Posts by PoppyR

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What is the best way to be asked out?

by daystar in

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this is for guys and gals alike.. how would you like best to be asked out?.

i can't stand the subtle method most women use.

just say you think i'm cute or whatever and ask me out.

PoppyR

Fear of rejection is a terrible thing, and probably stops a lot of beautiful relationships from ever getting off the ground.

In my experience, go for it, she will be flattered even if she is not interested. It can be hard to take if she says no.. but better to have taken a chance!

As for flirting... you're looking at the queen And generally I can get it right and just have a laugh with someone, occasionally I've got myself into hot water because the person thought I was more interested than I was.

If I AM interested, I prefer the direct approach, most men are so busy being shocked, I take their open mouthed expression for an assent and we're out on a date the next night..

I think 'The rules' are absolute hogwash. I've read the book, and it's all about playing games, not being who you are, and pretending to be busy when you're not so he will be more interested.

Well if he's not interested in the real you, whats the point in carrying on with it! I want someone to be completely into me, not some facade of what I pretend to be.

Poppy

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JW urban legends

by Highlander in

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i remember very few of the details, of when, where and exactly what took place, however a few years ago i was told the story about three elders that were walking together and the middle.

elder was struck and killed by lightning.

the other two elders went to his house to help out his wife and discovered 'apostate' material in their home.

PoppyR

What about the one where a sister works on her own in a block of flats..she calls on a mentally disturbed man who was rude, but she just goes on her way.

Later that day the man kills the next person who knocks at his door, when asked why he did not kill the sister, he replied

"Not likely when she had those two big burly guys with her"

Just makes me laugh my ass off now that I used to get chills listening to it thinking of the angels protecting me while I was working alone!!

Just wish I could see them if they were that good looking....

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My conversation with Richie's Dad

by Victorian sky in

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it's his dad, he say's 'who is this?

the dad says 'where do you know my son from?

dad says, 'richie says he doesn't know you and i want to know how you know my son?

PoppyR

I'm sure I remember reading that when Richie turns 18 he inherits quite a lot of money? Isn't that the whole 'rich' thing? And the reason he was going to move out on his 18th birthday? Could be wrong, I'll go back and hunt through the topics!

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Letter to Mom (for your review)

by ringo5 in

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no this isn't really an "outing " letter, but it might make her think.

she already knows i'm not going to meetings, and we've had discussions about the possible extent of the flood , so she knows i'm on the edge .

which is probably why she picks out articles in the watchtower and sends them to me.

PoppyR

I think the letter is excellent, humble and asking her opinion rather than acting like you already know the answer.

We all know how difficult it is to reach those really entrenched in the faith, but sometimes a seed can be sown which will grow at a later date.

(might have picked that one up at the meeting, guess some stuff does filter through )

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First Ever Birthday Present From My Parents!!!

by SWALKER in

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my parents are 80 yrs old and today they stopped by with a wrapped birthday present for me!

i don't know what to say..... swalker

PoppyR

Please open it and tell us it's not a years supply of Watchtowers!!!

Happy Birthday!!

Poppy xxx

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Do you still say you are a JW?

by architect in

the lastest study article says in a nut shell that we should tell our new workmates/employer that we are a jw..for you folks who do not attend anymore or you've got out of the "theocratic routine" do you still make it know you are a jw?

PoppyR

I dont tell people I AM a JW as I dont feel I am, but I am not afraid to tell them I used to be. I feel it goes part way to explaining some of my behaviours and reactions, also it was a massive part of my life, bit like not telling someone you've been married when you were for 30 years.. how can you miss something like that out!

I also feel it's a good opportunity to give them some home truths about the 'truth'!

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My invite to the special talk.

by PoppyR in

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so my mother 'invited' me to the special talk today.. made me smile that at least she knows i would not be going otherwise (i'm not going anyway!).

she handed me the watchtower with the invitation printed on it and said i could keep it.

i just said thank you, put the wt down on her table and left it there.

PoppyR

So my mother 'invited' me to the special talk today.

Made me smile that at least she knows I would not be going otherwise (I'm not going anyway!)

She handed me the watchtower with the invitation printed on it and said I could keep it.

I just said thank you, put the WT down on her table and left it there.

I really didn't want to touch that watchtower!! So funny, I felt about it like I would have done about apostate literature a while ago!

So it's on the 30th April at 10.. shame I cant make it, I have a Sunday morning lay in planned..

Poppy x

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So, why did I meet with the elders?

by lola28 in

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this is my explanation as to why i met with the elders today.

when i agreed to meet with the elders last week i had made up my mind to just go in and be honest with them.

i was going to tell the elders that i no longer believed this to be the truth, and then i was just going to walk away.

PoppyR

Hugs to you Lola, I'm proud of you, think you did completely the right thing and exactly what I would have done and will do in your position.

You dont owe anything to the religion, you are not making a stand by DA.. they'll just think you have done something wrong and are too gutless to face the committee..

By fading you can still have association with all those people and how do you know that you may do what the apostle paul said!!

(1 Corinthians 9:22) To the weak I became weak, that I might gain the weak. I have become all things to people of all sorts, that I might by all means save some. . .

Poppy xxxx

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In Your Opinion What Are JWs Most Obsessed About???

by minimus in

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PoppyR

Each other. Gossip is their pastime

Never truer words spoken, I've just come back from a family meal, and they were discussing a sister that has just been re-instated. My gut feeling is that she has done it because she wants to be able to see her family again. But since the announcement she has not been to a single meeting

They were bitching about that.. she should be dealt with etc etc. Such lack of love. Then my mother started talking about so and so was depressed, so and so had left their husband and 'rumour' had it she was working away a lot...

I think they make up for their feelings of constant inadequacy by pulling others down.

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I'm in love with a Jehovah Witness, Is it really a losing battle?

by icon in

i have been reading all of the feed back for saddler and the others.

i too have been in a relationship with a jw for a little over a year.

i love her very much but all the abuse i have taken over the pass year from her elders, uncles, grandfather...etc has really taken it's toll on me.

PoppyR

She wants the Kingdom Hall wedding because any other venue for the wedding will be forbidden to other JWs to attend, even members of her own family. Family members who do attend will be punished in one form or another

It sounds like you have experience of this happening, which I obviously dont. BUT, I have never heard of JWs being punished for attending a wedding between a witness and non-witness. I've been to weddings in Catholic Churches for members of my husbands family and none of us were spoken to, possibly gossiped about, but that I can take!

She probably wants a kindgom hall wedding because that's what she's always dreamed of, being married to a 'brother' in sight of Jehovah. She doesn't want to scuttle away to a registry office and do it on the quiet and who can blame her.

I have known many couples where one is a witness and one isn't that work out ok, not fabulously, like any marraige between people that have very different beliefs or experiences. But I dont think it's quite the doom and gloom that so many prophesy!

In saying that.. if she wants you to get baptised first before you get married, I would think VERY Carefully, as once baptised you can of course be dfed and you might find yourself without the girl and any possible children..

Poppy