I understand the feeling and I think once you have been a smoker you fall back a few/many times in your life. I know for me life tragedies tend to send me to smoke and for some reason I often cheat during my period(sometimes with the pain i think that is a life tradegy). I let myself have these little falls and then make sure I quit immediatly after. I just remember I used to smoke a pack a day and now I do far better than that. I also started exercising when I quit. I know I feel yucky when I exercise after smoking this motivates me to get right back in line after a fall. Overall, I remind myself over and over again I am only human, mistakes do happen and just do the best I can. I had this attitude before I was involved with the Witnesses and then they took that away. I got sick from the pressure of trying to be little miss perfect all time and keeping up with other people. Now I don't try to keep up with the Jones(in anyway). I just do what I can do, except the grace that faith in God through Christ has given me and do the best I can. Forgiving starts with yourself. You will quit again when you are ready. I think your husband will understand.
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Closet Smokers????
by Life Is Grand inis anyone out there a closet smoker?
you know-sneaking one here and there...... i smoked from the time i was in my late teens-tried to quit the odd time with no luck.
finally in january of 2005 with the help of zyban, i kicked the habit.....all was good.
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Talk Prayer
by under_believer insomeone posted something in another thread about how prayer is often used to summarize the content of the meeting.
this is absolutely true and is something that always has really bothered me about witness meetings.
jws often use the opening or closing prayer to "teach" the congregation.
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FreeFromWTBS
It bothered me when they wouldn't ask for the Father to overrule anything that was said in error showing true lack of humility
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First Century Governing Body
by drew sagan ini wanted to gather togeather some information regarding the 'first century governing body' theory.
what info do you guys have handy?
thanks
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The only arrangement in the Church was for elders/minsters(or whatever you want to translate them to) and they were there to upbuild and serve - not to dominate and rule. Think about the time period, the travel available. There were not any jets or fed fex. Paul stopped by a couple times and that was it. These congregation were on their own.
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HELP!! ** Do you have a stop smoking strategy??**
by brutusmaximus inok, ok, i know it's bad for you and it uses up your cash but i need to stop but i quite like it.
i should never have started (heard that before) but hey ho what's done is done.. did you have a puff and if so did you manage to quit?
any ideas/suggestions warmly received.
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FreeFromWTBS
THe gum is easy thing to transition to but then you have to get off the gum which can take a while but is better for you than smoking
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Today's the day for the lord's witneses
by bob1999 insometime between sundown today and sundown saturday the u.n. building in nyc will be attacked with a nuke.
it's a 85% certainty!
i guess that means it a 15% certainty that it won't happen.
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They don't use the word Church so they can cover up bible truths
Heb 12:23 : tells us the general assembly(great crowd) are in heaven with the Church(Little Flock) and the Ancient worthies are on the earth and Christ is calling to mankind(millenium picture)
THe Church is the 144,000, the only place for Christians to run in this age is for one of those slots. There is not an earthly call until after this age ends. The ones that run and are not overcomers will be part of the great crowd but this is a heavenly class not an earthly class.
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The great pyramid
by OneLord inmost people would consider it very wacky to connect the pyramid of gizah with the bible.
russell's claim was that the pyramid, the 1.st wonder of the world, was a witness down the ages containing god's plan.
the teachings and ideas on this seem to be so complex, that few people would spend / waste the time required to study these things.
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You can look at the two groups today Jehovah Witness who followed Rutherford or the Bible Students that followed Russell. The Bible Students are small but don't have the problems witnesses do. Women are not left in abusive relationship, child abuse is not covered up. They do have an organization or a fortune to protect. They operate in small groups believe all will be offered a fair and full chance at salvation during Christ's reign. Plus, pretty much all Bible Student groups do straight Bible Studies chapter by chapter besides reading the volumnes. They openly use concordance and literal bibles. The Elder body is elected every year by the members so there is less of a chance of corruption. All decisions are made by a vote of members not just whether its ok to purchase a new microphone. There is no secret funds all spending is laid out in detailed and given to each member. They don't throw someone out for disagree on a prophetic point or for disagreeing with Russell. They don't cover up his mistakes.
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I've been invited to the most boring Bday party ever (Fluff)
by Es inone of my hubby's work mates are having a combined party for there bday (hubby and wife), they are nerdy programmers heheh, nice enuf people but not ones that i would chose to associate with.. anyway this is the party for the guys they are to bring there computers for a lan, or boardgames and card games, and for us lucky women activites include watching girly movies, knitting, facials and painting nails.
no jokes thats how the invite reads...... i am so not looking forward to it at all, its like 4 hours of my life im never going to get back.
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take it as a chance to learn to knit or crochet. I started to crochet after my little Watchtower breakdown. My therapist said I needed to pick up an activity that was therapeutic. Now I really enjoy it. I only do a little each normal week but when something tragic happens and leaves you sitting in hospital waiting rooms all day it is a lifesavor. While everyone else is pacing and not knowing what to do with themselves, you can stay relatively calm.
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"Will I be Saved"?
by Warlock inwhen i was about 12 years old, i used to see a religious show on sunday mornings called "amazing prophecies".
what the ministers name was, i don't remember.
at the end of the show, he asked those who wanted to be saved and have jesus come into their heart, to pray along with him, so i prayed along with him, because i wanted to be saved.. about 13 years later, i become a j.w.
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FreeFromWTBS
Yes, you will be saved according to the bible. The call is currently only for the little flock. All others will have their lips purified and live on the earth. They will have the entire millenium to straighten out their salvation and only the truly vial(which I am sure you are not) will be put permanently to sleep. Zep 3:9 occurs directly after Armeggedon which is the bring down of systems for the purpose of gathering the people not to destroy them.
Zep 3:9
"For then I will give to the peoples purified lips, That all of them may call on the name of the LORD, To serve Him shoulder to shoulder.
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do other religions shun?
by aoxo ini was wondering if other religions like catholics or baptists shun ex members like the jw's are supposed to shun their ex members.
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FreeFromWTBS
Shunning for a punishment is limited to 6 weeks for the Amish. If the person wants to leave the faith all together then they will be shunned until they return to the Church. Although, in books that I have read there are degrees generally set when someone leaves so there maybe some contact(letters etc).
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How many themes are covered in the WT articles?
by Check_Your_Premises ini love data.
especially in charts.
i can visually "see" things that i just can't by relying on memory and current perceptions.. i thought an interesting peice of data to track over time is the "type" of articles published by the wt.
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Demonism/Superstition