as a dental patient!!
lol.
i went to a new dentist today - my last dentist retired and that was a couple of years ago soooo, i figured i'd put it off long enough.. he was a really great dentist - gave me a really thourough exam and told me that from a dental patient standpoint i was boring - i had perfect teeth, perfect bite etc yadda yadda yadda!!.
You are lucky to have boring teeth.
I was born with an extra set of baby teeth. They had to cut them all out. 7 extra teeth.
Then I had my wisdom teeth removed. (4)
Braces for 3 1/2 years.
and 2 more teeth pulled out while I had braces to make room. (making 13 teeth pulled and a whole set of teeth left)
I went to the dentist earlier this month for a cleaning. He said I had excellent teeth and wish more people had my teeth... I just laughed .. It took a lot of work to get to this point.
just to reiterate, i have not been to a meeting in years, and have no intention of going back.
my wife on the other hand is a "cold"/"lukewarm" jdub.
i really like it that way as she is not "strong" and misses a lot of meetings.
I think she very well might feel pressured and annoyed by them now.
The only thing you can do is to plan cool stuff for you two to do while she would be going to a meeting/service/study.
Something that helped my ex-husband get me out (he's an ex for un-jw related reasons) was to ask questions like, "Ya know, I really don't understand why they make everyone dress up like that. It seems to me that it would make new ones feel intimidated. And the people you meet in the field ministry probably don't think you are as approachable like that. In fact when I was in the bank the other day, they were dressed a lot more casual than that too."
Or "I think (insert name of non-jw here) is the nicest person I've ever met. I hear they go to (insert the name of their church here)"
or give advice contrary to what a typical JW would do but that really makes sense. For example: Sister "in everyone's business" gossips a lot. She says, "I think she's bad association. I'm not going to say another word to her." And you say, "I thought Jesus said that you should love one another. Maybe you should try a more considerate kind approach."
Just challenge her way of thinking.
i sent out wedding invitations last week.
apparently they caused my parents to get a divorce.
i got an e-mail from my mother saying that she left my dad, is filing for divorce, and that dad thinks she left because she wants to go to my wedding and he won't let her.
I think my mother is nuts. I got this at lunch:
Hey baby, give me some of those fancy words that tells what I do here at the bank to add to my resume.
Now I'm "baby" that she wants something....
they proved to me once and for all that they have gone completely bananas.
i sent it without any commentary, just 'link attached'.
mind you now, we do not speak.
This sounds EXACTLY like my mother... WOW .. Scarey too ..
My mother talks in all caps even though I've explained that its rude. My mother will only talk to me in e-mails. And when I do bring up something negative to her about the WT she lashes out at me just like your mother did:
YOUR LINK JUST PROVES ONE THING, THAT THE ELDERS ARE ON THE BALL, PROTECTING THE FLOCK. YOUR NEGATIVITY WILL GET YOU NO WHERE.
This is why I come to this board--to know that I'm not alone. And you are not alone. I know how you feel and know that you are welcome to keep sharing these experiences as you need to. ((((((HUG)))))))
this is very difficult to write because i am crying.
i am normally not the kind of person you will ever see cry because things don't affect me that much but this has got to be the hardest things i have ever went through.. i just got through discussing with my wife my feelings.
i guess it has been hard to hid some of the things that i have felt since i have learned that many of the wt teachings are false.
I don't know what to say except I'm sorry. What this organization does to families is so repulsive. My prayers are with you.
much of christianity is spread by a person telling another person of what christ has done for them.
it is called a testimony.
they can be very helpful in bringing others to chirst.. i was wondering how effective it would be to create a podcast featuring all of our experiences in and out of jw.
i put the following comment on answers.yahoo.com about changes to watchtower revelation doctrine.
there have been three different versions of god given light in the watchtower publications so far;.
1. calvin studies in the scriptures series vii- the finished mystery p.151 "calvin is entitled to the honor of having at one time been a papal star .... is called wormwood.
Now I know why I didn't make a good JW. I was too nice. I tried to make real logical arguments... but there aren't any so I had to get out and argue the other side's better arguments.
good evening,.
i am a virgin to this forum do bear with me!.
i am curious who visits.
5th generation daughter of an elder and daughter of a former pioneer. Grand daughter of a presiding overseer. Grand daughter of a regular pioneer. Neice of 2 regular pioneers. Neice of another presiding overseer. Cousin of a presiding overseer. Cousin of a Bethelite... AND..... DISASSOCIATED NEVER GOING BACK FLAMING EX-JW AND EVERYONE KNOWS ABOUT IT!!! (oh and a member of a Baptist church .. hahahaha)
ok. so i take out to lunch this business associate of mine to solidiy our budding relationship.
a bit of shmoozing.. half way through lunch i'm asked if i didn't want any more children (i have a grown child who is married) and when i started to reply.
i stopped myself.
My Dad ran into a JW when he was on vacation. He could tell they were JWs by the speech they used. He saw it as the coolest thing ever. I thought it was weird and cultish.
i sent out wedding invitations last week.
apparently they caused my parents to get a divorce.
i got an e-mail from my mother saying that she left my dad, is filing for divorce, and that dad thinks she left because she wants to go to my wedding and he won't let her.
yeah its gotta suck to think you are right but see my life working and hers is miserably failing yet she has the "troof"
