It was always a mystery to me too. I agree with Willyloman. Admonishment is easy. Conciliation is harder.
The WTS
ä is a commercial organisation that in my opinion doesn't protect its investment, although maybe it can be said that shunning and other methods are their preferred tactic.
I stopped going to meetings
and only one person asked me why, my Elder ä brother-in-law. "Don't you believe it's the truth anymore?" he asked. I love him to bits and I didn't want to rock his world. "Yes I do but I can't live up to the standards" I replied. I'd so much love to go back in time and give him the real answer. In an attempt to save his feelings I put the blame on myself rather than the Watchtower. ä
Clam
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