I never had anything to do with the jw-ism until I married a walk-away, so somebody smack me if I'm out of line. One of my parents was a malignant narcissist, and since the society/organization (whatever) is malignantly narcissistic, I see similarities. My family was lost to me during periods of shunning. I decided that I was the only person whose approval really mattered. I know what I am, and there is nothing wrong with me. If they can't or won't see that, it's their loss. I will never have even a semi-normal relationship with my parents -- the narcissist is dead and the other is senile. I have other people who give so much more than they ever did.
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left 16yrs ago n still have issues and confidence probs,
by xnmad inileft "the truth" 16yrs ago and still cant move on in some areas of my life, i have no family now as they stopped talking to me and have never relented.this has left me with serious problems with needing aproval from people in my life.i have never stopped trying to win my fathers aproval and no i,l never have it unless i go back(which would never happen)jus wondered if any1 else has similar hangups, n if you do, how do i deal with it n move on.
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favorite movie lines
by bigdreaux inmine is from animal house: .
over!?!?!?!!?
was it over when the germans bombed pearl harbor?!?!?!?!?!
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RebelWife
Shirley McClaine: Go play with your dick.
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?? Awake pictures
by RebelWife inin the pictures of lala land (paradise earth), why are all the people the same height?
where are the tall people?
did they get zapped because they had an elevated opinion of themselves?
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"...girl fell off the elephant in the picture broke all her bones, and the elephant stamped on her brother and killed him. LOL "What's the umbrella for? Surely not to avoid sunburn.
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Calling all Non-JW spouses of JW's or others in mixed marriages!!
by Mrs. Witness inin therapy yesterday, i came to the conclusion that i've either got to figure out how to live with my jw hubby or abandon ship.
i'm looking for stories here...successful mixed marriages, divorce stories and how you got there, all of it.
i need to figure out my breaking point and others' experiences, i'm sure, will give me insight!
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I just read your story. Wow. We don't have kids, but there are quite a few similarities there. You're living in hell. My husband announced his intentions shortly after we were married. Not on the honeymoon, but it still blew me away. Good way to start a marriage. Yanked out the very foundation -- trust. After about two years, he finally admitted to being deceitful by planning ahead of time to return after we were married. And he feels bad about it now.
My main thing with him now is how he feels about "worldly" people. I'm working on that one with him. (I hate feeling like my husband is a lab speciman.) He still won't admit that we're all doo-doo, according to his belief system. I don't care. I'm pursuing that line, because I know what they think. I want some good quotes. There was one from a Dec. 15, 2005 magazine that referred to us as "household pests," you know, like cockroaches. My questions to him run along the lines of: Since you believe they are right, do you feel that way about me? Since I fit into the "worldly" category, how can you not? What's it like to make love to a cockroach? Do you think about that when we are? Does your religion say that everyone who doesn't follow them is a cockroach -- except for YOUR wife? Since you don't believe that about me, what are you going to do when your friends start badmouthing me/worldly people? Are you going to stand up and tell them they're wrong?
Sorry for the rant. There were a lot of good thoughts on that thread. I particularly agree with GaryBuss' thoughts. When things get really scary for him (either because I'm being pushy or because of outside stressors), he talks about going back. He has decided abandonment issues and his childhood was horrible. I believe he sees the religion as a safety blanket because of the rigidity and the promises it makes. It's escapism, as are all addictions.It's great that he goes to therapy with you. Mine won't. I take that back. He recently said he wouldn't go if it had to do with religion. Seems like it would be better to keep to the issues that cause the addiction, things like his fears. If anybody, especially the therapist, talks about religion, I think he'll pull his head back into his shell and your husband won't be in the room anymore. I would like some counselling to help us with the WAY that we argue. These are just some of my thoughts on MY bunny-hop with MY husband. This is a great place to learn. I lurked for a long time before posting and it's helped quite a bit. The main thing is to be gentle. Hubby's in hell too. His brain and his heart are being pulled apart.
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Study articles I would love to comment on:
by OnTheWayOut ini made this comment on stilla's thread, but i thought it could be it's own thread.. as the wts starts the "members only" study mags, it is possible that they will .
bring out newer topics that they didn't want the public mags to have.. joke or be serious (please joke more) but what study articles would you like to see?.
study articles i would love to comment on:.
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Lochness Monster attacks WT Headquarters! Governing Body rescued by talking squirrels! Hurray!!
Thanks. I think I broke something when I fell off my chair.
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Calling all Non-JW spouses of JW's or others in mixed marriages!!
by Mrs. Witness inin therapy yesterday, i came to the conclusion that i've either got to figure out how to live with my jw hubby or abandon ship.
i'm looking for stories here...successful mixed marriages, divorce stories and how you got there, all of it.
i need to figure out my breaking point and others' experiences, i'm sure, will give me insight!
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RebelWife
Hi, Mrs. Witness. I feel the same way sometimes. I'm here because I'm trying to figure out how to live with my "walkaway" husband. Sometimes I think I can't stand it anymore, but then everything goes back to "normal." (My guy isn't in or trying to get back in, but it's only a matter of time before that threat comes up again.) Makes me nuts. When it comes up, we have a huge argument, and I think it's all over. I do see progress, though. I try to avoid the meltdowns, because it pushes him away from me and toward IT. Is this how you feel most of the time, or did y'all just have a big blow-up?
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Prince and Heterosexual Males
by Blueblades inprince's statement that solomon is his idol because he had a thousand wives, has had a comment made on another link known as channel "c" .." the average heterosexual male is only able to have intercourse between five and seven thousand times in a lifetime.
" so, solomon's wives must of have been frustrated because of this.... i don't understand how this statement was documented, the five to seven thousand times, and what is considered a lifetime, and who were the heterosexual males that were tested to support this.
?..not you, mister hugh hefner.
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Solomon is his idol
His what? CAn you say IDOLATRY? Off topic, I know.
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?? Awake pictures
by RebelWife inin the pictures of lala land (paradise earth), why are all the people the same height?
where are the tall people?
did they get zapped because they had an elevated opinion of themselves?
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"Jw's have been in harvest time since the late 1800's" lol! WTWizard -- And I suppose corn & squash & everything else will be perennials and peach trees won't need to be dormant to produce good fruit. Persimmons won't need frost to get sweet. Wait -- you mean they have to go beat on doors even in LaLa Land? Well, wouldn't the incessant fruitpicking get in the way of that? And where do the bad people who need to be preached to live? BFD -- I wondered about that. What would be the problem, if everyone is so pure?
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?? Awake pictures
by RebelWife inin the pictures of lala land (paradise earth), why are all the people the same height?
where are the tall people?
did they get zapped because they had an elevated opinion of themselves?
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Is it just me? In the pictures of LaLa Land (paradise earth), why are all the people the same height? Where are the tall people? Did they get zapped because they had an elevated opinion of themselves? Where are the ugly people? Where are the domestic animals? Lions are all right, but I really don't want one sitting in my lap. Maybe there won't be time to sit around with a kitty-cat in your lap -- everybody'll be too busy, what with the 24/7 fruit-picking. Will there be snow? Or will it always be harvest time?
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I need your opinion on the WT pedophile cover up
by TooBad TooSad inthe catholic church knows that it has a problem with many of its priest who have been proven.
to be pedophiles.
millions of dollars have been paid out to the victims.
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Protecting an adult's reputation versus protecting a child from the damage of rape -- which is more important? Hmm, let me see... real tough question.