My 'ex' used to tell my daughter lies about our relationship, and how he was a good guy and that my reasons for leaving him were lame excuses .
One time, after his visit when she was 8 or 9, she told me I was selfish for depriving her of a fulltime father. I knew where those words came from. So I told her about his verbal and emotional abuse and I told her that neither she or I deserved that kind of treatment.
I can understand why you want to protect your boys. But if the abuse is the reason, I think it's acceptable to explain that to your children. Even the WT indicates that divorce for abuse is acceptable, but remarriage isn't.
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any advice?
by J-ex-W inmy oldest son informed me tonight that he will not have a relationship until/ unless i do two things: 1) start going back to meetings (of course), and 2) show, seem, or whatever, that i'm sorry for all the pain that i caused him/ the family by divorcing their dad.
[i told him there are a lot of decisions i made that caused them pain which i do regret, but that i cannot regret leaving their dad.
this for him, is evidence of my wrongness in his and in wt eyes.. he said outright that "there can be no reason, short of dad being a serial killer" that could justify my divorcing him, and that the "only thing [that i] could tell him that would seem to justify it could only be a pack of lies.
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The strangest looking (and acting) nut jobs you have ever seen at the KH!
by new boy inthere are so many after after 52 years in the "borg".. my top two would have to be at my last hall tigard oregon.. one lady slept in her pickup truck with 30 parakeets, sometimes in the kh parking lot.
people tried to help her with accommodations but she like the truck.
she really dressed up for the meetings......feather boa's, big hats, looked like may west from the 30's.
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I liked the nutjobs.
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Lack of gatherings means the congregation only exists in the Kingdom Hall
by truthseeker inthis is the situation with my congregation and i wonder if it is the same with yours.. as many of you know, the watchtower is not known for organising social gatherings of any kind for relaxation or enjoyment.. many of us only come into contact with witnesses while going to meetings and going out on field service.. as soon as you leave the hall, the congregation ceases to exist, in my mind anyway.. when you go back to the hall, the congregation exists, but only for the time you are there.. think about it - you spend 2 hours sitting and perhaps 10 minutes talking during each meeting.
if you have no friends in the hall that you see on a regular basis, then you feel like you're on your own until the next meeting.. .
my point is this: for those who still go but are not invited out anywhere, particularly if they are fading, do you feel that the congregation only exists in the kingdom hall?
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I agree too. I thought I wasn't invited because I didn't go in service and was 'weak'.
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I suppose I should stop lurking,
by SacrificialLoon inand introduce myself.
i was raised in "the truth", and for the longest time it was all i knew.
i spent my childhood going through all the things that other witness children went through; not celebrating holidays, not standing up and reciting the pledge of allegiance, not going to school events, or associating with "worldly" children much.
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Hi SL,
Welcome to jwd, fellow Texan!
Come chat with us at one of two places, f you're not to afraid to chat with apostates. ;-)
http://gabbly.com/www.jehovahs-witness.com
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Nosferatu's School of Dating - Lesson 2.1 - The Approach
by Nosferatu innow that you've done your practice on starting conversations with strangers, it's time to actually approach women.. first of all, let's cover what not to do when approaching a woman:.
1) never approach a woman from behind.
you will startle her.
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For you guys reading this keep in mind: This approach may work on a certain target (young party girls in a club) but will not work on other women. For me personally, gentle teasing is ok, but putdowns are not a way to build rapport with me. If a strange man is trying to lead me away from the group by manhandling me, I'm not going to go.
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crazyblondeb......hey, she needs some encouragement
by purplesofa incrazy can't get online, and jwd is a real support system to her right now.. i talked with her a few minutes ago on the phone......... and she is going to call me tomorrow.. her mom is driving her nuts, she is ready to make a change in her life........and i am asking you to encourage her, as she is being very couragious right now.
i am proud of her.
she is going to call tomorrow and i would like to be able to read some wonderful things to her from her friends at jwd!!!!!.
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((( shelley))) You've overcome so much and I know you'll make it through this as well. Please let me know what I can do to help!
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Last night, I saw a poster for the first time and I'm still thinking about him. Lust at first sight. ;-)
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My Wife Just Left Me Because of the Evil Watchtower
by rassillon inthis is very difficult to write because i am crying.
i am normally not the kind of person you will ever see cry because things don't affect me that much but this has got to be the hardest things i have ever went through.. i just got through discussing with my wife my feelings.
i guess it has been hard to hid some of the things that i have felt since i have learned that many of the wt teachings are false.
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(( rass ))
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Most Americans will not have pensions, so this is an alternate retirement vehicle. The major difference between this and a pension: we have to fund it ourselves.
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What sorts of books or other material do you read?
by zagor ini dont think i have a particular style.
in fact it changed through different stages of my life.
as a kid i loved reading novels, which changed once i came into my teens, and i started developing interest in hard stuff of natural world, psychology, ancient cultures and mysteries.
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I've been a bookworm since I learned to read. I loved reading about history and other cultures. I wanted to be an Egyptologist when I was 9 or 10, so read a lot on ancient Egypt. I also had a fascination with India around that time as well, and read what few books I could find.
I also read biographies, especially of women and Nancy Drew mysteries. Reading about accomplished women led me to aspire to more in life than what my parents (or the WTS) presented as options.
As a teen, I started reading the classics for fun. I read all of Jane Austen's novels, some Charles Dickens and others. I enjoyed Taylor Caldwell's and Leon Uris works as well. Also read some tame romance novels (which I think should be banned.)
I also used my meager earnings to buy Cosmopolitan magazine and Self magazines. These introduced me to the world of careers, sex, self-help, and some alternative health ideas.
As I look at my bookcases now, I have books on career topics, computers/software development, starting a business, investing, health (mainly alternative), travel, cookbooks, philosophy, psychology/self help, relationships, parenting, business, gardening, home repair, interior design.
I buy very little fiction, usually borrowing it from the library. My favorite author is Alexander Mccall Smith.
In the past, I have subscribed to as many as 30 magazines, mirroring my interests above. Now, I'm down to 'only' 10 subscriptions.