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  Jehovah's Witnesses: The Only People On Earth Who....

  by Honesty in

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  are footstep followers of jesus.

  so,,, how do they follow jesus?

  what does the evidence show about their claim as footstep followers of jesus?

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  ...have no IQ whatsoever.

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  Confrontation times 2, My lovely weekend ahead. Any thoughts .......

  by run dont walk in

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  well, my life is about to change over the next week, the anxiety is running high, and the adrenaline is going full blast, i hope i make it .... just a reminder of what has happened ... last summer my wife went to ontario and stayed with her sister, at the time me and her were not doing to well, and while she was there she screwed around on me, and her sister laughed about it.

  it's been 11 months, i've did the counselling, and i've tried to forgive her, but i'll tell you all something ...... "it just eats at you everyday, no matter how hard you try.".

  so i arrive on saturday, and day 1 will be taking care of this guy, i just hope i don't k--l him and spend the rest of my life in jail.

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  Does the guy even know about you?

  In any event, I'd refrain from doing anything that could get you in trouble with the law. No one is worth losing your freedom for, even for a single day. I've been to jail. It ain't worth it man.

  PM me if you're in Toronto and want to meet up for a beer.

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  How are your marriages fairing after leaving?

  by 24k in

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  just a little bit about myself before you answer:

  i was raised a jehovah's witness by my mother, who got "the truth" by studying with inlaws who were already members.

  my father had been disfellewshipped for joining the army a few years before i was born, and has nevered returned to the organization.

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  Finally-Free

  There was a bond beyond the Watchtower, that survives the watchtower.

  That's what's needed.

  Some of us allowed the organization to define 'who we are' rather than exploring that ourselves. The Watchtower encourages its members to "put kingdom interests first" in their lives, to make the religion the most important, if not the only, thing in one's life. So if a person's faith in the organization is lost they're sometimes left not really knowing themselves, or their spouses.

  It makes me wonder how many marital incompatabilities there are even in families where all are devout JWs.

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  CAR INSURANCE IS THE BIGGEST RIP OFF IN THE WORLD!!!

  by Mary in

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  i just really need to vent here.........i'm just so f**king tired of never having any extra money!!

  all's i do is work to pay god damn bills......i just checked the balance on my chequing acct.

  and i've got just under $900.00 to last me three weeks.

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  Finally-Free

  I've been driving for 31 years with no accidents or tickets for the last 21. Two years ago, when I separated from my wife, my insurance went from $132 per month to $161 per month just because my postal code changed, as I now live about 3 miles from my former address. Oh yeah, I don't have a second driver on the vehicle anymore either.

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  How are your marriages fairing after leaving?

  by 24k in

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  just a little bit about myself before you answer:

  i was raised a jehovah's witness by my mother, who got "the truth" by studying with inlaws who were already members.

  my father had been disfellewshipped for joining the army a few years before i was born, and has nevered returned to the organization.

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  I became a JW at 25, and married a pioneer a few years later. I DA'd after learning about the child abuse and UN scandals. My marriage of 16 years fell apart a few months later. It became obvious that we had very little in common outside of the watchtower.

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  shunning

  by jen_h in

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  i have been disfellowshipped for 7 years now, and the other day my mom says she is supposed to stop associating with me.

  i know i'm df'd, but i'm family.

  i am so upset by them.

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  Finally-Free

  This bears repeating:

  We blame the Watch Tower Publishing business and not the shunners. We give the shunners access to our homes, our spouses, our children, our cars, trucks, tools, bank accounts. We tell them we love them even as they shun us. We make it easy for them to shun and snub us.

  All too often we excuse these shunners because they're 'misled' by the Watchtower. But really, they are misled because they choose to give the Watchtower authority in their lives. They choose to obey the Watchtower even when their common sense tells them it's wrong. In my book, blaming their actions on Watchtower policies doesn't cut it. They have a brain, same as anyone else. They are the ones who should suffer the consequenses of their actions. Rather than fawning all over them when they give us our yearly phone call, perhaps we'd do better to give them a resounding FU*K YOU!!! when they call.

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  Ever had someone threaten to kill you, and mean it? Just happened to me.

  by wanderlustguy in

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  i just had it happen for the second time in 3 years, today.

  the first one wasn't that bad, because the guy didn't scare me.

  the one today...i think might really try.

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  We owe him money for work he did, but he hasn't given us a bill, which I requested.

  I won't pay someone without receiving a bill either. That's just common sense.

  I was threatened a few times, and someone tried it once. It didn't work.

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  Attn Unbeleiving Mates (ubm's): "I'm a dub! I'm right! Join or who cares!"

  by Check_Your_Premises in

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  a letter to my wife: .

  i just want to say a few things to you.

  i am writing to you since we just don't get to talk enough.

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  Finally-Free

  I found out there's no Witness alive I have ever met who will deal with the Witness culture on a rational level. They almost run out the door.

  Yes. After I left the JWs my spouse felt free to continue to spout JW propaganda at me, but every time I voiced my disagreement I was accused of attacking her, persecuting her, undermining her faith, etc. But I never once received a rational response to a rational question. And she found it difficult to have a relationship with a man who she knew was dead meat at armageddon, just because he doesn't like pedophiles.

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  Advice on how to put enmity between the snake (org) and the woman (wife)

  by Check_Your_Premises in

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  i have noticed that most become open to leaving the org when they have a bad experience with some member.

  the real kicker is when the elders treat them like crap over the incident.. i have thought alot about the possibility of engineering a situation whereby my jw spouse could feel the love of the organization.

  i know that might sound a little underhanded, but i figure it is no more underhanded then using mind control techniques and lies to harm my family.. so i basically have two marks.

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  Finally-Free

  One is a super sister pioneer who is always checking up on my wife when she doesn't meet her meeting/service requirements.

  This pioneer™ sister™ has undoubtedly been assigned to your wife by the elders. They call it their "pioneer™ assist others program". I was once assigned to assist™ some "weak ones". The pioneer™ doesn't give a shit about your wife. She's doing it because she's told to. She also counts her time and counts your wife as a "return visit". She also reports back to the elders about your wife's "progress". I hope your wife realizes this.

  As for the MS who has the hots for your wife, I wouldn't reccomend trying to precipitate anything. Too many uncontrollable variables.

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  A film about jw history - what would you call it?

  by dedpoet in

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  i f someone made a film about wt history, what do you think would be the best title?

  i 'd probably go for "pulp fiction", but someones already used that.

  a ny ideas?

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  Finally-Free

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