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forsharry
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forsharry
Literally, I'm right here at work.
Otherwise....I'm at a better place I think. I'm in therapy, on meds so I'm much more 'normal' now instead of depressed and suicidal. I've got a physical agility test coming in up december for a Fire Department EMT slot. Hopefully I'll get that. I want to feel useful and like I make a difference and help people. So...there ya go. I'm married, getting our life started, although with a lot of spurts and stops...but it's slowly going ahead. Not bad I think...not bad at all.
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ok i think i finally have made a decision
by Cordelia insoooooo any of you thats been following my threads thanks (and poor u) i have changed my mind so many times.
i have finally decided that i must stop trying to get reinstated, basically i got dfed 9 months ago had a boyfriend i felt i loved, was married tho still to my hubby who is only just starting to divorce me, (hes waited coz he keeps saying we could try again for the sake of our daughter but he would expect me to be completly in the 'truth') i hid the bf from my family coz they were so heartbroke and i decided to please them i would get reinstated and then fade, but as time went on i realised that wasnt an option as with a family like mine it would be so hard to do, plus there was the bf still hidden poor guy, anyway we spilt up several times, i was a complete physco i kept blaming him for everything,.
anyway last month i put my letter of reinstatement in and sat there scared stiff that they would reinstate me (as that would defo mean the end of the bf) they didnt reinstate me, and i blamed the bf and we spilt for good;.
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forsharry
I'm going to have to go with what a lot of people on this topic have already said. You need to focus on you right now...You don't need to be dragging your bf into this, because you have way too many issues to deal with in yourself to pile having a relationship on top of you as well. But of course, that's between you and him and if he wants to stand by you then that's fantastic...and you need to listen to that. Your bf wants to stand by you no matter what. Your family wants to stand by you as long as you follow 'the rules.' That's conditional love. Anything that's gonna have conditions and limitations attached to it isn't really something worth considering.
"Friends are the Family you pick for yourself." - Anonymous
You have NO control over your family. If they're gonna shun you then there is nothing you can do about it. You do have control over you, and your daughter only because of her age at this point, so we'll just lump her into you for the moment.
My mother and my therapist have both said this very exact statement and after getting my shi!t straight(er) I believe it to be true. "You cannot look out for anyone else unless you look out for yourself." You have been spending all of your life worrying about others, and although this is admirable to a certain extent, if you don't take care of you, then you can't possibly take care of others. Stop worrying about them! Stop worrying about what they'll think! They are big girls and boys. They can take care of themselves...just as you are a big girl. Take care of yourself! No one else will. If they can no longer love you because you choose to take care of your emotional/physical/psychological welfare then what kind of people are they?!
Cordelia, try to be happy. Just for once, be a little self-oriented...take care of yourself. Nurture yourself. Feed yourself. Give yourself what you need.
Mathew 11:29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
The yoke is easy and the burden is light. If you're worried over spiritual things think of that as well. This is not a light burden you're carrying for this religion...this yoke you are wearing is not easy...it is bending you over with guilt and doubt and remorse and worry. Cast off this uneven yoke...cast off this unbearable burden...love yourself. It's really not that hard to do. This bf of yours loves you...so there's gotta be something wonderful and delightful about you. Find your self-esteem. Stand up for you. You might lose out on that conditional love, but I whole-heartedly feel that in the end you will be given so much more in return.
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I wonder what........
by chachasmum inthe dubs at booklyn bethal would do if that bird flu passes from human to human.
being a great crowd would they disband and close bethal or would they continue publishing those rag mags.
that virus is one scary prospect.
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forsharry
A little off topic I know, but it's not necessarily the chickens that are the problem...it's the migratory birds that are spreading it to the domestic chicken populations in the many lands of the Eurasia land mass.
But I'm sure the Bethel peeps will be just fine. Why?
(Insert any comment you'd like to hear, here.)
Forsharry (of the Feed the Little Birds, Two Pence a Bag Class)
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They saw my Xmas tree! What do I say?
by Rayvin inthis is what i am worried will be going through my mind in less then a month.
i have always wanted a big christmas tree but since i was a full fledged jw till 5 yrs ago i never had one.
i just last year was able to get a small table top tree for christmas.
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forsharry
And this is what's wrong with the Dubs. Why should you HAVE to care what other people think about what you do?
Do you WANT a tree? Yes? Put one up then. Make yourself happy. If the JWs don't like it, that's their panties in a bunch.
I know that was a very simplistic statement not taking so many issues into account. I'm sure that was unfair of me, but ultimately...and dump the guilt and the worry to the wayside for a moment. Do you and your husband want to put up a tree and celebrate christmas this year? No? Yes? If you honestly don't feel comfortable with it yet...then don't push it...but if you really want to do it then there you are.
But very good questions from other posters. Why is your hubby so worried? If he's Df'd what's the big deal? Perhaps the two of you need to talk about where these worries are coming from first. That would be where I would start.
Best of Luck
Forsharry (Of the Christmas Tree Mania Class)
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Do you believe the WTBTS is guilty?
by Honesty indo you believe the wtbts is guilty of spiritual abuse?
what are some of the reasons for your view on this subject?
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forsharry
Absolutely.
Blondie, you are a veritable cornacopia of fantastic information!
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Jehovah told man to kill, court hears!
by Atlantis inhttp://www.dailypost.co.nz/storydisplay.cfm?storyid=3660186&thesection=localnews&thesubsection=&thesecondsubsection= local news email story print story .
jehovah told man to kill, court hears.
by abigail caspari in rotorua .
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forsharry
Jehovah told him to kill her? Well aquit, I tell you, for it must be true!
This man is psychotic...I'm wondering what type of mental testing he'll get while in custody.
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Do you still *want* to believe?
by daniel-p inif the answer is "yes," please explain why.
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(i don't think this question needs explaining - i think you all know what i'm talking about.
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forsharry
"The Truth is rarely pure, and never simple" - Oscar Wilde
"Truth, in matters of religion, is simply the opinion that has survived." - Oscar Wilde
"Truth is beautiful, without doubt, but so is lies." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
"The Truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off." - Mal Pancoast
What I WANT is irrelevant. It doesn't matter how much i WANT something to be...it might not make it so. I WANT my grandparents to have never died...I WANT to have never been hit by a tractor trailer...I WANT to never have heard of the Jehovah's Witnesses, let alone having had to endure growing up in that 'religion.'
As my mother used to tell me growing up, "Well...how does it feel to want, Hope?"
voila!
Forsharry (of the "Want for Nothing" Crowd)
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Preaching the gospel to the dead
by jstalin inhow does the wts deal with the fact that christ preached the gospel to the dead in 1 peter 3:19 and 4:6?
they claim the dead cannot be conscious of anything.
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forsharry
Now i'm going to hunt for it, and i might be way off base...but the faction of Judaism (Nazareans) that Joseph and Mary belonged to adhered to shunning tactics very similar to JWs today. If you were excommunicated or 'cast-out' you were considered dead. Some scholars use this explain Jesus' 'resurrection' of Lazarus...in essence that he couldn't HAVE POSSIBLY reanimated a dead person, but brought him back into the religious fold.
Probably wrong...but the Nazareans felt that if you weren't in their fold, that you were Dead.
1 Peter 4:6 (King James Version)
6 For for this cause was the gospel preached also to them that are dead, that they might be judged according to men in the flesh, but live according to God in the spirit.
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Do you believe the bible is true?
by skyman in.
i would like to know how many of you believe the bible is true?.
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forsharry
Oh sure, there's tons of truth in it. You just have to 'find' it. :)
I also think that if someone in our modern times put out a book like Revelation people would be knocking at the guy's door to see just what kind of shrooms he was on when he wrote it.