Posts by Lo-ru-hamah

Ask him. If you and he have discussed this in the past it might be something that he feels that he can talk to you about. After all, you did give him your okay to return to looking at those sights.

On the other side though, I have in law family members that have had so much trouble with porn and sexual addiction that they have cheated on their mates and lied about. All the time remaining a servant and giving talks on how everyone else should not do those sort of things. Very hypocritical.

If your husband is doing it and trying to keep it a secret it will only come out when he is ready to tell you.

Again, tell him the circumstances of your discovery and then see what happens. That is my suggestion.

Loruhamah

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need computer help

by els in

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i haven't been on this site in a while but you guys came to mind to help me.

i hate to admit this but i have suspicions about my husband.

i want to get on his hotmail account but i don't know his password.

Lo-ru-hamah

els,

I sorry that I know very little about this but just recently I was listening to a radio program about this subject exactly. You might want to be careful with your investigations they are sometimes illegal. I am with you though, If you think he is cheating I would do whatever means possible to find out, even if it is illegal.

Loruhamah

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Songs that helped you through leaving the cult of JWs....

by Sirona in

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tell us which songs helped you when you left....it might be something others choose to listen to.. one of mine:.

"i don't believe" by skunk anansie.

cold blood, broken smile that is all that i have to give.

Lo-ru-hamah

Greendays - "Boulevard of Broken Dreams"

I don't know if this song helped me but everytime I turned on the radio it was on, for about six months, it actually became a joke between my husband and I. He calls it my theme song. In some ways it made me want to shoot myself and others, it was comforting. Maybe it isn't so bad walking alone.

Loruhamah

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Beware: The Publishers Have Printers Now

by unclebruce in

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g'day plough folks,.

englishman william tindale was an excellent greek scholar.

it is said that he was so well versed in seven different languages that no stranger could determine which one was his native tongue.

Lo-ru-hamah

Unclebruce,

Very informative post. I have two questions 1. What is Mysogynes? and 2. I didn't know that Martin Luther was a jew burner. Do you have any other interesting information about him or suggestions of reading materal on this subject?

I only know about Luther through the movie recently released about him. It made him look like a man who was truly striving for truth but from your comments it leads me to wonder.

Anyway, thank you for the post.

Loruhamah

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Would You Ever Think About Taking Your Life???

by minimus in

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have you ever been in such despair that the thought crossed your mind?

did being a jehovah's witness have anything to do with your mindset?

Lo-ru-hamah

Yes, I have thought about it. And yes, I think being a witness had something to do with it, though not directly. The organization constantly heaps upon you guilt for not doing enough, not being good enough and that you need to do more, more, more. You then carry this over into your everyday life and when things arn't working out you think, I am not good enough, I need to do more, it is all my fault. You know the lines. Also, you base so much of your self worth on what other people think of you and you let them determine whether you are worthy to live or not. I have felt much better lately though, since leaving, and I have gotten people out of my life that made me feel so negative about myself. Anyway, I never got close to it, just thought about it frequently.

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Whatever phase this is....

by merfi in

~sigh~ hoping for a little bit of commiseration, or at the very least someone tell me this is normal and this too shall pass?

i'm in such a weird funk.

but i'm funky... i guess i *do* somewhat miss a few of the 'friends' at the kh.

Lo-ru-hamah

I know what you mean. It is difficult leaving the only thing you have ever known and trying to start over. You have no life long friendships to fall back on and it makes you feel "Funky". Not as though you really had friends while in the borg but it kept you busy. You sound like you have two wonderful children take this time to learn to enjoy them as you never have gotten to. My family has started to do more activities as a family, ie bicycle riding, walks, going to the park, etc. It is really nice spending more time with them in a positive place. I hope you feel better soon. Enjoy your new found freedom.

Loruhamah

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It's expensive to be a JW

by startingover in

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well, april 15 is fast approaching and i can procrastinate no longer.

so in preparing the figures for the tax man, i started looking at where our money is going.

something hit me as i was half way through.

Lo-ru-hamah

I completely agree, startingover. I have noticed many times now how little on I spend on shopping. I was forever going to the mall and buying clothes for the District Convention, Special Assembly Day, Circuit Assembly, the Memorial, C.O.'s visits, service clothes, and like you said the weekly fashion show. And being a woman, you have to have shoes, purses, jewelery, stockings etc.

It is nice saving that money now.

Loruhamah

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Why shouldn't I be a JW?

by AirDuster in

hi, i am brand new to these forums.

i have been reading some stuff for a while from here and other websites.

i feels totally crazy being a member now.

Lo-ru-hamah

Airduster,

I understand where you are at. There are always the questions that come up that sort of conflict with your brain but then you say, well, I will just wait on Jehovah. And as time goes on you sort of let go or forget what it was that you were questioning. Then you end up wasting many many years waiting on Jehovah and well, maybe you have finally gotten your answer. There are alot of them here. And just because you let go of a religion, you don't have to let go of your spirituality. You need to analyze the core of what identifies who you are and live by those core values. There are some teachings that I have grown up with that are too deeply ingrained to let go of. They may be true or may be not but I want to believe it, so I do.

There were three very big issues with me that finally made me take the door out. 1. The UN NGO/DPI affair. 2. The lack of love 3. Hypocrisy.

It was very difficult to leave, it was life altering. Once I was gone it was wonderful, though you go through many different stages, anger, sadness, joy, anger, sadness, joy and a little bit of lost too. But now, the only way I would go back is if Jesus Christ came down from heaven and drug me back, and even then I would be thinking gee, everlasting death or forever with these mean JW's basically eternal sleep or hell. I think that I would chose eternal sleep. Oh well, I wish you much wisdom on your current course.

Loruhamah

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Latest WT study article - preparation for upcoming new light?

by truth_about_the_truth in

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the latest wt study article seemed like an article to prep the masses for 'new light' to be revealed in the very near future.. i have never seen an article like this one where they summarized their 'flashes of light' in their history in this manner and bombarded the minds with the need to accept all and any change within the org.. it could be for the purpose of getting the rank and file to accept a pretty big change or a series of big changes very soon.. what do you think?

what do you think it'll be?.

Lo-ru-hamah

I definitely remember the 1914 generation "new light" being at a convention, before it was in the watchtower. I can remember sitting stunned in my seat at the convention and thinking "ok, this is it, I'm out" (when I was 11 or 12, I had decided that if the society ever changed its tune on that teaching, it was my sign that it was not the truth) while everyone around me didn't even seem to think it was that big a deal.

How funny, Lucky, that is exactly what my dad said.