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  Check These Hotties! The 2006 Governing Body Calendar!

  by Ingenuous in

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  Now talking to me is okay? Who is sticking to the "law" here?

  by coolhandluke in

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  2. experiences

  i was at work yesterday when i got a call on my mobile phone.

  my mothers ringer is darth vader's march.

  the pit of my stomach ached.

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  I was audibly shaken, surprised, awed at what I perceived as audacity. My mother in her loyalty severed ties from me. It was her belief that hearing my voice, knowing that I was out here “hurting” myself and allowing others to hurt me was too much to bear. Out of sight, out of mind, free of immediate pain, I imagine.

  I can imagine, too. It feels like salt in a wound when they "deign" to talk to you and act as if nothing has happened, as if you haven't been terribly torn and hurt, as if it's all about them and their feelings since your feelings don't exist in any form recognizable to them.

  It sounds like a good idea to take it slow, to be "peaceable as far as it depends upon you" and see what happens - if you feel you can deal with this right now. Will there be rules about who calls whom and when? How will you feel after your monthly call? How will you feel waiting for your monthly call? It may be a good idea to get some specifics from her about exactly what type of contact she wants and how she feels it should be carried out so you know exactly what you're dealing with.
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  Is this swearing, to a JW?

  by wordlywife in

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  saying "jesus" or "judas priest", as when watching a football game and a call or play is bad?

  my jw husband does this frequently.. .

  would this be considered swearing by the average witness?.

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  Most certainly, by the average JW. Also frowned upon are "Jeez," "Gosh," "Golly" and other "substitute" curses.

  When I was "in" however, I used to talk to JWs from across the country when I was online and those I met from California swore - a lot. Whenever I would mention it, they'd say that in CA, it was commonplace and wasn't considered vulgar. I don't know if that applied throughout the state or just in particular congregations.
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  Family tragedy.........HappyDad

  by HappyDad in

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  2. family

  got a phone call from my daughter who lives in florida a couple of hours ago.

  her significant other who i chose to call my son-in-law (because he is the best thing to ever happen to her) got a phone call that his 6 year old daughter was killed in an auto accident near lake placid, florida and his 5 year old son is in very critical condition.

  the ex wife is also critical.

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  You are in my prayers.

  I wish you and your family

  PeaceBlessingsStrength
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  The 3rd return visit.............

  by vitty in

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  this got me thinking when i read another post "not knocking".

  we could count the 3rd and subsequent return visits, a bible study, if you read a scripture.

  these were called door stop studies.

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  I knew about the "3rd return visit" rule, but never thought a study could be less than 15 minutes (at least initially). Man, I missed out on so many possible studies - I could have gotten in some serious time with "letter writing" studies too!
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  Got a letter from my parents...

  by Krystal in

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  2. experiences

  well, yesterday evening was a little too emotional for my liking... .

  i got home to find an envelope in my mailbox from my mom and dad... (i was df'ed 4 years ago and haven't spoken to them since) .

  my sister's wedding announcement...she got married earlier this month.

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  I feel for you, Krystal.

  It seems your folks are trying to balance their loyalty to the Org (by preventing you from going to the wedding, limiting contact by including news of your grandmother's illness with the wedding announcement) with maintaining some sort of contact with you on "essentials." It has to cut deep, and I expect to start experiencing much the same with my family, too. I hope you find the time and support you need to cope.
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  Have You Witnessed To JW's With Postcards?

  by Honesty in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  someone mentioned that since postcards are so quickly read information can be processed by the jw mind before they realise it is from a source that is not pro jw.

  have any of you here had any experience sending postcards containing delightful words of truth about the troof?.

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  Given how tense things are between me and my folks, someone at work suggested I buy a bunch of pre-stamped postcards from the post office and send one a day to my parents. That way, I get to deal with the "you're not initiating contact with us so you must hate us" situation without getting a guilt trip over the phone when I hear how pained my mother is to hear my voice.

  Somehow, I think they'd resent postcards more.
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  Car scam over the internet... how shall I screw with him?

  by Elsewhere in

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  i am still looking around at cars to buy, hopefully i will buy some time around december or january.

  about a month ago i posted about an internet scam where people over-seas try to get people in america to pay for cars that will be shipped to them from another country.. i have reported this scam to yahoo!

  autos and to the internet fraud complaint center (www.ifccfbi.gov) but never heard from either and since then i have seen a substantial increase in the number of scams appearing in the yahoo!

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  Elsewhere -

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  Baby Megan has arrived!!!

  by Lady Lee in

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  2. friends

  to a beautiful round-faced angel named megan.. .

  born at a few minutes before 5:00 pm and weighing in at a light 8 lb 10 oz.

  and i say light because her brother last year weighed in at 9 lb 10 oz.. .

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  Congrats Lee and Welcome Megan!
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  Why No Knocking ???

  by Jeannine in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my husband and i are not jw's.

  my husband sympathizes with the religion because his entire family is "in".

  as a result, he has come to know a local jw (non-relative).

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  I'd only do that if I was afraid to talk to the householder and/or afraid to get a "No thanks." Leaving material without knocking would allow me to avoid dealing with the householder yet count the time/placements. The underlining is weird, but, again, it would allow me to make a point without actually having to deal with anyone and a possible refusal. It seems he hopes that your husband will be impressed by the highlighted ideas and ask him for a study/discussion.