who is reading it and what kind of day they are having if they start or respond to it. :)
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Mere Children who are Disfellowshipped
by BabaYaga inthis was inspired by another thread, where freetosee told of a young witness baptised at the tender age of 9, and disfellowshipped at age 12!!!
the mind goes wild at what a 12-year-old should ever be disfellowshipped for.
how would a kid be so unrepentant they would deserve losing their family and friends?
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Sick sad religion to do that to people. Worse, the parents didn't protect their child from the actions of the org and inflicted WORSE ones upon them. Criminal.
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Not again!!!!
by mouthy inthe watchtower printed a book "worship the only true god" in 2002. the front cover is a water scene of the ocean and dark mountains in background.
nothing extremely special.
guess what ?
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Responsible citizens to cite, yes. I wonder how a JW (rank and file) would be treated if they used free things given out by the UN or the Navy. Like recruiting pens, a bag from a conference with UN logos on it(brought to the meeting/KH or something). They would be COUNSELED for such things.
As an aspiring writer, I would hope that they attribute responsibly at all times, but that hope would soon be disappointed-as noted in earlier posts. The WT org is full of hypocrisy and inflict it on their people regularly. THAT is what folks are taking offence at.
Shelly
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The double standards continue to amaze me.
by alienagent ini am so glad i found this place.
everyone is so supportive and kind!
thanks to all for your responses to my previous threads and i have taken much of your advice to heart.
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JWdaughter
Welcome to the board.
Have you asked your mom why your sister is accepted? And her BF allowed to live there? Does it occur to you that that may result in your moms expulsion from the cong.? (which would solve the mom problem, anyhow!)
I think whoever told you to just introduce your GF to your mom was right. Just warn the GF of reality (leave it open to your mom being decent) and do it. Then its on your mom, not you.
Good luck with everything. Congrats on your escape!
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Are you really free from the Watchtower?
by yaddayadda inthe thread on how long it took you to get out of the organisation made me think.
i honestly think anyone that spends more than half an hour per day on anti-jw sites like this is, psychologically, not out of the organisation at all, despite their best protests.
the watchtower clearly still fascinates them to the point of an obsessive, compulsive need to frequently post on this website and others.
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JWdaughter
I don't agree. I go through jags when I am having a hard time with my mom(frustration!) and need to be around others who understand-my sis never really was invested in the org, and my mom doesn't relate to her the same way as me-plus, my sister is long distance, and this site is free for me to visit! And after a while, I will get busy and distracted and wander off. . .but it is nice to know I can come back here for a booster of simpatico.
shelly