I was given some advice that I thought was profound: Allow yourself to feel the sadness and work your way through it. Too often, we suppress our feelings. Feel them, examine them, and then let them go. Wishing you happy days ahead...
Worldly
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SoSoSad
by Madame Quixote ini feel that nothing i say or do will ever make a difference for them or for others.
they are so locked into, so imprisoned in their marriage to the wbts.
they may never hear or see any real truth about the borg, no matter what i say and do, i know this every day; but some days it just hits me so hard.
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I was kinda down and out today....
by IronClaw inso i went for a ride and stopped by this scenic overlook not to far from my house.
i sat on the bench there just looking at the mohawk valley at its best.
i started thinking what a waste life is when you don't have anyone to share beautiful moments like this with.
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I wish you peace and love. Take care.
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Stay away from the Weirdos!!
by Gill inoh dear!
this is not something i want to tell my mum about.
she would be horrified to hear it.
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I, myself, thought that JW's were very religious people who had some strange customs that I didn't understand, as there is almost no readily available information out there. People of my parent's generation used to slam the doors in the faces of the people who were knocking on doors. I never really knew why they were so against the JW's. After getting to know a JW friend (who was not very honest and forthcoming about what he really believes) I was taken in (although not interested in becoming one of them), until he started to withdraw from our friendship and I started to look into the "religion" more. Now, I have to say, I think it is a cult and I feel really sad for all of the lives that have been ruined.
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Hi
by OpenFireGlass infinally have the time to type more than a sentance.... .
my name is, mike warren... that's my real age in my profile...& yes that's my real pic.
though i was never baptized, i was raised in the silly religion... my parents started their study in early 1974 (at least i got 1birthday &1 christmas, not that i remember...) mom was baptized in less than a year after she started her study... it took my father about 7-8 more years to give up smoking, but he still made all the meetings & ruled with a leather belt.. i also have a younger sister that has faded (she got baptized).
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Great artwork, Mike. Do you have relatives in Alberta, Canada by any chance?
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What are JW's taught about friendships with worldlies?
by Worldly ini'm new to posting here, but i've been lurking for awhile trying to find out more about the jw life, as i have a dear friend who is a jw, but there are many things i don't understand about him, and how he treats our friendship.
i came right out and asked him once if it was true that he was not allowed to be friends with people outside of his religion, and he said "no, but we are encouraged to spend our time with "like-minded" people and that he had other friends besides me who weren't jw.
we met at work and seemed to be very close, but i've always felt some aloofness.
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My friend was clearly conflicted, but possibly on other levels than just the JW thing. He once told me that he always wanted to be my friend, but he no longer stays in touch with me. As I said, he hasn't explained why, so it could be pressure from the organization, or it could be something else. I don't know if I will ever know. Thanks again for all of the insights!
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What are JW's taught about friendships with worldlies?
by Worldly ini'm new to posting here, but i've been lurking for awhile trying to find out more about the jw life, as i have a dear friend who is a jw, but there are many things i don't understand about him, and how he treats our friendship.
i came right out and asked him once if it was true that he was not allowed to be friends with people outside of his religion, and he said "no, but we are encouraged to spend our time with "like-minded" people and that he had other friends besides me who weren't jw.
we met at work and seemed to be very close, but i've always felt some aloofness.
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Thank you again for the insight, all of you! Nellie, my apologies--obviously, I did misunderstand. I'm glad for you that your friends stuck with you! Interestingly, since I wrote yesterday, my JW friend (I still consider him my friend, even though he doesn't talk to me) e-mailed another mutual friend, who also hadn't heard from him for a long time. I think my JW friend is going through some hard times in his life right now. The mutual friend is going to try to meet with him, so maybe we will know more then. I will always care about him and wish him the best. As I said, thanks to all of you, I understand things better now. Cheers!
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I am hurt, my wife had a miscarriage and still my family didn't contact me
by jwfacts intwo weeks ago my wife had a miscarriage at 11 weeks.
it is very sad as it was to be my first child and my wife is already 39. what hurt the most though is that none of my immediate family contacted me.
i was d/f in january and did not expect to hear regularly from my parents and sister.
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Worldly
I am terribly sorry to hear of your loss, and of how your family is treating you. As a non-JW being shunned by a JW who I had considered a close friend, I understand and feel your suffering. Shunning is a terrible, hurtful practice towards anyone, let alone flesh and blood. My advice is to seek out the people who truly care for you and are able to care for you, and to spend as much time in their company as you can. Also, seek counselling from someone outside the organization, who is qualified to help you. And remember that your family is still under the mind control--they are truly the lost souls.
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Another question about JW
by Shazard inas i never been jw i can't understand why some of you bother writing some letters.
if being in wt is not legaly binding (as i understood that baptism is not legaly binding), then who cares about writing.
just stop going to kh and that's all.
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As a non-JW, I have wondered about this as well. To my mind, anyone should be able to walk away from this or any organization at any time, unless they are somehow legally bound. To me, this seems like the mind control holding you there unless you "write the letter" and this is just a way for them to keep tabs on you. Am I understanding this correctly, in that if you "write the letter," then you can walk away without people officially shunning you? But if you don't, you'll be shunned? It seems like the same kind of hold that spousal abusers have over the abused spouse--it isn't really real, but the abused person thinks it is and so they stay. Or they leave and go back, because of that psychological hold. To those of us who have not been in these types of "mind control" situations, it really doesn't make any sense that JW's must or must not do anything.
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What are JW's taught about friendships with worldlies?
by Worldly ini'm new to posting here, but i've been lurking for awhile trying to find out more about the jw life, as i have a dear friend who is a jw, but there are many things i don't understand about him, and how he treats our friendship.
i came right out and asked him once if it was true that he was not allowed to be friends with people outside of his religion, and he said "no, but we are encouraged to spend our time with "like-minded" people and that he had other friends besides me who weren't jw.
we met at work and seemed to be very close, but i've always felt some aloofness.
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A much-belated thank you to all who responded to my question. I was having trouble with my computer and getting into the forum, so please accept my apology for not responding sooner. Your answers have helped to explain the complete and painful breakdown in the relationship with my JW friend. He no longer wants to have contact with me, but he never explained himself in any way, and refused to meet me in person. It was breaking my heart not to know why, but thanks to you all, I now understand somewhat (though I don't understand that way of thinking at all). I wish that he ahd been honest with me, either before we became close, or at the very least about why he was discontinuing the friendship. Although, I wouldn't have liked it, it would have saved a lot of heartbreak over the last couple of years. It would have been easier for him, too, because I would have respected his decision more. Nellie, maybe after you explained your experiences to your non-JW friends and they have all faded away, it is because they are afraid of being hurt again if you went back to the faith. Not an excuse for them, because if that is so, they should tell you that, but it's just a thought.
Thank you all very much!
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What are JW's taught about friendships with worldlies?
by Worldly ini'm new to posting here, but i've been lurking for awhile trying to find out more about the jw life, as i have a dear friend who is a jw, but there are many things i don't understand about him, and how he treats our friendship.
i came right out and asked him once if it was true that he was not allowed to be friends with people outside of his religion, and he said "no, but we are encouraged to spend our time with "like-minded" people and that he had other friends besides me who weren't jw.
we met at work and seemed to be very close, but i've always felt some aloofness.
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Hi! I'm new to posting here, but I've been lurking for awhile trying to find out more about the JW life, as I have a dear friend who is a JW, but there are many things I don't understand about him, and how he treats our friendship. I came right out and asked him once if it was true that he was not allowed to be friends with people outside of his religion, and he said "No, but we are encouraged to spend our time with "like-minded" people and that he had other friends besides me who weren't JW. We met at work and seemed to be very close, but I've always felt some aloofness. Last year he moved out of the country for a year, and was more distant, and though he is back in town now, that distance remains, and we have had little contact. After researching about JW's, and checking things out here, I'm still pretty much in the dark about the specific teachings and practices about "worldly" friends. I'm hoping some of you can enlighten me and please, be as specific as possible. Thanks, and good luck to all of you who are coping with becoming or being an ex-JW!