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  Dallas Apostates!

  by cruzanheart in

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  hey, guys, today big tex and i had lunch with xjwms, who is in town for a few days.

  i have to work all weekend (i keep telling myself the overtime money will be worth it), but i thought if any of you were at a loose end friday night or saturday, you might want to meet up and show him the sights of dallas.

  this is only his second visit here and he didn't see much the first time.. if you want his cell phone number, pm me!.

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  Hey ... if any of yall get together for lunch this week let me know. I work in north Dallas. PM me and I'll meet yall.
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  Exaggerated Protection of Freedom - is there a such thing?

  by Smiles_Smiles in

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  i am wondering if this is a jw side effect.

  feel free to keep bitterness and bashing to yourself, please.. ok ... here goes ... i find that the feeling of being free after being in religious bondage for so long is so intoxicating that i have a hard time even committing relationship wise.

  that is committing in 'word' not deed.

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  I am wondering if this is a JW side effect. Feel free to keep bitterness and bashing to yourself, please.

  Ok ... here goes ... I find that the feeling of being free after being in religious bondage for so long is so intoxicating that I have a hard time even committing relationship wise. That is committing in 'word' not deed. Monogamy is 'my' nature so I have no problem being exclusive. I have a problem promising exclusivity. I even find myself avoiding moving forward with an engagment because it feels ... hmmm ... like I am giving over my freedom. I wonder is this the residual from being feed that overly submissive female bs for so long.

  Marriage to me seems like it's just a contract with the state not some sacred thing from 'god'. Besides most of them I saw in the 'truth' were unhappy at the core and just seemed 'stuck'. And the ones in the so called world don't seem much better. I feel you can be happy single or married but my perhaps warped view of freedom is somehow connected with singlehood. hmmm ... is this just MY insanity? Or can u relate?
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  What's the most ridiculous thing you were ever counselled on?

  by micheal in

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  one of the cornerstones of jw's is counsel.

  they just love to give counsel and many times they will literally make things up just for the sake of counsel.

  i was once counselled for joking around too much.

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  Too many rings on my fingers during a talk.
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  What to do when life starts over

  by destroyedbyhate in

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  have any of you ever thought that you would be with somone forever in a paradise earth?

  then you realize that it was all a bunch of lies.

  you slowly watch the marriage you had dissentgrate before your eyes.. you want desperately to fix it, but you are being pulled in too many directions.

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  For what it's worth .. it WILL be alright.

  Take things one day at a time. Allow yourself to dream bigger dreams. Don't be overly attached to what you think is suppose to make you happy. Live life each day and be open to different things making you happy day by day.

  And remember 'this too shall pass".
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  What religions did you seek since leaving? Or not?

  by dezpbem in

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  i'm curious how many people on the board have looked into other religions or spirituality groups since they've left the jw.. what have you looked into?

  did you join anything else?

  read up on any others?

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  It turned me on for quite a while. I even went to their seminar.

  But one never knows how much to expect from a man. Most r at least good for 'a minute'.

  Oops! Did I say that out loud?
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  What religions did you seek since leaving? Or not?

  by dezpbem in

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  i'm curious how many people on the board have looked into other religions or spirituality groups since they've left the jw.. what have you looked into?

  did you join anything else?

  read up on any others?

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  Hey Dez - if u r ever bored and want a mystical brain strip tease check out the movie "What the bleep". It just might turn u on for a minute.
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  What religions did you seek since leaving? Or not?

  by dezpbem in

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  i'm curious how many people on the board have looked into other religions or spirituality groups since they've left the jw.. what have you looked into?

  did you join anything else?

  read up on any others?

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  "Organized" religion totally turns me off.

  I don't study any Christian religions but I like being able to have the freedom to read and entertain the possibilities of all belief systems. So I read allot of mystical stuff and eastern philosophy/religious stuff. If I am flipping the channels and some preacher dude is on TV I may stop and watch him for a minute or two.

  But "joining" any one religion still feels like handing over my freedom to be enslaved. It also feels like 'the blind leading the blind'. I don't want no human telling me what I should or should not do or believe. I feel I am intelligent enough to figure that out personally with what I believe to be a Higher Power in my life.

  With that said I do honor the fact that people do feel like they want or need to be a part of a church. That's their journey and their choice.
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  Why do women do this???

  by dezpbem in

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  here's something that happens that i find strange with women, no offence.

  i was out with a female friend.

  we're just friends and nothing more but to anyone else who saw us we would have looked like a couple.

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  tehehee

  Yeah exactly, eh?
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  Why do women do this???

  by dezpbem in

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  here's something that happens that i find strange with women, no offence.

  i was out with a female friend.

  we're just friends and nothing more but to anyone else who saw us we would have looked like a couple.

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  Hey Dude, are u sure u want 2 'assume' on that one?
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  Why do women do this???

  by dezpbem in

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  here's something that happens that i find strange with women, no offence.

  i was out with a female friend.

  we're just friends and nothing more but to anyone else who saw us we would have looked like a couple.

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  I know some women who like to get with men who are married or taken. That way it can be a purely physical relationship with no strings or expectations.

  And then some feel an ego rush to take a person out of thier relationship.

  My question is - why did your friend (girl) get irritated if she truly has no interest in you other then a friend. When I am with my guy friends that are only friends - I help them get numbers from girls if they are interested in a certain one. Hmmmm....