Now that you've done your practice on starting conversations with strangers, it's time to actually approach women.
First of all, let's cover what NOT to do when approaching a woman:
1) NEVER approach a woman from behind. You will startle her. If she gets negative feelings from you from the get go, things will not go well.
2) DO NOT get your friend to approach her for you. Women like men who can confidently approach them and begin a conversation. If you get a friend to approach her, your friend will have a better chance of getting a date with her.
3) DO NOT write her a note to let her know you exist. It's impersonal and highschool-ish.
4) DO NOT compliment her on her physical appearance to get her interested. Women get complimented often from other men. You want to be different and original.
5) DO NOT use a common pickup line to get her attention. Common pick up lines portray a lack of creativity, a lack of originality, and desperation.
Approach Anxiety
You will most likely get a heavy dose of approach anxiety when you see a woman you'd like to approach. This is what will kill your success if you don't overcome it. One of the "tricks" that is promoted in the seduction community is the three second rule. After you see a woman, you count to three, and then start walking toward her. If you've been practicing approaching and conversing with strangers, your approach anxiety should be a bit easier to overcome. Focus on getting your legs to move in the direction of the woman instead of what you're going to say. It's here where the observation skills you've practiced will be useful. Remember, you'll be more upset if you fail to approach than if you approach and get rejected.
Approach the woman from the front, and begin with your natural opener. Keep the conversation pleasant, light-hearted, and even fun. If you find yourself running out of things to say, just excuse yourself and take a small break Say something like, "Well, I have to go back to babysitting my friends, but I'll chat with you in a little bit". After a few minutes, you may approach the woman again and continue conversing with her.
The actual seduction does NOT happen on the initial approach. It begins once you build up some good rapport between the two of you. I hope to get more into building rapport in the next lesson, followed by the number close.
Note that this is what you use for places where people are pretty much stationary such as a bar, or even a store where the woman is working. I suggest practicing this before doing cold approaches at places like grocery stores where women are not going to remain for long periods of time. Once you get better at approaching women, then feel free to see how quickly you can get a phone number from a woman in public.
Women in groups
Many times, you will not encounter a woman who is by herself at the bar. They usually go to the bar in herds consisting of other women, and sometimes men. When you encounter women in groups, there is a good chance you will encounter a cockblocker. A cockblocker is someone who will prevent you from successfully meeting, building rapport, and number closing a woman. Female cockblockers are more difficult to bypass than male ones. Men will usually just try to insult you while the women will physically take your target elsewhere.
The best way to get into the group of people where your target is located is to approach the least attractive person(s) in the group, and work your way up. The least attractive people are the ones who will be the most likely to cockblock you, so you need to make friends with them first before going for your target.
Continue to move up in the group ladder in order of attractiveness. For example, you begin talking to the men, then the women you find unattractive, and then your target. DO NOT try to number close all of the women in the group. Choose one woman per group.
When working your group, try to ignore your target until you've made "friends" with the rest of the group. If she tries to get your attention, call her on it. For example, say "Wow, don't you just want to be the center of attention!" or "Hey, wait your turn!". Treat her like she's the LEAST desireable in the group until you're done working the rest of the group. This is where neg-hits come in handy, but I'll get into those later since they're not completely necessary and are easy to screw up.
NOTE: If your target happens to be the girfriend of someone else in the group, excuse yourself from the group and find another target elsewhere. If you want to find out if she's taken, just ask the person you're talking to "So how does everybody know each other?" (Yes, I took that one from Mystery).
After you've disarmed the potential cockblockers in the group by making them your friends, create a bit of rapport with your target. At this point, you don't even need much rapport with her since she's been wanting your attention for the entire time you've been talking to her friends. To get things under way, take her out of the group to dance with her, to play pool with her, to smoke with her, or to just chat with her.
When taking your target away from her group of friends, don't be afraid to be a tad aggressive with her. If she hesitates to leave the group, grab her hand, give her arm a slight tug, and say "Come on, have some fun!" If she still hesitates, tell her with a half smile that she's no fun. Give her a couple of minutes to change her mind. If she doesn't, then it's likely she's not interested and it's time to find another target, possibly even someone else in the group.
This is perhaps the most difficult part of picking up women. It takes confidence, bravery, social skills, and many other things to pick up a woman in real life. Again, I emphasize that practice makes perfect. Once you get this routine down to the last detail, it becomes almost natural.
Now that we've got the routine down, we need to focus on the content of the conversation. Make way for building rapport!