Posts by Michelle5480

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Isolated & disconnected once outside

by enosant in

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is this a common issue for exjws?

or do you find it easy to just get on with it?

having lost all the jw friends, you find that you can't bring yourself to let others get too close, even pushing them away (old habbit dying hard).

Michelle5480

I just posted something similar to what everyone has experienced.

Im so used to ignoring everyone outside the kindom hall that I have to catch myself sometimes. Im used to just saying hi and never letting anyone get close enough to be a good friend. Fearing that their ultimate goal would be to inject me with worldly poison. I would say YES its hard leaving the bOrg and finding new friends.

We need to make like a support group for ex jw's so we can get over our worldlypeoplephobia issues.

Lots of love,

Michelle

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guys i really need your help

by Cordelia in

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todaythings have really come to a head and i have a massive decusion to make by 7pm tonight!.

basically i have been dfed since march tryed to get reinstated two weeks ago but they said no, thing is i only did it for my family esp my dad he is not well and i love him to pieces.

but when i got dfed i had a boyfriend and things have been up and down (hes put up with alot) but he is sticking by my side and i love him and want to be open about him and not lie anymore, .

Michelle5480

I send you a big hug cordelia,

Ive been there and my mom begged me not to leave the elders came over a million times and asked me not to leave.

How can you live on like this, you'll resent your dad always for making you lose your boyfriend. You already know what life is like in the organization but you'll always look back to now and ask yourself how would life had been if you had left when you had the chance. Things will seem bad and hopeless and feel like they get worse but they'll eventually get better. Its been 7 mths since I was disfellowshipped and Im still recovering but Im happy now. No one will live your life but YOU, you already have doubts about the organization and you always will. That will never change. Other aspects of your life you can change if you want to.

Best of luck to you, keep us posted.

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Chaperones

by Gretchen956 in

richie's thread got me wondering what ever happened to the practice of chaperoning???

i mean really, was this just a regional thing where i grew up?

we had to have a chaperone always with the opposite gender even if we were old!

Michelle5480

When I was courting I found it exciting to find ways to sneak kisses and hold hands when the chaperone wasnt looking. We did it all the time. My mom would chaperone and somtimes she would fall asleep while we were watching a movie together or something and we'd go at it. Got all hot and bothered and she was in the room..........yes Im a freak.

Saddest part was had I known he was not blessed in the right areas I would not have married him. I am no longer married to him and found someone blessed in all the right places if you know what I mean.

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easy proof jw's are on the decline

by ackack in

in canada, at least, there is a trend that more and more seats are being reserved for the elderly.

first it started with the ice level.

then the first two rows around the ice level.

Michelle5480

Ive noticed it also. In Chicago our assemblies consisted of the whole first floor for the elderly. With baptisms at minimums.

I also noticed congregations losing more and more new ones and a lot of disfellowshipping. I have to say I think the internet is a big influence on people leaving. Before it wasnt as easy to get others perspectives or see what we can see about them now on the internet. Since they were always telling us not to research out of the Society publications how would anyone ever see deeply into the facts. Its largely what contributed to my leaving the organization.

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Does Jehovah exist without Jesus?

by Michelle5480 in

after years of being a jw, im now on the outside and i question everything.

one thing i cant deny though is that jehovah is god.

my doubt now is, was jesus just tagged on as a reason to create christianity.

Michelle5480

When we touch the issue of God having a son, I wonder why?

We reproduce I think to leave a sort of legacy. So when we no longer exist we have something of ours to live on. Why would God need to have a son? If he has a son and we are created in his image (God's) does God have a wife or a female counterpart? Why is Jesus never mentioned in the old testament?

Perhaps maybe even God is not literal or a personification as we make him out to be. Maybe Jehovah is just a source of life an energy source so to speak.

The ancient civilizations mostly all worshipped the sun, not really for it being a person like us but just being a source of life and done mainly in appreciation for its many benefits.

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advice please

by susank in

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hello.

i am not and never have been a jw, but have recently become involved with a man who is, and i hope some of the people here can help me because i'm confused.

Michelle5480

As an ex JW, I have seen it many times. Men go out in search of a wife or mate and look for one they see as someone good hearted that may "make the truth their own". Meaning he's killing two birds with one stone. He finds a mate and at the same time he "saves" you. Unless he is completely decided on leaving that religion alone and leaving it behind it will be nothing but drama in your life.

Soon comes the pressure to go to a few meetings, then a bible study with some other JW's. Think about what your life would be like to raise children with him if you dont completely believe what he believes. If he hasnt on his own decided to leave the JW's, he may never do it. It entails lots of heartache. Leaving people you've known for years. Beliefs that fill every crevice of your mind and affect every aspect of your life. The biggest thing for most I think is the guilt factor.

Unless you plan on converting, leave this man alone until he leaves them on his own.

Just my opinion. Best of luck to you. My email is always open [email protected]

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Does Jehovah exist without Jesus?

by Michelle5480 in

after years of being a jw, im now on the outside and i question everything.

one thing i cant deny though is that jehovah is god.

my doubt now is, was jesus just tagged on as a reason to create christianity.

Michelle5480

After years of being a JW, Im now on the outside and I question everything. One thing I cant deny though is that Jehovah is God. One and only. My doubt now is, was Jesus just tagged on as a reason to create Christianity. Was Jesus just a revolutionary upset about the injustices in the Jewish system. Jehovah never really declared his "son" would be the Mesiah. I seriously doubt the new testament and anything in it. Just looking for opinions and viewpoints........please dont hold back.

If your no longer in the JW's do you now doubt Jehovah's existance?

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Feeling sooo isolated.....

by Michelle5480 in

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hello to all, i was raised pretty much as a jw and became one of the super goodie two shoes type, you know......didnt even swear when i was alone.. im now disfellowshipped and since i followed the guideline of not having friends outside the organization i now find myself completely alone, my friends are all jw's and none of them can talk to me.

so now i feel lost....on another planet almost .

Michelle5480

Sad to say I was so confused when everything was going on, I wanted so much for the whole thing to go as smoothly as possible. I was married for 8 yrs and my sons were raised in the JW's so I figured it would be best to let them continue to go for the meanwhile so that everything didnt change for them at once. So my ex said he would pick them up from my house to take them to the meetings on Tuesday's, Thursdays and Sunday. So then he started saying how he was lonely since I had left and wanted the kids to sleep over his house more often so I agreed again trying to keep things as peacful as possible. While all this is going on he is telling the children the Im a Satan worshipper and that I am going to be destroyed so the boys were scared and started to ask to stay with him more because of that but they wouldnt tell me. So when I started dating other people it got ugly and the kids didnt want to be with me at all because he filled their head with so many ideas. I started working secularly a few months before we separated so that he could stay home and build his business. So now he has more time to be with them and Im stuck working to try to survive. So I had to move in with my boyfriend and after that my ex didnt want the kids at my house at all. Now they come over every Monday and every other weekend but they're anxious to go back to they're dad's house because they're afraid. So it pretty much feels like I lost them completely. Theyre with me physically but they're hearts and minds are completely gone.

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Life Sucks!!!!

by Tez in

aaaaaagggghhhhh!!!

thats how i feel at the mo!!!

why is it that no matter how hard you try life still sh**s on you!!!!!

Michelle5480

I strongly agree, life does suck. Unfortunately its something we cant hide from. My biggest feeling is of being lost. Being told all my life that all i have to do is go preaching, do things right and everything will be fine. We're even taught that education isnt even important, as long as we preach and follow all the guidelines. Now the guidelines are gone no meetings, no one telling me what I should and shouldnt do. Now Ive made it my plight in life to look to the future as if I have many many years ahead and no one is going to magically save me from the world. Im now working to better myself to understand what things really matter. What can I do now to make things better for me 10 years from now. Remember Jehovah never really magically saved anyone. Even Moses and his people had to walk through the hot desert to salvation a hard plight to get where they themselves and their offspring to be 10 or 20 yrs down the line. You control your own destiny, life will continue to suck unless you change it.

Lots of love a big hug to you from Chicago

PM me anytime

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~~~~Horrible Life! Its your Birthday~~~~

by misspeaches in

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to dear horrible life.

jwd's ever reliable birthday greeter!.

here is wishing you a splendid birthday.

Michelle5480

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, KINDA LATE BUT BETTER LATE THAN NEVER.

I HOPE YOUR WISHES ALL COME TRUE. I GIVE YOU A BIG BIRTHDAY .