Smiles_Smiles

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  Did I do wrong on skeeping the "fading" stage?

  by flag in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  up to last month i was a witness in "good" standing in the cong.

  i was not from the elite circle but everybody respects me and a lot of people go to me for advice or comfort when they feel left out by "holy ones".

  so, i don't know if i made a mistake by cutting all jw activities at once because now i think i'm the topic of the conversation and phone calls already started to come this past weekend.

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  Flag I did the same thing. The last meeting I went to I actually gave a talk. I was always one that was considered to be exemplar.

  And the rumors started flying about 2 weeks later. Then elders started calling. I dodge allot of calls becasue I didn't want to talk to them and at the time I was afraid of stubbling them. Not for the sake of man but for what I had been conditioned to believe was for god. Anyway, after a while people just started leaving me alone. I decided to briefly say something to the 2 family members that were still in (my mom and sister). And I decided to say something to just a couple of friends.

  But for everyone else that eventually just quit pursuing me.

  With time everything blos over.
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  Are you a "loner"?

  by JH in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  do you like being alone most of the time?

  i don't know if it's due to the fact that i don't have many friends, but i get along fine all alone.

  just posting here i don't feel alone.. .

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  I got 40%.

  That sounds about right. Maybe in actuality closer to 50%
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  Marriage - Why bother?

  by Spectrum in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  yet another friend's marriage has broken down(5th), this one i did not predict at all.

  it came as a shock to me.

  they got married after 10 years of living together so it's not like they didn't know each other.

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  My ideal would be having an exclusive relationship (because my own nature at this point is monogamous) were we each live in our own individual residence. We are available and supportive of each other but there is no ownership nor obligations nor contracts.

  Is that impossible to have?
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  What do you believe now?

  by NowImFree in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have been out of the jws officially for over 3 years now, since disassociating.

  after researching the history of the organization and reading the bible (without) the watchtower, i am now a christian.

  i am just curious what happens to most ex-jws as far as their beliefs go, after they leave the organization.

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  hmmm ... I am not an 'ist', 'ian' or 'ic' of any kind. I have no use for religion at all however I do consider myself pretty spiritual. I relate more to the eastern way of thinking then the traditional western when it comes to spirituality. But when people try to organize religion around thoughts or beliefs that's when I am seriously turned off.
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  an infuriating email forward re. atheism..

  by GetBusyLiving in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i just got this forward from some creationist.

  it pissed me off so much i want to curl up and die.

  i feel so alone.

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  GBL - sorry you got so annoyed. Breathe and G-B-L.

  Tommy will grow up a confused little boy but as he becomes a man he will find his way just like the rest of us. I think we all have a BS meter inside of us ... we just have to get to the point in life where we listen to it.

  Besides ... who says one has to be right and another wrong. Can't both exist.
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  Bisexuality Quiz

  by JH in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  http://www.golivewire.com/forums/viewquiz.cgi?action=624

  you are 90% straight and 10% bisexual.. .

  out of the 1646 people who have taken this quiz, the average person is 40% bisexual.

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  Leolaia, I truly appreciate you openness and view on this. I find that to be so too.

  Just mildly annoying ... I guess as I get more de-programmed I find I am following love and not anatomy. But what's interesting is that physically that has still kept me on the hetero side of things.
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  HOW MANY OF YOU ARE AFRAID OF BEING ON THIS SITE?

  by juni in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have heard of this through pms.

  to each their own and i can understand the fear-factor - we are only human.

  what can they do to ya?

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  No, I am not afraid. However, I do understand the concept and why others are.

  But the bOrg has no hold on me, anymore. Once that was solidified then all their titles (apostate) and threats (DA, DF) have very little if any effect on me. All of that is thier issue not mine. It's a part of their reality ... not mine. Once I truly felt that then most all fear associated with JW's way of thinking/doing things melted. Now I feel .... 'the only thing to fear is fear itself.
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  Bisexuality Quiz

  by JH in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  http://www.golivewire.com/forums/viewquiz.cgi?action=624

  you are 90% straight and 10% bisexual.. .

  out of the 1646 people who have taken this quiz, the average person is 40% bisexual.

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  You are 50% Straight and 50% Bisexual.

  Now tell me something I don't know. :-)
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  What were/are your dating adventures like?

  by stillAwitness in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i try not to take dating too seriously at this point in my life.

  i'm only 22, still have so many things to figure out as far as my future goes and so i try to see every date i go on as simply an adventure.

  a journey that will bring me closer to whoever "mr. right may be.

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  Damnnnnnnn Spark!!

  Pass some of the good left overs this way. :-)

  I seem to always attract those 'hey babyyyy' guys. Is that really suppose to attract me?
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  Can a girl have short hair and be feminine? ( a tad bit fluffy)

  by Sparkplug in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  well, we all know it is possible, but when i have short hair, i never quite feel feminine.

  upon attempting to grow my hair out, i really hit a bad patch of nasty hair..so the other day, i examined my lifestyle, and obligations and really thought on it.

  .........so i wacked it all off.

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  Spark - you are gorgeous!

  Femininity comes from within. It's like sex appeal. No one can quite put their finger on it but can sense it a mile away.

  And if I am remembering you correctly (apostate feast?)... you got both!

  So sport that short do with a smile and your head held high!