Posts by GoingGoingGone

I'm mostly against home schooling. I know probably about 20 home schooled kids in this area, and all but 2 of them are disasterous examples. Kids who can't read - literally. Kids who have NO social skills. Kids who can't add to save their lives. It's appalling.

The two kids who are doing well, are doing very well. They are extremely bright kids, and the mother is 110% devoted to their home schooling. She has them enrolled in dance and music and gymnastics programs so they are with other kids their ages as well and can learn to interact.

That being said, I home schooled my son in 1st grade, because of relocation issues. He's very bright, and I had a structrued program to make sure we covered all the required material, but I found that he was almost impossible to motivate to do anything! He simply couldn't be bothered to learn to read or write.. for example. I was so glad to see his attitude do a complete about-face when he got into a classroom with other kids his age. He loved it. And now that he's in high school, he's getting an infinately better education than I could ever offer him at home.

I think home schooling has a place in certian circumstances, but in many areas, public schools are much better equipped to teach kids. That doesn't mean that parents should bow out of the process completely, but there should be good reasons for pulling a child out of school.

GGG

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Somebody Help!!

by RichieRich in

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93. god will destroy all non-jehovah's witnesses at armageddon.

-in conversation jws call watchtower headquarters "the society".

2. watchtower study.

GoingGoingGone

Richie,

I can't reply in depth right now, but look here http://www.watchtower.cc/

There are a ton of good quotes from WTs, sorted by subject.

Good luck!!

GGG

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Grandma passed away this morning

by OnTheWayOut in

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many of you read my thread about a jw in the family not visiting his parents or telling family.

how to contact him.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/128234/1.ashx.

GoingGoingGone

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your grandma sounds like she was a wonderful person.

GGG

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GUMBERS NEEDS YOUR ADVISE.......

by Mary in

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i got a pm from gumby this morning.

as i predicted, he's being love-bombed by the congregation and invited out everywhere.

part of this is because he was very popular before and is a very likeable guy, but part of it is to try and suck him back in so thoroughly, he'll never be able to escape.

GoingGoingGone

I can empathize. I had some really good friends in the congregation, and when I started fading, they all called, sent cards, asked about me all the time when my family went to meetings, etc.

They would show up at the house to 'encourage' me, and I really missed them. I was invited to get-togethers, and it was sooo hard after going, because I would have a really good time and it would impress on me how much I really did miss my friends. I wondered if I could really go through with this fade and be so all alone.

So I quit going to get-togethers, until a couple of weeks ago when we were invited to a good friend's with lots of others.... People literally blocked the door to hug me 'hello' as I came in. I still have almost no real-live non-JW friends, and I MISS my old friends. It was really hard.

If Gumby can manage to, I'd suggest staying away from the get-togethers. Say his back bothers him, he's tired, he's overwhelmed with work, whatever he has to. Love-bombing works, that's why they do it.... if he wants to avoid being sucked back in, he needs to limit contact if he can.

GOOD LUCK GUMBY!!!

GGG

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Anybody have a three year old??? HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!

by mama1119 in

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i have a 3 year old girl, and she is wild... she has recently started completley disobeying, talking back, slamming doors, spitting at me etc.

it is getting miserable to go anywhere because she throws fits, runs around resturants screaming.

at dance class, her teacher had to send her off the floor because she was the only kid running around and woud not listen.

GoingGoingGone

I think that when a new baby comes into a 2 or 3 year old's life, it's such an upheaval in their world that they go ballistic. Showing them love and giving them attention are good, but they need the security of knowing that the same rules apply that have always applied. (One reason why they'll behave at Grandma's house and not at home.. nothing's changed at Grandma's.)

When my son was about 2 and a half, we moved from the only house he'd ever known... He kept saying that he wanted to go home. Then he started with the tantrums. I felt bad for him, so I went easy on him for a while, until I understood what was happening with him, really. The next time he had a tantrum, I stopped in my tracks and looked at him in my best stern/shocked look and said that that behavior would NOT be tolerated!!! He straightened himself out immediately... and I had no more problems.

If you didn't allow tantrums before but are allowing them now, your 3 year old might feel insecure in addition to whatever else she's feeling. Let her know that the same rules apply.

Don't know if this will work for you, but good luck!

GGG

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I suppose I should stop lurking,

by SacrificialLoon in

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and introduce myself.

i was raised in "the truth", and for the longest time it was all i knew.

i spent my childhood going through all the things that other witness children went through; not celebrating holidays, not standing up and reciting the pledge of allegiance, not going to school events, or associating with "worldly" children much.

GoingGoingGone

Welcome SacrificialLoon!

Nice to have you here!

GGG

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Please say hello to my wife.

by nicolaou in

i've been posting here for quite a long time, so long in fact that it just doesn't feel right that my wife isn't a part of it.

earlier today i created an account for her with the username heron, she'll know why.

i'm not sure if my wife will ever post here but i would feel much more comfortable knowing she is aware that i do.. this is the one post i am going to ask her to read.. so, i'd really appreciate it if you could say hello to my lovely wife.

GoingGoingGone

Hi Heron! Welcome to JWD!

I was raised a JW, pioneered straight out of high school, married a JW, and had two kids... My husband is still very active, he's an elder, but my kids have decided not to be JWs once they are grown. I hope with all my heart that's the case... They know it's not 'the truth', and the only reason they'd stay is for friends and family.

I come here a lot, for moral support and to know that I'm not alone. This place makes me laugh, feel 'normal' again, and is free therapy! My kids think I'm obsessed, but for a long time, JWD was what kept me sane (although my sanity is debatable at times.. LOL!)

It's nice to have you here, Heron!

GGG