So you are getting a teenager in your home. Don't know whether to congratulate you or commiserate with you! I hope you join together to become a little family quickly and find great joy. Bless you all-and good luck! Your fiance is awesome, thats a hard job raising a teenager!
JWdaughter
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"Birth" Announcement
by Abaddon ini am proud to announce the delivery of a bouncing 'baby' girl, 120 or so pounds and about 63 inches long, after an uneventful 11 hour drive.. in other words, i've "imported a daughter" (she's posted a little here under the handle abbadette).
she's sixteen now and has decided to come and live with her dad.
as this involves changing country, leaving her mum, brother, sister and friends behind, and going to school where she doesn't (yet) understand a word of the language it is (in my biased opinion) really rather brave.
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$$$$$$$$$$
by Outaservice ini'm curious.
has anyone been taken out of their parents and/or relatives 'will' because of leaving the jw's?.
outaservice
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JWdaughter
I don't think my mom would remove any of my non-jw siblings since my dad was the primary breadwinner and he was not a JW. I have a feeling he might have discussed it with her also when they prepared their wills. I am co-executor. I used to be the only one, but she lost some confidence in me, I guess.She has a sense of fairness, but she is showing early signs of Alzheimers and I am not sure what that might do to her decision making processes.
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raised in the truth?
by bluebeads ini was just wondering what constitutes as being brought up in the truth.
my mom was baptized when i was 7 and my dad got dunked when i was 11. right now i don't really consider myself as being fully raised in the truth because even though i've been going to meetings since i was 6 i just slept/doodled through them.
my mom didn't study with us kids and my dad didn't start the family study until i was 12. i'm turning 20 in a few weeks... i've known life before the truth and it was much bettter, everyone was soo much happier.
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JWdaughter
Oh, and the creepy elder? Rat him out.Tell your dad AND tell the other elders.
Elders have MAJOR authority in the congregation and must not be allowed to abuse it. You aren't the first he started that with, and unless you tell, you won't be the last.
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raised in the truth?
by bluebeads ini was just wondering what constitutes as being brought up in the truth.
my mom was baptized when i was 7 and my dad got dunked when i was 11. right now i don't really consider myself as being fully raised in the truth because even though i've been going to meetings since i was 6 i just slept/doodled through them.
my mom didn't study with us kids and my dad didn't start the family study until i was 12. i'm turning 20 in a few weeks... i've known life before the truth and it was much bettter, everyone was soo much happier.
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JWdaughter
I was raised by a mom who was baptised when I was 12 or so. Her mom let her go to the meetings with some lady who came door to door when my mom was a baby. My grandma had 6 kids, I think she let them go so she could get a break!. Anyway, my mom was always kind of a hanger on, went to meetings regularly, hates going door to door(SO not her gift of ministry!)had a hard time quitting smoking which is why she didn't join till she was in her mid 30's.
We celebrated holidays till I was 6 or 8.
She married a worldly man, but I went to meetings from the time I was a tiny child until I was 15.
I was acing the quiz by the time I was 11 or 12.
I believed ALL that crap until I was 13/14, but I still had some moments when I recognized that all was not right.
I lived through 1975, I remember it. Any any JW who tells you that it was all in the imagination of the members-they are full of it. I had my own perspective, I have heard discussions I wasn't supposed to, and I have had a very frank talk given to me by an elder (who I think may have been a subversive one in disguise, he was cool and very honest with us about HIS expectations as an elder and his own actions.
I auxiliary pioneered one summer (not officially, but I got the hours). I was raised by a JW mom who loved me and cared for me. I was NOT raised in the truth. Cause there is nothing truthful about it.
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I really want to do this..........but dont know if I should
by vitty inim really ,seriously considering having a tummy tuck next year.
i want to know if sometimes they dont work.
its a lot of money if you dont get the results you want.
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JWdaughter
Oh, and I would get a boob lift, but if I had the rest done, wouldn't mind if they were small. Or medium. Not sure what that would do, but just adding more doesn't seem like a hot idea.
Do it if you want to!!!! Then don't look back.
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I really want to do this..........but dont know if I should
by vitty inim really ,seriously considering having a tummy tuck next year.
i want to know if sometimes they dont work.
its a lot of money if you dont get the results you want.
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JWdaughter
I have known several people who had them after losing a great deal of weight and other than one issue, all have been happy. One man who had lost several hundred pounds had so much excess skin that he had what is called 'dog ears' . It was correctable, and still an improvement over a flap of tummy. Most of them were THRILLED and would do it again in a minute. A couple of them I met really soon after their surgery and they were still too sore to speak of it rationally. I have had 3 c-sections and abdominal surgery is really hard on some people. I didn't use hardly any pain meds for my 3 c-sections but I was a whiny baby over a laparoscopic hernia repair. Just depends on the person. Your tummy will look better though! If I had the money, I'd have it done. Over the last 8 years I lost 120 lbs and after the c sections I have some real issues. I don't crave riches generally, but enough money for that and some arm work would be really awesome! I could afford the arms, but with the tummy, whats the point? Shelly
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WHY I'M BECOMING A MUSLIM!
by Dansk ini came across an interesting site the other day and below is an extract from one of its web pages (does anyone know if the following is actually true as i've never read the quran?).
no wonder so many muslim men wear baggy trousers, it's to hide the erection they get when they look heavenwards!.
what i don't understand is what's in it for the women?
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JWdaughter
Poor women, eternal virginity with a guy who has the virility of 100 young men and only 72 wives. Who apparently have to lose their virginity constantly for eternity. My thighs ache thinking about it! And lets face it-with 72 women who are compelled to be with no one else and cannot refuse him, the men don't have to do much to make it nice for her-she's pretty much his rubber doll, huh?
And I am SO not a womens libber-I thought. EWWWwww.
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Your Drink (in pub, bar or club/restaurant/home)
by KW13 in.
i love carling 'extra cold' lager.. .
i am going to the pub tonight - whoo!
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JWdaughter
I am a lightweight, actually have horrible feelings after one sip(snakes crawling up my spine!) When I order anything to look like a grownup, I get a screwdriver(vodka/OJ). My whole family is alcoholic on my moms side and drinking makes me anxious. Which kind of defeats the purpose of drinking, right?
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Going through a tough time....
by Xandria infor those who remember me and those who care, i am going through a tough time.
who ever said make lemonade out of lemons life handed you... had it wrong.
tequila!
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JWdaughter
Its only stuff and money. There will always be more and things will calm down. That is not a platitude, it is just plain facts. Most of us have been there to some extent and know how frustrating, angrying, scary and gut twisting it is. But it will pass and things will improve. And if you need to decide to move, try to do it after the worst of the storm has passed, so you can decide if that is what you truly want to do, and then decide and go forward and don't look back-whatever you decide. A re-fi might be in order if you can't trust that mortgage holder. Whatever will make you happier in the long run is the main thing. My husband was out of work for 3 years. I am so sympathetic!!
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Going through a tough time....
by Xandria infor those who remember me and those who care, i am going through a tough time.
who ever said make lemonade out of lemons life handed you... had it wrong.
tequila!
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JWdaughter
Its only stuff and money. There will always be more and things will calm down. That is not a platitude, it is just plain facts. Most of us have been there to some extent and know how frustrating, angrying, scary and gut twisting it is. But it will pass and things will improve. And if you need to decide to move, try to do it after the worst of the storm has passed, so you can decide if that is what you truly want to do, and then decide and go forward and don't look back-whatever you decide. A re-fi might be in order if you can't trust that mortgage holder. Whatever will make you happier in the long run is the main thing. My husband was out of work for 3 years. I am so sympathetic!!