I think it's a brave thing for J2L to come here and post his thoughts the way he has - climbing a soap box and preaching won't work here. He has found a way to speak to us, and get us to listen by admitting the flaws in the organization - it seems to me though that there wouldn't be so many flaws if the society was truly run directly by Jehovah God through his faithful and discreet slave. God is infallible - God is perfect, true, people are imperfect, but would and infallible perfect being allow His organization to be run as sloppily and shoddy as the WTS and still allow them to continue doing this in His name. I find it hard to believe.
Dixie: Patience is the key for your situation. Pathofthorns has good advise - leaving the JW's isn't easy when your family is involved - he WILL be alienated, dont doubt this. He WILL be pressured to return, and he may do just that. Even if he does leave and doesn't go back, everything you consider normal will be foreign to him - he has never lived for himself before - he has never done ANYTHING just because he wanted to. His whole life has been dictated by what others expect of him, and he has been taught that this world will soon be destroyed, so there was never a need to cultivate anything lasting in his life. I dont want to sound harsh or mean-spirited, I just want you to be aware that this is going to be hard for both of you. He can say he wants to leave - actually doing it is completely different. Best of luck to you both.