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  Were there any busybodies in your congregation?

  by badboy in

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  We had one that would make anonymous phone calls to report everything from a short skirt to an overheard conversation. I found out years later who it was when she let something slip in front of my best friends.

  There was another one who thought it was her duty to critique my clothes & hair.... so my dad (the elder) informed her that she was not the spiritual policewoman she perceived herself to be...and that if she had something to say about my manner of dress, that she was to come to him....because he thought I looked great.... I was there to hear the whole conversation.... Yey dad!

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  Getting to know you, getting to know all about you...

  by Crumpet in

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  its wednesday evening, i'm alone and in need of distraction and am curious about my new and old fellow posters.

  so i was wondering if you would reveal what makes you different from the next person in terms of your hobbies.

  what are little known facts about you?

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  I love to travel, read, draw, paint or anything creative, walk in the country, cook, spend time with my bf and my kids & grandkids....

  Here are a couple of pieces of my artwork.

  Hmmmm...I don't know if it worked...testing testing.... or if they will show up... I think you have to click on them to enlarge...they're pretty small....if they do show up....... I've done this before to post my son's artwork...but it's been a while and it seems different. here goes....

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  Strategy: Jehovah's Witnesses and the Trinity.

  by Odrade in

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  a certain catholic xjw (jeff schwem) and i have been following the same blog for several months.

  in this blog, the young woman has been documenting her conversion to jwism.

  i have not always been so kind in my comments as jeff has been, but i have been honest.

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  Most people have no idea how to approach a jw or challenge their beliefs. Most Christians do know that jws do not believe in the trinity, so that is what they start with....they mean well, but that's not a good starting point.

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  "Normal"...oh you mean like you?

  by wanderlustguy in

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  funny, the longer i go on, especially with the "new eyes", normal becomes fiction.

  there is no real normal, but there is acceptable and unacceptable.

  hurting others, that would be unacceptable.. next week i'll be going home, as in home where i grew up and learned the truth and learned what it means to judge, criticise, back stabb, lie, cheat, and cover over things when i'm too weak to face them for what they are.

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  I kept waiting for it to be fixed too....and it only got worse. I stuck it out for over a decade from the time I started having doubts. When my daughter was 13 she kept asking me were the love was...'cause it wasn't there....and she would say "isn't love supposed to be the identifying mark?"... The longer I stuck it out, the more obvious it became....that it cannot be what it is claims to be. No possible way.

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  thinking positively - what is the best thing that happened to you or ...

  by Crumpet in

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  that you accomplished in the last 24 hours?.

  i ask becase i just keep reading lots of gripey posts (with good reason for sure, but i wanted to hear positive stuff no matter how mediocre or ordinary it might sound).. so tell me what was your highspot?

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  My son called. He just moved from Florida to Virginia... (his girlfriend is from Virginia.) He got there last Tuesday, and had a job interview on Friday. He got the job...Junior Project Manager for a commercial Construction Co. They hired him on the spot....starting at $50,000. a year.and there are bonuses too! He is soooo psyched! He's only 24! He has 3 more semesters before he has his degree in Computer Science, and they are going to be flexible so he can finish his degree.

  Here's the kicker... he told me last night that during the negotiations, they offered him more than that...and he said he would rather they start him at the lower end of their budget because he wanted his salary to be performance based, and wants the opportunity to prove himself.

  There are moments as a parent that you just sit back in awe... this is one of those moments...

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  Embarassing Situations on stage

  by Candlestick02 in

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  forgive me if this has been brought up before, but another thread reminded me of a few on-stage snafoo's.

  anybody got any good ones?

  like that made you lol?.

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  My ex had a funny one growing up. He and his friends would always try to make eachother laugh on the platform when one had a part. One time my x was giving a talk and three of his friends were in the back row... He took one look at them and busted up. The CO turned around to see what he was laughing at. Well they were pretending to be the 3 monkeys...hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil. Well the guy with his hands over his ears took his hands down real quick when he saw the co start to turn around. Likewise the guy with his hand over his mouth quickly put it down. But the guy with his hand over his eyes...couldn't see what was going on.... So the CO caught him... deep trouble.

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  Benefits of being a Dub as a child

  by pratt1 in

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  i can't think of many benefits of growing up a a dub but i do remember that i always viewed the other dub kids as brorthers and sisters and they became my support system amongst the "worldly people".

  i remember going into a new neighhood or a new school and knowing that once i met the dub kids there, i would automatically have friends and i would not be alone.. this was especially comforting to me because i was an only child, and many times i entered into a new school not knowing anyone and sometimes being the only black kid in the class, my dub peers made me feel welcome and accepted me into the circle immediately.. for many years i feel special to be part of this worldwide brotherhood, and i am sure it is the reason why now i am inafriad of changes and/or new surroundings.. did you have similar experiences?.

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  I was an only dub child. My parents were older...and I never got away with anything, There were not many kids in my congregation. Most wanted to be my friend because my dad was a "made man" as my bf calls him. The parents of the kids in the congregation wanted their kids to be friends with me, thinking it would advance their status in the cong. They didn't know my dad...he saw through it every time. The exception to this was my best friend...we met when we were 6 years old. We are best friends today...our friendship survived her leaving the borg about 10 years before I did... Just had dinner tonight with her and her husband.

  I always felt different... I was the only jw in my school until I was a junior in high school...it was a lonely life. I have finally gotten to know some of my former classmates after our high school reunion last year. I won't tell you how many years It's nice to get to know them and forge friendships on my own terms.

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  Circumcision?

  by jstalin in

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  does the wts have anything to say about circumcision?

  is there an official doctrine?

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  Funny story.... I was 18... and it was 2 weeks before my wedding...(yeah, I know...wish I had known then) I was assigned a talk in the ministry school...and the subject was circumcision. I didn't know what it was (really...I was a naieve, good doobey dub) I refused to give the talk.. had I given it, I would have had a funnier story to tell.

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  Born in or brought in observation

  by startingover in

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  i was a born in jw.

  i suppose i could best be described now as an athiest.

  i have a hard time understanding how someone can figure out the jw scam and then become a born again christian.

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  I was born into the jws. Left at age 38. I'm a Christian now...not a pushy one though 

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  WHAT ARE THESE "WORKS?" NEEDED FOR FAITH?

  by stillAwitness in

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  since it can be understood that spending 50 hours a month in preaching and meeting atttendance does not constitute acceptance with god what are the "works" talked about in the scripture where it says "faith without works is dead."?

  the wt always identifies them as meeting attendance, service and etc.

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  The works are the result of faith.... the evidence that faith exists. It is not a specific set of required activities. Faith in Christ changes the person from within...producing the "fruitage of the spirit"... the result of the Holy Spirt residing in the believer. Works are the natural outcome...not because one is required to...but because one wants to.

  Jesus said "I will write my law upon your heart"....so obedience comes from within, out of one's relationship with God, as opposed to being enforced or measured by others.

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