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  How do I support JW other half?

  by kiddotan in

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  just lately my soon to be mother in-law is giving my other half an incredibly hard time.

  she is crying all the time about us, trying to get his siblings to spy on us.

  ringing when she knows both of us when we are home together.

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  Thank you Rebel and Jgnat,

  I now WON'T be going to study with her, I WILL openly invite his siblings in for a coffee, when they have walked past my stables or house for the 3rd time. MIL is mostly sending the youngest, who is the best kid.

  I talked to my other half this morning, when he gets home in two weeks he's gonna have word to his Dad. He knows how nasty his mother can get. I have a list ready. I have the ability to right people off, I do want to be careful not to do this completely for my other half's benefit. I WILL NOT be answering her phone calls. Nor will she be invited in without my other half being in the house. (thank you, guess i needed a little help to have a bit of strength to do this).

  My other half has been pretty good at laying down laws, but the harrassment is only when he is away. Maybe not really harrassment, but certainly feels so. I will be reminding my other half of the legalities of stalking i think. Again thank you
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  Armageddon falls on what day of the week?

  by JH in

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  i say tuesday.................because it sounds like doomsday

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  Some Sunday mornings my head is shattering and I am paying for my previous night's sins.

  Is that armageddon?

  Try sinning on a Sunday night, going to work very early Monday, that's definatly Armageddon repeatedly
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  Please help me, I need advice on dating a JW!!

  by Super_Becka in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  ok, i'm new here, so please be gentle.

  maybe the advice i need is somewhere else in this forum, but i really don't want to have to search for it, i really need some advice now and i don't have the time to sift through all of the other entries here.

  so please bear with me and share any and all advice you have, even if you think it's not what i want to hear.

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  Thanks HLife, I hadn't found that thread in my lurking.

  Becka - really look into what you are heading for. It may not be your bf or partner causing problems, but his family can be horrible.

  Make sure this is what you want, and give it time to learn lots about each other
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  How do I support JW other half?

  by kiddotan in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just lately my soon to be mother in-law is giving my other half an incredibly hard time.

  she is crying all the time about us, trying to get his siblings to spy on us.

  ringing when she knows both of us when we are home together.

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  kiddotan

  Just lately my soon to be mother in-law is giving my other half an incredibly hard time. She is crying all the time about us, trying to get his siblings to spy on us. Ringing when she knows both of us when we are home together. He works away alot. Going BACK to meetings (hasn't gone regularly in years, so bloody hypocritical uugghh). This has only started happening in the last couple of weeks.

  Would it be a good idea for me to go to study with her? (I will never believe, have strong convictions of my own). She is so cruel to him and his siblings. His dad is supportive in a quiet way, stands up to her.

  We have never had it this bad before.
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  Gynecologist

  by prophecor in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  ladies, do you prefer a male or a female doctor, when going to your ob / gyn ?.

  gentlemen, does it matter to you when your s.o.

  goes to a male gynecologist ?.

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  I would rather have a man because some of the women are just jerks - especially if they have had a baby...They don't mind at all being rough and aren't as sympathetic listening to issues - especially if they've never had any medical issues.

  I have to agree here. I have had a series of late miscarriages and when i have had a woman, especially those that have had no trouble having children, I have had very little sympathy or help. Where as the men seem to want to help even if they don' t understand. I live in the back of beyond so we don't get the same Doc all the time. Kinda sucks. I've gone to the Big Bad City (days drive) to visit specialist, still can't get the same one.

  The nastiest thing I ever did see, was my ex-husband and an internal swab of a man's pride and joy. (This was part of the medical to become a resident of New Zealand). Hang on maybe i did have some satisfaction in this after all a girl goes through (thinking.... yeap defintly, did sorry guys).

  Never had a female present when having internals, doesn't faze me, anyone who isn't my other half, visiting down thereabouts makes me uncomfortable.
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  Please help me, I need advice on dating a JW!!

  by Super_Becka in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  ok, i'm new here, so please be gentle.

  maybe the advice i need is somewhere else in this forum, but i really don't want to have to search for it, i really need some advice now and i don't have the time to sift through all of the other entries here.

  so please bear with me and share any and all advice you have, even if you think it's not what i want to hear.

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  Hi Becka

  Everyone, here has put it right RUN, unless you believe this man is the one. I am the non-believer of our pair, but have been with my man for a while now. (can't stand the thought of being without my best friend)

  I have lurked on this forum for sometime using the information and experience here to learn why my man reacts the way he does. (he doesn't have a place like to deal with me though ) Probably the biggest thing is a willingness to talk and negotiate.

  Jgnat has started some great threads on being the non-believing partner and i have come up with many ways to negotiate with my wonderful man. Everything from the blood issue to mother's day needs to be discussed. I have solved the blood issue on my part by having a living will that covers both any children we may be lucky enough to have and I. This has been agreed to and signed off by him.

  Good luck and Talk well
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  How big is your Ecological Footprint??...

  by Frog in

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  since i have a little too much time up my sleave at present i thought id start a thread on a subject thats dear to my froggy heart.

  for starters, here are a couple of links to on-line ecological footprint calculators that only take a couple of minutes to punch in basic data to get back a rough environmental impact assessment on how sustainable your lifestyle is.

  sustainability requires decent and equitable living within the means of nature.

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  FOOD 1.5 MOBILITY 0.1 SHELTER 5.4 GOODS/SERVICES 4.2 TOTAL FOOTPRINT 11.2
  	IN COMPARISON, THE AVERAGE ECOLOGICAL FOOTPRINT IN YOUR COUNTRY IS 7.6 GLOBAL HECTARES PER PERSON. WORLDWIDE, THERE EXIST 1.8 BIOLOGICALLY PRODUCTIVE GLOBAL HECTARES PER PERSON.
  	IF EVERYONE LIVED LIKE YOU, WE WOULD NEED 6.2 PLANETS.

  BUGGER! and i recycle and grow my own veggies.

  Nope. Not teasing. But I fly a lot for business and live in a big house. Those seem to give you a double whammy.

  me too,
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  Of Late Many Here Seem To Be Preaching Aethiesm..

  by Qcmbr in

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  2. friends

  when i first came here a while back there was plenty of discussion around and about jw topics and general chit chat but of late i've felt quite a sharp increase in posts that are: .

  1/ preaching aethism (as opposed to putting it forward in a respectful way as an alternate viewpoint.

  2/ vitriolic attacks on those who dare have another view ('damn those stupid heretical believers') .

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  I come here to learn, enjoy the banter. Lurking around to learn something about what my JW other half is going through. Me being a complete heathen in everyway. (Worshipper of horses, alcohol and mates).

  Q, I am sorry you feel attacked. I personally need people on the other side of the wall to show me how it is, do keep posting. The banter gives me an insight into a life i find confusing. (can't unnerstan why anyone would want to be obsessed with anything other than the mighty horse and)

  This person of low intellgience, who can't even spell, is learning alot from both sides, even if sometimes it does feel alittle one-sided occasionally.

  all must worship that is devine, the cure for all evils (or the cause can't remember, haven't had any yet today)
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  Solution for "Unbelieving Mates" - Add Fun

  by jgnat in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  here is another "solution" on an ongoing series i am developing to help "unbelieving mates", or ubm's, to reach their jw partner.

  each "solution" is part of a toolkit of ideas that the ubm can modify for their situation.

  i am a natural strategist, so it was fairly easy for me to come up with ideas and a plan, based on the temperament and personality of my jw partner.

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  I know this is/was manipulative behavior....but hey...I was doing life saving work...

  It's could strategic planning, not manipulation, besides when it's fun... and good for all..
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  If you celebrate Christmas, do you belief in Christ?

  by free2beme in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i celebrate christmas each year and do no consider myself a christian in any way.

  my spouse does not either and we are raising our son to be non-christian.

  so why do i celebrate christmas, because i can.

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  kiddotan

  As a family we aren't christians, we just had a family day, lots of food, fun, pressies, food, friends, did i mention food. On the beach or by the pool.

  We have a rule only hand made gifts or certificates allowed.

  We still do this now, if we are all in the same country at once.