Posts by Lo-ru-hamah

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A little advice?

by Lo-ru-hamah in

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i would like some advice from any that are willing to offer it.. we have a neighbor that we have been developing a friendship with her and her husband.

my son likes to play with her boys of the same age as well.

she has four kids and they run all over her.

Lo-ru-hamah

I would like some advice from any that are willing to offer it.

We have a neighbor that we have been developing a friendship with her and her husband. My son likes to play with her boys of the same age as well. She has four kids and they run all over her. They seem to be pretty nice kids on the whole but they cry a lot and throw temper tantrums and are very unappreciative (what kid isn't). Anyway, she has complained a bit about the problems to me. The other night her and I took the kids to the movies and all three of her kids threw some kind of fit at least once. This isn't the first time I have seen them act that way. Well, this evening she was speaking to me about it and I might have overstepped my bounds, I told her that her kids abused her and ran all over her and that I felt really sorry for her. I told her that I thought that she was a great parent and that the kids were great kids but that they seemed to really treat her bad. Also, told her that my mom had four kids and when I see the way her kids treat her it makes me want to call my mom and apologize.

Well, now I feel like I said too much and wish that I could just listen and not offer advice. It isn't like I have a ton of experience, we have one five year old. Do you think that I said too much and that I could have offended her? What should I say in the future that would be kind and friendly but not overstepping boundaries?

Any advise would be welcome. Friends are hard to come by, don't really want to loose the few I have by my stupid mouth.

Sheri

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Hello America I'm Back!!

by Wordly Andre in

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as many of you know i went to south america (ecuador) for my vacation, and to meet some of my wife's family and friends, so i will write a bit about what happend.

first, this was not a typical relaxing vacation with laying out on the beach and drinking cocktails, our first day we took a 3 hour car ride outside the capitol to a area that we hike to see huge waterfall, along the way we toured some volcanos, now quito, ecuador is in some parts as high up as 9,600 ft high, and in that high elevation, a sea level guy like me had some problems, stomach aches, headaches, body aches, and shortness of breath, but i did fine.

after a few days of visiting volcanos, and other historical points of interest, my wife's best friend's husband has a cousin who is a captain in the ecuadorian air force, i was told that we were going to visit him because he is stationed in a town at the gateway to the amazon, so we took a nearly 5 hour car ride into the amazon, along the way stopping at some more volcanos, and little shops to buy shrunken heads.

Lo-ru-hamah

Worldy Andre,

I am so jealous. Absolutely love Ecuador. Lived in Loja for 6 months a while back. My dad owns part of a tour boat in the Galapagos. He goes out there about once a year to spend a week or so on the boat. It is really a beautiful country. Sounds like you had a great time hope you left the rest of the stomach problems there and have come home feeling great.

Sheri

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Why do I feel like I'm losing my wife to this website?

by sarabi in

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i'm a jw in good standing and she is too.

she has had a lot of questions.

now, i feel like there is a division between us.

Lo-ru-hamah

People are saying that the faithful slave are false prophets. If that is true, then based upon Mark 3:22-30 with the illustration that Jesus gave us, then this religion will not be able to stand but is coming to an end. Also, in verse 29, whoever blasphemes against the holy spirit has no forgiveness forever, but is guilty of everlasting sin. This because they were saying he has an unclean spirit. Is the society working off an unclean spirit? If so, then why does anybody here have to worry? Jehovah will correct it and make his congregation clean.

Do you feel that the Catholic Church is full of false prophets? The Catholic Church is the oldest Christian religion in existence, it has more members than any other Christian religion. If you believe that the Catholic Church is a false prophet, why then is it still standing when Mark 3:22-30 illustrates that it should be at an end (hundreds of years ago). Please don't forget that the Catholic Church put together the inspired word of God, the cannon that you now accept as Gods Holy Spirit inspired word, at the council of Nicea. Yet, you don't believe they are the true religion and they prosper. If they were ever inspired, which they would of had to been because they put together the bible that you consider inspired by Gods direction, maybe, Jehovah is trying to make that congregation clean.

You wife is thinking outside of "Mens" direction. She is following her heart and she is probably scared to death to come to you or the elders and express her doubts and concerns.

When my husband and I accidentally found out about the Watchtowers association with the UN as a NGO. Mind you, this was not done by looking on the internet. We heard from a fellow witness that this was the case. I doubted it and wanted to prove to the person that it was a lie. We called the UN and they faxed over a letter stating the association was actually true. It then came to the elders attention that we found out about the UN association and they wanted to have a judicial committee meeting with us affirming ourfaith in the Faithful Slave and that we were not apostate. We had to show them the letter from the UN on the UN letterhead to prove that we had gotten the information directly from the UN. When we were completely stumbled by this action and stopped attending the meetings the elders met to disfellowship us. We were not DF'd but we are treated as such whenever we see a witness in town. Gossip has my husband and I as apostates. That is your loving congregation, the one that you want your wife to go to and ask for help.

Why don't you try and have her meet with the elders and express her doubts and fears and then come on here and tell us that she isn't disfellowshipped or treated as an apostate? Then how will you treat her when she has been labeled as such? Will you treat her with love and understanding? Will you allow her freedom of choice?

Your wife obviously loves you, show her you love her.

Sheri

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Fade to Black

by FreeThinker01 in

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salutations everyone.

i am rather new to this site.

(finding it as i did, like a man stumbling upon some late night coven in the woods) anyway, i am a ms and member of the hitler youth (whoops, there i go again, i meant to say "pioneer") who has just decided to begin the great fade.

Lo-ru-hamah

Have fun fading.... There are so many things that I wish I could go back and do just to irritate everyone.

Welcome to the board.

Loruhamah

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Long last letter to dad...please comment-not mailed yet

by dawg in

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dad, .

i doubt youll even read this letter since it comes from your son, a son youve abandoned over your religious views, but i wanted to write you one final letter to see if theres any hope that you can come to your senses as far as this religion goes and we can renew our relationship.

im doing this because i care for you and mom deeply and feel very much distressed that you two refuse to see anyones opinion as being factual other than your own when it concerns the jw religion.

Lo-ru-hamah

Dawg

It is a great letter. Hope he reads it and comes around again. I can't imagine the loss you feel.

Sheri

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It crept up on me, and took me by surprise!

by AK - Jeff in

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life!

i have begun to live it - instead of waiting on the 'real life' we had been promised as jw's.

it started 4 years ago - but it moved slowly past the weeks and months of 'research', trying to find where i fit, then into an understanding that i didn't - at least not conventionally, fit anywhere, religiously speaking.

Lo-ru-hamah

AK Jeff

You have the most wonderful way of saying things. Thank you for the little extra spring in my step this evening.

sheri

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Being a Jehovah's Witness Can Make You Fat

by WTWizard in

as there has been some talk lately of a crackdown on obesity (in the form of the great boasting session), it might be time for a thread about how being one of jehovah's witlesses can lend one to becoming fat.. first, my personal situation.

when i was in college, i gained the 4x15 pounds that were supposed to be gained in college, and it was only my sophomore semester.

it was legitimately my fault.

Lo-ru-hamah

Oh boy, have you hit on a sore spot with me. I truly believe that the Watchtower is fully responsible for my battle with weight now. Granted, they didn't make me eat at McD's but...

I was a pioneer for six years and everyday I probably had about 80 to 120 ounces of soda pop per day. Not to mention chips, candy and fast food on a daily basis. Then you sit in a car for 5 to 6 hours per day. Forget door to door. You drive across the territory to find return visits that for some reason when you get there you are not prepared for, so, you drive another hour to get to the next one.

Even after pioneering, the only reason I wanted to go out on Saturday mornings was because I really wanted to stop for break and have a doughnut and coffee.

Being a JW makes you a glutonous slob. Now, to try and change all of the horrible habits that were developed. Not to mention mending the damage you have done to your body internally.

sheri

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What Was The Silliest "Offense" That You Were Counseled For?

by minimus in

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when i was a teenager, i was told by an elder that because i smiled a lot and was known for my good sense of humor, that i should come across as "more serious".

so before i was appointed a ms, while in my late teens, i transformed myself into a much more "serious" brother.. were you ever told that you needed to work on something that you knew was stoopid?.

Lo-ru-hamah

My husband got counseled for laughing in field service. (Not at the door - in the car.)

Sheri

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WORDS are dangerous things!!

by Terry in

it is sometimes easy to be confused by the difference between:.

what we call things.

2.how many key words that make up my world view are really bad lables?.

Lo-ru-hamah

Wow, that just went way over my head.

ha ha.

Sheri

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What do you think about girls having boyfriends and vice versa?

by Open mind in

i'm talking about kids from 12 on up.

what are your thoughts on them "going steady"?.

this can either be without any jw influence in the situation or with.. all thoughts appreciated.. om.

Lo-ru-hamah

We have a five year old son and so me saying anything is really just an idea. We will see what the future holds for ideals.

We are trying to teach him that he shouldn't have sex until he is old enough to accept the consequences of those actions. We feel that one of the best things about not having sex is that it makes kissing and holding hands so much more exciting. When you rush right into the act then from that point on it all leads to sex. Kissing isn't just kissing anymore it is a prelude to sex. There has to be a boundry somewhere. We were told that here in the area that we live one in four teenage girls have a STD. A 12 year old isn't ready for those sort of consequences that have life long effects. I think that a crush is great, going out with friends and parents and looking at each other with star crossed eyes is great but IMHO they aren't ready to act beyond that.

Just my two cents.

Loruhamah