((((Renee)))))
I am so sorry for the loss of your Aunt. You have every right to be angry about the way the news was kept from you until it was too late for you to attend her funeral, and to be given this a a "reason"
I couldn’t take a chance on you showing up and the family would wonder how you found out.
She should be ashamed of herself, putting the opinion of a book publishing company pretending to be a religion ahead of what should be regarded as a family duty. In the circumstances, your reply shows a great deal of restraint.