It's like the Maury Povich show, and, honestly, I worry about letting our own kids visit too much. She doesn't talk with me on any type of regular basis becuase I'd give her a piece of my mind too quickly. Everything I've begged she do, she does opposite.
I hear from others about her. Good news. She did graduate High School and has, supposedly, gone a quarter at a local college but now isn't in school. She might start back in September. She's supposed to be looking for a job. She's a good looking and smart girl, but sports lip and tongue rings and strangly colored hair. So, she's limited her ability to get a job.
Bad news, shortly after high school got pregnant with a real "winner" of a guy. He's long gone, stiffs her on child support, and the baby is now a toddler. Her second boyfriend had an felony record and was using her house as a hide out until the police picked him up for violating parole. I think the record was armed robbery. When he returned from jail, he wasn't allowed to live at her house. So, she ran away with him from home with the baby to another loser's house. They broke up and she moved back home. She is now hooked up with another winner. His own dad has almost given up on him. Her boyfriends are all carbon copies of each other. No job, car, or prospect. And, she's a good looking girl who is smart. I hope she wises up the closer she gets to 25 years old. I pray she doesn't start stealing from stores and/or get arrested. I super pray she doesn't get pregnant again.
Like Maury Povich, I believe that every person is a good person down inside. But, they have to choose to beleive that they are. Personally, I would love to find a magic solution to help her out. I get so saddened by the life the little kid has to lead. I know the cycle of poverty all too well. It has the entire extended family very sad and depressed. Some family members just don't deal with it at all. I wish I could just wipe the sadness all away and make it better for her and the baby and everyone. But, she has to learn her own lessons. I can't interfere in whatever it is "someone up there in heaven" is trying to teach her. Besides, she doesn't want to take any of my or other family members' advice.