Posts by lola28

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My SIL might be 'fishin'....?

by AK - Jeff in

my wife 'faded' during the same time i da'd myself.

we are absolutely both on the same page.. it is interesting [and on another level disturbing] that 'status' plays so heavily in the minds of jw's and their relationships.

as many others have related, my wife sometimes is engaged in conversations with jw's she meets in public, while all those same jw's will totally 'shun' me - sometimes in the same moment.

I’m dealing perfectly well with the fall out that came from joining the witnesses and the fall out that came about with leaving, as a young adult I had enough foresight to know what was going to happen when I left, that’s not to say that I liked it but I knew then like I know now that all my actions have consequences,

I have to ask Jeff, if these people are so horrible why are you so needy to have their “respect”? And by the way, respect works both ways, how dare you ask that they respect you when you show such contempt towards them?

Lola

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My SIL might be 'fishin'....?

by AK - Jeff in

my wife 'faded' during the same time i da'd myself.

we are absolutely both on the same page.. it is interesting [and on another level disturbing] that 'status' plays so heavily in the minds of jw's and their relationships.

as many others have related, my wife sometimes is engaged in conversations with jw's she meets in public, while all those same jw's will totally 'shun' me - sometimes in the same moment.

lola28

Hi Jeff,

I mean no disrespect with the following but I have to ask, when you disassociated yourself what did you think would happen? Did you expect witnesses to suddenly change to accommodate you? Dear, why be so angry when you made the choice to leave? And I assume it was an informed choice, no? You knew that DA’ing would bring about this reaction from people that you knew your whole life, you can’t blame them for sticking to what they feel is right. I’m not saying shunning is right, but I do understand where they are coming from. I think it’s time you man up and learn to deal with the fall out caused by your decision to leave.

Lola

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Hypothetically, If Someone Created a Fake Congregation to Trick Another...

by OnTheWayOut in

let's just stay hypothetical.

if someone wanted to create a fake congregation in 7-miles-from-nowhere, north dakota (7-m-f-n, n.d. congregation) in order to trick the elders at another congregation, what could they get away with?.

just assume that they use a p.o.

lola28

I think that your time would be better invested living your life rather than coming with silly plans that will never work. Dear jesus so much work in order to considered in good standing in an organization that you want nothing to do with? Have you nothing better to do?

Lola

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Some people don't teach their children manners. Grrr.

by FlyingHighNow in

jw
friends

i had an hour to kill before picking julian up at a birthday party, last friday.

so, i decided to go relax at the library.

"when i was a child, we gave up our chairs for adults.

lola28

Ah well eventually they will find some one else to bitch at

Lola

277

Some people don't teach their children manners. Grrr.

by FlyingHighNow in

jw
friends

i had an hour to kill before picking julian up at a birthday party, last friday.

so, i decided to go relax at the library.

"when i was a child, we gave up our chairs for adults.

lola28

FHN, ya think?

Lola

277

Some people don't teach their children manners. Grrr.

by FlyingHighNow in

jw
friends

i had an hour to kill before picking julian up at a birthday party, last friday.

so, i decided to go relax at the library.

"when i was a child, we gave up our chairs for adults.

lola28

Hi Spectre!

277

Some people don't teach their children manners. Grrr.

by FlyingHighNow in

jw
friends

i had an hour to kill before picking julian up at a birthday party, last friday.

so, i decided to go relax at the library.

"when i was a child, we gave up our chairs for adults.

lola28

Wow it looks like it's pick on FHN week

Lola

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How do you know when someone LOVES you?

by The Berean in

jw
friends

i suppose the english word "love" has many meanings according to individual needs and experience.

the questions are for me: if love is unilateral or an interactive relationship?

is unrequited love none-the-less rewarding?

lola28

It's a combintaion of things. It's knowing that they think about you when they are out and about becuase they come home with a gift for you. It's getting an e-mail that was sent at 5 am just telling you they love you. It's knowing that this person is willing to talk to you about things they don't share with anypne else. It's finding your best friend and knowing that for this person you want to be better.

Lola

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How has Life Been Going For You ? Wanna Talk about It ?

by flipper in

jw
friends

are you hanging in there with life and moving on- post witness ?

i'm sure most are staying busy with work- or staying busy looking for work with this economy.

are you moving on and enjoying life in your leisure time ?

lola28

Hiya Mr. Flipper~

Life so far is going really well. I'm madly in love with someone, work is ticking along, my family is doing well and last night my Lakers made it to the NBA Finals, wooooooooohoooo. I can't ask for much more, I have been fontunate to find friends that love me even when i'm a pain and a boyfriend that is one in a million, every morning I wake up and pinch myself because I can't believe my luck, thank god i don't bruise!

Lola

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Who here has just let the JW stuff go?. I NEED HELP GUYS!!!!!!!.................

by oompa in

jw
friends

....i am so frikkin obsessed about the jw lies and my newfound truths about them, and it is prob driving me crazy or causing depression.....if i wake up in the middle of the night, i never get back to sleep as my mind starts racing about jw crap and how it affects my marriage, and then how can i make this marriage work with her such a hardcore dub....i told my wife i now realize i am an abusive husband.....i must stop talking to her about the real truth!!

!..........it is killing her inside and we have had soooo many bad discussions that turn into arguments......on top of that she says she is now closer to jah and the org than at any other time in her life, that now that she has no positive direction from me, she relies totally on jehovah and prays to him more than ever..... we talked about separation, and that i was going to lose her over our religious differences........i feel so sorry for what i have put her through, and i know that if i can not really shut up with my ohsohelpful comments of truths about this truth she will leave me due to "spiritual endangerment".......and she said she is damm close to that happening.....i told her i knew it to and would so hate to lose her due to our religious differences.

at my recent shepherding call, they said to try and stop focusing on the negatives i have found in jw, and focus on the good things...and that is not a bad idea even if i never go back to meetings....there are good things about dubs....the efforts at ending racism and at least for me, some really good lifelong friends.......even their hope for the future was pretty good to me, even though it is a bunch of crap and i no longer believe the bible is gods word or inspired.....it does have some good suggestions for a happy life and ideas as to how to treat others........but so do just about every holy book of other faiths........ i had plans to start going to some meetings with my wife, but today, after a sleepless night i told her i just dont think i can do it, and just as she strongly believes it is the truth, i do not, and that i think the guys on the gb are not led by holy spirit cause if she will read the proclaimers book, she will see we have never gotten a single bible inerpretation of prophecy correct.......so she says "so what is there?

lola28

Babayaga, normally I would agree with you but not in this case, I think he needs to take a step back from everything and work on himself and his marriage, this obsession he has with all things JW is not good for him and spending time here is not healthy for him.

Lola