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  Mrs. ITIS/FreedomLover - How I "saw the light!" ha ha ha

  by freedomlover in

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  okay, first thank you to the greastest degree for the warm welcome and insight you all have given itis and me since i've started visiting your very apostate site.

  my life as a jw.

  it starts with my maternal grandmother.

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  GoingGoingGone

  I honestly think I would never have left the JW's if my husband didn't basically give me an ultimatum to decide once and for if we were going to do this religion thing or not. It made me finally really sit down and look at the issues that bothered me my whole life.

  That's very interesting...... I'm so afraid to give my husband an ultimatum. I tiptoe around the issues (not that our marriage is bad, though). I have thought that dropping hints about things or 'planting seeds' is the way to go.... Hmmmmm.... maybe not, then?

  Could it possibly be that men do these things because that's what would be effective for them, as men? But for women, it's just annoying? I'm so confused!!

  Thanks so much, freedomlover, for the inside information! It's so great to hear your story!

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  How many of you shunned others when you were a JW?

  by Lady Lee in

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  i know i did.. we had a young fellow who used to live at my grandmother's place.

  in may ways he was like family.

  after he moved out of my grandmother's place i saw him frequently.

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  I shunned anyone who was df'd... even close family members and good friends. I felt horrible about doing it, but I truly believed that I had to do everything 'right': If I was a JW and they taught that shunning df'd people was what you had to do, then that's what I had to do.

  I'm not df'd now, but if I am one day I will understand if JWs feel they have to shun me. I won't like it, but I'll understand.

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  Did you read ..........THAT........book...............

  by vitty in

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  .............. coc, of course.

  when you were still in the org, or when you had already left.. i read it when i was still in and it had a profound effect on me.. lets take a poll .

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  GoingGoingGone

  I had had doubts for years and years, but I never even considered looking at an 'apostate' website or reading anything even mildly anti-JW. When I finally got up the courage to read stuff online, I was already completely out of the WT in my mind. CoC was the first book I read after that. It confirmed what I was already sure of, that the WT is not what it claims to be.

  Great book!

  GGG
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  When you were an active witness..........

  by gringojj in

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  did you ever feel bad for your kids that they couldnt celebrate holidays, birthdays, salute the flag, etc.

  i am sure looking back now it must hurt somewhat and maybe you feel bad, but did you ever feel bad when you believd it was the true religion?

  i am just curious.

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  GoingGoingGone

  I grew up in a witness home, and felt so isolated not celebrating the holidays, but I truly believed that I was serving Jehovah by not doing it, and I would give my entire little presentation of why it was wrong if anyone asked. I felt like a real loser, though... very alone.

  By the time I had kids myself, we were the 'perfect' JW family, and of course we didn't celebrate holidays, but I felt so bad for my kids. I absolutely hated knowing that they had to feel different and strange and know that all their school friends thought they were weird. I really started reading up on the holidays then, and became more and more convinced that the WTS got this one wrong, too....

  I sent my first birthday card a few months ago... ... and my daughter and I bought a gift for her friend who had a birthday last month... . It feels so good to do something nice for someone on their special day!

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  Reverse Shunning

  by JV in

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  has anybody launched a preemptive strike so to say on the witnesses and shunned them before they shunned you?

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  GoingGoingGone

  Not yet, but I have a few people in mind that I wouldn't mind trying that on

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  My Dad Just Called

  by horrible life in

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  my ex-elder dad and mom, just called.

  (speaker phone) dad wished me a happy birthday.

  omg what is up with this???

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  GoingGoingGone

  And why does it bother me?????

  Maybe you're sort of wondering what he's up to... like if he has an alterior motive? I feel that way with my mother...

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  Feeling sooo isolated.....

  by Michelle5480 in

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  hello to all, i was raised pretty much as a jw and became one of the super goodie two shoes type, you know......didnt even swear when i was alone.. im now disfellowshipped and since i followed the guideline of not having friends outside the organization i now find myself completely alone, my friends are all jw's and none of them can talk to me.

  so now i feel lost....on another planet almost .

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  GoingGoingGone

  Michelle -

  Welcome!! I was the no-friends-outside-the-org. type, too, and I'm in the same situation... I have no friends who are not JWs. The people here are great, so stick around!

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  Introducing myself proper-like

  by Sheepish in

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  i guess i should do this in some beginning way, i am new here and still learning my way around the site.. i was raised in a divided household, and my mom taught us in secret.

  when my dad found out the insuing religious wars pretty much marked me for life.

  but i was imprinted with the wt.

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  GoingGoingGone

  Welcome!!

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  Are some Ex-JW better then others?

  by Kaylen in

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  i was raised a witness but never baptised and left when i was 17 causing my father (among other reasons) to be "demoted"?

  from being a ministerial servant.

  for a very very long time i didn't talk about it and only recently started getting involved in the local ex-jw meet ups.

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  GoingGoingGone

  Kaylen - WELCOME!!

  mrsjg - WELCOME!!

  Anyone who has had any close contact with the WTS for any length of time will have their lives affected one way or another, imho. Especially if one has grown up in a JW home, as childhood experiences tend to form our personalities to a certian extent. Dealing with a loved one who is 'trapped' has it's own set of problems, too.

  On this board, you will find understanding people in just about every WT situation imaginable. Hang out here a while and vent, you'll get lots of great advice and lots of laughs, too...!

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  ~*~*~*~Horrible Life! Its your Birthday~*~*~*~

  by misspeaches in

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  to dear horrible life.

  jwd's ever reliable birthday greeter!.

  here is wishing you a splendid birthday.

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  GoingGoingGone

  Oh, yum.. Ice cream is my weakness....

  I missed this thread.... So HAPPY BIRTHDAY HL!!

  GGG