Posts by Wild

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Who do you blame for the time you wasted as a DUB?

by Thunder Rider in

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think of all the time and energy you wasted sitting in meetings, going door to door and refraining from making friends and having enjoyable association with non dubs.

think about how much of your finite life is lost to you because you were a witness.

think about how foolish you looked, hanging on to the false teachings and empty hopes for the future.

Wild_Thing

Ultimately, I blame my parents. The organization shares in the blame somewhat, but ultimately it was my parents' decision to live as they did.

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Movies and TV Shows You Didn't Watch Because You Were A JW

by minimus in

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this week i mentioned how i never saw the movie "ghost" because it was considered "demonistic".

i also volunteered that that i could not watch "bewitched", although "i dream of jeannie" was a conscience matter......any thing you didn't watch because you were a witness?

Wild_Thing

When I was a young kid ... Smurfs. :(

When I was a young adult ... Friends. At a circuit assembly the speaker was talking about the "dangers of television" and said that Friends should be renamed Fornicators. Snicker ... snort!

Yeah ... it was a real knee slapper.

Guess you had to be there.

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Human mind

by Schizm in

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cazry pweor of the hmuan mnid.. .

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Social Skills/Dating

by particlesnwaves5 in

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i have a problem.

i am lonely as can be since leaving the organization.

my children are grown and having lives of their own.

Wild_Thing

My suggestion ... don't go seeking any intimate relationships right away. Try to get out and do more just for you and just to meet people.

I did not handle very well my complete loss of social/family support. I ended up just being an emotional drain for the few "worldly" friends I did have around. Once I got over it and decided I needed to do something different, I decided I was going to just try to live life and experience it for whatever its worth! So ... in the process, there were two important things I learned:

1) Therapy is great! Non-JW people rarely comprehended when I talked about my JW upbringing and all my family/JW crap. Most did not understand why leaving is so scary. And when they did understand, sometimes the shit just got too deep for them to handle! Look at it this way ... you will be helping yourself AND saving your current friendships.

2) Anything's game, so try something new! I am not saying throw all sense out the window, just most of it! It is just that I found that the more risks I took and tried new things, the more I enjoyed life.

Some things I have done:

I discovered an A/V club that hosts once a month at a local theatre to show the weirdest movies you have ever seen ... they meet on a Saturnight at midnight, but I can sleep in on Sundays now!

I also learned how to play pool. I stink at it, but I enjoy it!

Nightclubs are fun! Most of the time. They were also too exhausting for me to do every weekend. Once in a blue moon is all I can take now. Something else I learned ... honky tonks suck (at least where I live).

Another time, I got talked into trying stamping ... to make cards etc. It was fun (and social) ... I made some pretty cute cards! But the supplies and materials for that hobby is too dang expensive! Besides ... who am I going to make cards for?

I have also dated since then ... some went good ... none developed into anything "special". I discovered things go better when I just go with the flow and be who I am! I still date but do not look for anything to come of it. If it does ... great! But just going to do something fun is enough for me.

Community Ed classes are great! I decided to take a class on the Ins and Outs of buying a new home ... just for heck of it (thinking very long term possibility) and ended up buying one a lot sooner!

------Some other things I discovered since leaving: Live Blues and Jazz clubs ... fine arts movies ... a stupid dice game called Bunco ... internet chat ... I got my master's degree ... TGIF at the local bar after work ... a 2-door convertible ... a few other illicit things that I will not be going into! (I will do again ... some not )

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Were You Ever A Deep Thinker? ......Are You Now???

by minimus in

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do you find yourself thinking about things more in depth than ever before?

Wild_Thing

No ... I'm still as shallow as I ever was.

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"Must Do" list after leaving the borg

by doodle-v in

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what would you list as the top "must do's" after leaving the borg?.

it can be serious or goofy.. im in a goofy mood tonight so here's mine.. 1. give oral sex.

2. recive oral sex.

Wild_Thing

Get a Smurf doll.

Get a troll.

Play Pac-man or ... Dungeons and Dragons!

Buy a GI Joe.

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DO YOU FIND.......................

by Dansk in

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that you are reading a lot more since exiting the borg?.

i've had as many as five books on the go all at once - all of a spiritual nature.

i'm currently reading the wheel of life and death by philip kapleau.. claire takes a book to bed with her every night (something i can't do - i just can't read in bed).. some of you might like fiction or biographies, etc., but i love to read anything on buddhism (although one of my books is by a christian cleric).

Wild_Thing

yes

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DO YOU FIND.......................

by Dansk in

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that you are reading a lot more since exiting the borg?.

i've had as many as five books on the go all at once - all of a spiritual nature.

i'm currently reading the wheel of life and death by philip kapleau.. claire takes a book to bed with her every night (something i can't do - i just can't read in bed).. some of you might like fiction or biographies, etc., but i love to read anything on buddhism (although one of my books is by a christian cleric).