last night in gabbly i asked why celbrate xmas.
the answer i got was, "because it's fun.
" can it really be that simple?.
Well I didn't read all the answers here but personally I think celebrating xmas is not a 'should' or a 'shouldn't' ... (like many other things JWs try to regulate).
You are FREE now to do it IF you WANT to. To whatever degree or extent you want to participate in it OR not. No Biggie.
But that's just my 2 cents ~ Smiles
this was my topic november 3rd;.
for the first time in my jw history, i turned in a slip with a big zero written in every column,.
turned it over and wrote "zero tracts" below that, i wrote "stumbled by the co".
I'm with the 'finally just left' comment.
Either just stop cold turkey with the meetings or go down to every other Sunday only for a couple of months or something like that.
It seems you have set the stage to just quit. Good for you!!! How much hassle you get will probably depend on the dilligence of the elders (ie. they may look u up at CO visits when they have to give a publisher report) and how many in the congregation will miss you (how much you were liked). Otherwise you are home free ... get busy living your life ... there is so much you can do with your new found freedom. The mental freedom may take a little longer to actually get but why not go ahead and enjoy your physical freedom.
Much luvvvv ~ Smiles
this was my topic november 3rd;.
for the first time in my jw history, i turned in a slip with a big zero written in every column,.
turned it over and wrote "zero tracts" below that, i wrote "stumbled by the co".
Oh ... ok ... sorry I didn't know the details. So how many meetings are you making right now?
this was my topic november 3rd;.
for the first time in my jw history, i turned in a slip with a big zero written in every column,.
turned it over and wrote "zero tracts" below that, i wrote "stumbled by the co".
As a successful quiter/fader (for going on 3 years) I would say ... if you are still an elder then turn in a slip with at least a minimul (is that a word?) amount of time. Once you step down and start missing meetings you can gradually start to stop turning in a slip at all.
As long as u are at the meetings and hold a position ... if u don't turn in a slip with a little time on it you are inviting harrassment. So it really just depends on if you want to leave un-noticed or with a bang. And THAT my frined is up to You.
just my 2 cents ~ Smiles
i havent posted here in a long time.
i have been disassociated for 2.5 years and am doing really really well.
it was rough at first but things leveled out and my daughter and i made it through.
My hearts goes out to you. There is nothing like when you really want to be accepted ... to be rejected by someone you love.
No advice ... just big bear hugs to you!!!
this is too good not to share.
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click here: how do you like it?.
HaHaHa!! I LMAO!!!!
.....being about to turn 30!
oh.my.god.i.feel.old..... january the 3rd if you're interested.
Your 30's are wayyyyyyyyyy better then your 20's!!
I'm 36 and it is just getting better and better!!
this is the first time i've been here.
i feel very guilty.
my whole life i've felt guilty.
Welcome weary!!!
As you have read no you are not the only one. I think we all felt that as we decided what was the most healthy next step for us individually.
Hang in there. Be patient with yourself as you move forward. And for goodness sack let go of other people's expectations of you.
Smiles
borat: cultural learnings of america for make benefit glorious nation of kazakhstan.
best freakin movie of the year in my opinion.
i laughed almost the whole entire 1.5hrs of playtime.
We smoked a little p*t then saw this movie. It was funny as sh*t and I usually don't like this type of humor much!!!
i know this might sound like a very unusual questions but i was recently talking to a ex-jw's girl at my school and she made a very good point that i had never thought of.
she said that christians and jw's try to impose "guilt and fear" in their members by constantly comparing what the apostles and early christians suffered such as "beheadings, nail to crosses, burned alive, thrown to lions" and all sorts of horrible things.
she said they never just encourage you to serve god and jesus without their being a hidden doom and gloom message.
I wouldn't go so far as to say they 'try' to impose guilt and fear but I do believe it is a by product of the 'basic' christian/jesus belief.
I think the whole 'sinner' and 'jesus died for sinners - redemption' doctrine shreds people's self esteem and promotes a 'less than' mentality.
But that's just my thoughts. It's definitly not absolute because not every one who believes in that stuff have those type of issues.
