Posts by JWdaughter

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Grieving in JW Land

by cultBgone in

while experiencing a seemingly annual time of grief over the deaths of my sister and mom, a few other posters mentioned they experienced similar episodes linked to family deaths.

i've known some in my jw family who have this shared experience as well.. i know that grief as an emotion must be dealt with, that is, allowed to happen and be experienced, or we end up stuffing the emotions inside ourselves.

and any emotions we've stuffed and hidden will always try to get out in the body's normal course of healing itself.

JWdaughter

Hi, I'm sorry for your loss.

I think it is worse for JWs than just not being able to grieve properly. With my non JW dad dying, my mom just went into an alcoholic stupor for a few years. Everything she knew said that he died "knowing" the "truth" and rejected it. I also think a big part of the problem is that she doesn't truly "buy" it herself, but can't/wont articulate her issues out of loyalty to the organization

My mom and dad loved each other a lot. He put up with her being a JW and she put up with him rejecting it. I know she worries for him still cause her hope for the future conversations are always qualified by the fear of what will happen to him.I don't even know the official WT teaching on it, but I do know that death is something that weighs very heavy on my mom for every one of her family members, especially the her (JWish) brother.

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My Story

by objectivetruth in

i'm 30 years old, and i was raised in the organization, my parents and grandparents are witnesses.. i grew up in a small town, and due to boredom or adhd or rebellion, i never took 2 minutes to look into the religion.. i always went to meetings and field service.

my parents were regular, but never "super-witnesses" so it was always the thing we did (meetings and service) not much more and nothing less.. the congregation, that i grew up in was for the most part friendly and enjoyable.. small towns, are very unique and they cannot be compared to larger city congregations.. i honk that they are a living and breathing organism, depending on the coordinators personality, so goes the personality of the congregation.

thi king back, most of the people in the town that i grew up were good people, just simple hard working & honest people... i really long for the innocence, of the time when this was the truth, and there were no worries.. driving to the conventions at 3 am with my dad and another brother, them slicing meat, me sneaking around the halls of the college, getting into all kinds of things.. conventions were a really special time for me... when i was young me and my friends would run around, messing around, pulling pranks on people, getting into forbidden areas.. running in the hall ways.

JWdaughter

Ah, the good ole days. It wasn't all bad, just the religion part:)

Looking forward to hearing the rest when you have time!

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My daughter's wedding dilemma

by RULES & REGULATIONS in

my daughter will be getting married this coming august.

she and her future husband are not jehovah's witnesses.

they will have a non-religious wedding ceremony.

JWdaughter

So, your non JW daughter is inviting JW relatives and ex JW relatives and she is supposed to be a hall monitor? Or you are?

I would not own that at all. Figuring the numbers for the reception, only count half of the acceptances of the JWs (no sense in paying for the ones who walk out before eating) and realize that you are not responsible and should not be HELD responsible for this-however, if you will be DFd for this infraction(!) then you need to consider whether you will go to your own daughters wedding. Seriously, This is so whacked. Do you really want to even open the BOX to this game?

Dear Abby would say that you don't have to interphere at all. If they want to be idiots, that's on them. Hope they leave the present!

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How large is Societies legal department?

by puffthedragon in

i was just thinking about the wt attack on education and wondered where they would be without it.. does anyone know how large the legal department is at bethel?

is it larger than the writing department?

service department?

JWdaughter

As to the ethical issues that these lawyers should be concerned with; these are the same people that for years have told each other to turn in friends and associates that were JWs if they received medical treatment that indicated they had done something against the religion.In spite of LAWS that forbid it. This is the same group of folks that has consistently discouraged families from going to the authorities if their children were abused by someone within the organization.

Chilling? Not an issue for them,I'd say. Their ethical foundation is cracked from the start.

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How large is Societies legal department?

by puffthedragon in

i was just thinking about the wt attack on education and wondered where they would be without it.. does anyone know how large the legal department is at bethel?

is it larger than the writing department?

service department?

JWdaughter

They have to send Bethelites and known faithful(or trapped!) to law school because very few lawyers in practice would convert. NOT because lawyers are better or even smarter than people in general, but because they are trained to look for inconsistencies and contradictions. I honestly can't see how a lawyer with fully formed skills AS a lawyer would become a JW (which explains a lot of the nonsense from Rutherford, IMO, he was a hack).

I honestly don't know how someone with the gullibility of a 4 year old could convert in these modern day times when so much information is available about the WTS.

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OMG I'm so happy!!!!

by Julia Orwell in

jw
friends

yup, the apostate is happy.

i shouldn't be, right, because my life is empty without "jehovah" and the organisation.. but i just got a job at one of the best theme parks in the world, which is so what i want to do, and it's the first permanent job i've had since i lost my government job in 2012!.

the job pays minimum wage but i don't care because working in tourism and entertainment is what i want to do!

JWdaughter

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death and aging. . . i

by JWdaughter in

mortality sucks.

i dont know why this is such a revelatio to me.

i a. not confident to blame it o my jw upbringing.

JWdaughter

Mortality sucks. i dont know why this is such a revelatio to me. i a. not confident to blame it o my JW upbringing

i am going to die someday! i am nearly 50 and thst bit of feality has really been flirting with me the last few years. not obsessing but it doesnt feel real somehow-although flying in a plane giving birth and losing weighy seemed impossible at times. death happens and its gonna happen tp o me.

makes me curious. we have expectations about love ,sex, parenting,and .arriage that were pretty divorced from re(lity.

typing on a kindle socks too

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New to The Jehovahs Witness Faith and need some help

by jnjburkett in

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friends

hello there i am new to the faith and have been studying for about a month.

i am very excited and hungry for the truth and have not missed a meeting or study since the memorial.

we do about 2 bible studies a week.

JWdaughter

JNJBurkett,

I am sorry about your stepdad. You will find that the "options" and "choices" will end once you are a JW. You will find that they will be pushing WT ideas about blood, holidays, EVERYTHING on innocent people who happen to be riding in the same car, bus, train with them. Please don't allow them to start harping at someone going through dialysis. They are facing enough and do not need hear about the dangers of any medical treatments they may be getting or about how they are perhaps violating the WT law (Jehovah's) by accepting certain treatments.

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WT 2014 - 08 - 15 ..... but congregations are not required to do this.

by fastJehu in

you are older?

you have no pc or tablet?

you can't handle computers?.

JWdaughter

My 70 year old mom has a cell phone (hates texting) and uses the internet. She is a little anxious about printing, cut/paste and downloading, but she functions at a pretty good level for someone whose first home had an outhouse and a pump in the kitchen!

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I amnot JW. Could you help me about bible study?

by emre01 in

hi, iam not jehova witness could you help me about bible study?.

hamzasinan06 - skype id.

thanks.

JWdaughter

If you want to study the Bible,I would suggest that you first read it, and include a few Bible dictionaries, some books to enlighten you about the culture and background. Don't start with a cult denomination if you are just reading/learning it for the first time.

I don't know where you are from or your background, but if you are attracted to the WT idea of no trinity,trust me, they have an entirely different and weird take on the nature of Jesus than you might imagine. Please message me if you have any other questions.