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  Do you have an Evil Streak?

  by misspeaches in

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  sometimes people do things too me that just rub me up the wrong way... and out comes evil miss peaches....!

  i can't help it... this weird evil side of my personality displays itself.

  for example if i'm in traffic and someone is tailgating me i deliberately slow down to a couple of kms per hour below the speed limit.

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  Hi Misspeaches

  You said"My friend wants to leave him around 50% of the time but then he gets all schmoopy and stuff and she forgives him." Good idea to keep watchful. That getting "schmoopy" stuff after mistreatment is a classic way abusers keep themselves "in". It doesn't have to mean he is one though.

  Would you say the following sounds like you?

  Many people depend on my help and generosity.
  I take more pride in my service of others than in anything else.
  I need to feel important in other people's lives. I like people to need me.
  I seem to have personal radar for the detection of moods and preferences of others.
  Each of my friends brings out a different part of me.
  I am attracted to difficult relationships.
  I don't feel that I have that many needs.
  I believe that gaining approval is equal to gaining love.
  When I have time off, I frequently spend it helping others.
  Having a sense of personal freedom is very important to me.

  Dez
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  What is wrong with me?

  by Crumpet in

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  i just went out for only the second time in the last three months since i broke my leg - to socialise - for a meal with a girl i haven't seen for a year.

  she kept saying nice stuff about me and how she liked me and so on.

  so why do i feel so dreadful and didn't believe her..

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  Find a point in your conversation where everything felt fine. Then find the point where you started to feel that she didn't like you. What was going through your mind before you felt that way and then when it started?

  Dez
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  Sabotaging one's life...

  by Frog in

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  i think that if i don't take the time to post this one out of me i may very well implode:(.

  gosh i feel so bloody awful at the moment, and i apologise for laying this on my friends here when i know you all have your own ordeals to deal with.. i've been feeling intensley anxious lately about going home to visit my family at the end of the year.

  there's going to be a bit of a family reunion in my home town, which will mainly consist of my immediate family (my never been baptised brother, my disfellowshipped self, and my fence sitter baptised father) and my uncles family (once an elder of 20years, my aunty, their two 20somethings sons who've never been baptised, and my cousin who like me was diss'd a few or so years ago).

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  dezpbem

  There's no need to add on to what TS said. It's all said already. I couldn't have put it better.

  Dez
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  Do you have an Evil Streak?

  by misspeaches in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  sometimes people do things too me that just rub me up the wrong way... and out comes evil miss peaches....!

  i can't help it... this weird evil side of my personality displays itself.

  for example if i'm in traffic and someone is tailgating me i deliberately slow down to a couple of kms per hour below the speed limit.

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  dezpbem

  The boyfriend is not a nice person. He is agressive. He intimidates my friend with physical force (not hitting her but grabbing her and shaking her.) He yells and screams at us when he doesn't like things. You can't reason with him. He takes illicit drugs and drinks too much and the problem escalates...

  This sounds like a bad situation. Is the lease in your name? Does your roommate want to stay with him? Or get rid of him but is affraid?

  If she wants to get rid of him too then another option is to call the police, tell the situation to them and your landlord, and have them assist you in kicking him out. He won't do anything stupid with them there. If she doesn't want him to leave then I would get rid of both of them . The idea you have about saying your moving out may work. But it sounds like you need to do something. I'm concerned for your friend. Especially if she wants to stay with someone like that.

  As far as "Evil Miss Peaches" and the question on evil streaks goes...

  Everybody has a negative side. Most others would hesitate to call it an "evil streak" because of the negative connotation from the use of the word "evil". I think the way it was worded stops people from admitting their negative side. Everyone has them but they express themselves differently in different personality types.

  I'm curious, are you the type of person who is very giving and helpful to others? The type of person who may be described as a "giver"? Or maybe more of a "thinker"/"observer"?

  Dez
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  Melbourne Cup - I didn't win...

  by misspeaches in

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  well while all our american friends are off celebrating halloween in various shapes and forms down under everyone is gathering to watch the biggest horse racing event of the year... .

  the melbourne cup!!!

  well i placed my bets and was very optimistic about them as i had recieved a hot tip.... .

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  Now that's ironic!
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  Steve's party Saturday

  by dezpbem in

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  i went to stevenyc's party saturday and had a great time.

  i also met soledad who is a doll.

  we're planning on going to the meetup.com meet this weekend if all goes well.

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  I went to Stevenyc's party Saturday and had a great time. Steve is super cool and has a great accent (which went well with his pirate costume, lol). I don't know if he has pictures of his costume but I hope he'll put them up if so. It was very well done.

  I also met Soledad who is a doll. We're planning on going to the meetup.com meet this weekend if all goes well. If anyone wants to join let me know.

  There was a big pot of smooth sangria, a projector playing old b&w horror movies, and loads of other alcohol. Steve's friends are interesting. We had to be the most racially diverse crowd i've seen in a while. I was commenting to Soledad how perfect Steve and his wife looked together while they were dancing. All in all it was a great time. Thanks for having me Steve :-)

  Dez
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  Is Discussing Jehovah's Witnesses Therapeutic For You???

  by minimus in

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  it is for me.

  i find that when i tell a person exactly how witnesses think and why they believe in things the certain way they do, it feels good!

  listening to myself express the craziness of the religion makes me abhor their practices and mind control.

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  In the short time i've been here i've found it very helpful. Even just reading others stories had a positive affect. But the best therapy has been all the joking around that goes on here. If you jump in and join in you look back and find that the joking teaches you not to take your past in the jw too seriously.

  I suggest everyone try jumping in a "live" thread where everyone is joking in real time. We did it a week ago and it was a blast! I think everything i've encountered here has been great.

  Dez
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  Melbourne Cup - I didn't win...

  by misspeaches in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  well while all our american friends are off celebrating halloween in various shapes and forms down under everyone is gathering to watch the biggest horse racing event of the year... .

  the melbourne cup!!!

  well i placed my bets and was very optimistic about them as i had recieved a hot tip.... .

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  Hey Misspeaches

  Yeah I had alot of fun there. I didn't dress up though. Steve has a very interesting group of friends.

  Congrats for winning to Eva, Miss Mg, Kiddotan, and anyone else who won. This must be very big in Australia. Here in the USA you would never have this many people on a MB that would even know that a horse race even took place.

  Desi
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  Melbourne Cup - I didn't win...

  by misspeaches in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  well while all our american friends are off celebrating halloween in various shapes and forms down under everyone is gathering to watch the biggest horse racing event of the year... .

  the melbourne cup!!!

  well i placed my bets and was very optimistic about them as i had recieved a hot tip.... .

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  dezpbem

  All the glamour and the drinks and the social classes that I will never fit into he he he...

  Same here in the U.S.

  Not only did I not win at the TAB I didn't win any of the office sweepstakes either. It sucks arse I tell you!

  Good luck. You have to gamble often to win. On another note I went to Stevenyc's party saturday which was great. He was dressed in a really good pirate costume. I also met Soledad. Both of them were great. We may go out this weekend to an ex-jw meetup in manhattan.
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  Melbourne Cup - I didn't win...

  by misspeaches in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  well while all our american friends are off celebrating halloween in various shapes and forms down under everyone is gathering to watch the biggest horse racing event of the year... .

  the melbourne cup!!!

  well i placed my bets and was very optimistic about them as i had recieved a hot tip.... .

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  I'm just back from halloween night (it's 11:30 here).

  A woman into horse racing at an early age? Do many women in ausralia like horse racing? I'm just curious? Here there aren't many. My family owns and breeds racing horses. I was never into the racing though. All that jbubb anti-gambling brainwashing...can't get the suds outta my brain cells.

  Ever win big?

  Dez