lostlantern
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WHAT IS QUINTESSENTIALLY ENGLISH?
by Dansk inthis is actually something that fascinates me and i'd like your own opinions on the subject.
i list here things i feel are quintessentially english (with apologies to the scots, welsh and irish as they have their own uniqueness).. first of all, it's got to be a cup of tea (yes, i know it wasn't originally made here, but it has become an integral part of 'englishness').. cup of tea.
cricket.
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WHAT IS QUINTESSENTIALLY ENGLISH?
by Dansk inthis is actually something that fascinates me and i'd like your own opinions on the subject.
i list here things i feel are quintessentially english (with apologies to the scots, welsh and irish as they have their own uniqueness).. first of all, it's got to be a cup of tea (yes, i know it wasn't originally made here, but it has become an integral part of 'englishness').. cup of tea.
cricket.
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lostlantern
Cute little cars in England
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What made you lose your joy in serving Jehovah?
by JH inwe all started off as happy witnesses, except for those dragged into this religion by force as kids.. in my case, i found that there were way too many meetings.
then seeing the new system being constantly pushed back, and finally when i saw a lack of true love in the congregation.
and when they hinted that probably there wouldn't be any sex and marriage for the resurrected ones.
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lostlantern
Everything just became a burden, it was all work without reward. I felt like I couldn't keep up, thus not good enough.
I started out as a regular pioneer, when I married I didn't fit into the new congregation. The regular pioneers had their clique and I didn't fit, I had to drop off of the list: lack of hours and needed to work fulltime.
I hated seeing the competition in the hall between the young couples, competing for friends, priviledges, answering, who's husband has more responsibility, etc. I hated seeing how my husband would feel when they would take privilidges away for stupid reasons and then dangle them as carrots. He decided he didn't care anymore, no more games for him. I then hated myself for wishing he did care so that the sisters wouldn't look down on me. Such a viscious cycle. It was so "high-school" and I didn't care for high-school the first time.
The last straw was seeing my brother disfellowshipped under circumstances where he should have recieved love from the shephards he trusted. When he was told that he was found repentant but still needed to be punished by disfellowhipping and serve his sentence something inside me died.
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My Wife is pregnant, wow!
by jwfacts inthe day i was told i was going to be d/f i my wife also did a test and found out she is pregnant.
yesterday she went to the doctor and she is already 9 weeks.
i can't think of a better way to move on and create a new and wonderful life.. i am 36, going on 21, and have a 19 yo step son and 13 yo step daughter that i love dearly.
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lostlantern
Congratulations
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Marriage - Why bother?
by Spectrum inyet another friend's marriage has broken down(5th), this one i did not predict at all.
it came as a shock to me.
they got married after 10 years of living together so it's not like they didn't know each other.
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lostlantern
Marriage is work, and it isn't always a bed of roses but it can be very rewarding. Hopefully there are more good times than bad. It is really nice to have that one person you consider your "soul-mate", you may not always see eye to eye but in the end having that kind of love is special. I enjoy having someone in my life to share my days with, my nights, and having that feeling that he is the one person I can be completely free with.
I think as a woman it feels important to be "married," it takes away that feeling in the back of your head that you can be disposable. I think if you can take the step of marriage it can open up a whole new level of your relationship because it shows you will both endevour to be committed to oneanother. I think the committment helps in the tough times.
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I had an epiphany
by lostlantern ini will start by apologizing for the following rant and i hope i do not bore everyone but this is on my mind.
i had an epiphany.
it may have been a segment on the today show, a short piece about catholics and celibacy that started the thought process.
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lostlantern
I should clarify about the children. I am not pregnant yet but we hope to be soon. If it does happen it will be nice letting all know that we actually planned it. You know what I mean, that is the first question brothers and sisters from the hall ask you. "was it planned?", like oh my gosh are you crazy, Armageddon is coming.
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I had an epiphany
by lostlantern ini will start by apologizing for the following rant and i hope i do not bore everyone but this is on my mind.
i had an epiphany.
it may have been a segment on the today show, a short piece about catholics and celibacy that started the thought process.
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I will start by apologizing for the following rant and I hope I do not bore everyone but this is on my mind.
I had an epiphany. It may have been a segment on the Today show, a short piece about Catholics and celibacy that started the thought process. My instant thought about priests not marrying was how ridiculous, why allow the church to control your ability to have a family. Why must you give up a wife and children just because you decided to be a minister for God? Then it hit me, as Jehovah’s Witnesses we were raised to do the same. We may not have to sacrifice having a “family” (or a marriage mate, that is) for the lord’s sake but we are raised to sacrifice other things for the sake of the ministry. My husband and I have had lengthy discussions about how our futures were shaped in the “truth,” and how they could have been different if we would have approached things from another vantage point. My real point being, education. I was driving to work and all of a sudden, I wondered what I could have been. Instead of being the office “gopher,” doing what no one else wants to do, where else could I be? As a teenager, I was talented, smart, and artistic. I had counselors who begged me to go to college but I resisted and stuck to my goal of regular pioneering. I am not saying that I did not enjoy the time I spent in my “ministry” nor can I say that I fully regret it. I just wish that we could have made the choice about college 13 years ago without it being served up with a huge spoon of guilt. I guess in my ‘rather about way’ of telling my story what I am saying is that it finally hit me about our lack of freedom of choice. As Jehovah’s Witnesses, we are raised to be lifetime ministers for Jehovah, putting the organization first and ourselves last. We make sacrifices from a very young age, the current example being that we don’t take advantage of education as young people. I wish now that I had pursued some sort of extra education. It is hard now to look back on a decision that was so easy for me make at the time and reconcile it with where I am now.
I am proud of my husband though, he has gone back to school, and he is doing great. I am considering doing the same thing. However, to be honest after 10 years of marriage I am looking forward to having children and not feeling guilty about that decision either.
Our new motto is, it is never too late.
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Why do you read the Literature?
by lime05 inas a non-jw why do you read the society's literature.
i do it because it saves me money, i dont have to buy comedy dvd's to have a laugh.
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lostlantern
My mom brings me the magazines like clockwork. I scan through them and I do find some interesting articles. Some subjects I actually enjoy and and some items I just enjoy relating to my husband so I can watch him laugh. Now my mother wants me to listen to her WT on CD, not quite up for that.
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Sicker than a dog last night - info needed
by Lady Lee inwhen i get sick it is rarely very bad.
i have a pretty strong stomach and can only recall twice when i was so sick to have my head hanging over the toilet.
once when i got food poisoning and when my appendix almost burst.
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lostlantern
Maybe you should do what my parents have done, have a phone put in the bathroom right next to the toilet. A little gross I know, sort of funny but it has come in handy for them.
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Does your JW baptism still mean anything to you?
by JH in.
all i know is that jesus said to get baptized.
he didn't say in what religion though.. although i don't go to meetings anymore and don't plan on going anymore, i'm still glad that i was baptized.
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lostlantern
I can honestly say that my baptism is still important to me even though I have issues with the JW Faith. I was baptized at a young age, just as a lot of witness youth are but my parents never pushed it. In fact my parents always held baptism out as something to do for Jehovah and no one else. I can see now that they raised us quite different from how they were "supposed to", but their methods did bring us close together as a family, and they instilled love for Jehovah and his qualities by appreciating his creation. I guess in my head and heart I don't link my baptism directly to being one of Jehovah's witness. It has always held its own "place" in my heart and I refuse to let men take that special feeling or connection away from me. My feelings towards being in the "truth" however are different and I haven't quite figured out how to deal with that. I know one thing for sure, even though my parents raised us in a household where we didn't follow the "regimented program" they would never understand my feelings of doubt and misgivings regarding Jehovah's Witnesses that I now feel. It seems that nothing is easy.