yes but they mean well
We all did, and that has its limitation too. Shunning your fellowman out of fear fabricated by a man made publishing company has nothing to do with good intentions. It has to do with fear. There are great individuals in the organization just like there are outside of it. But their good stops at the point they abandon true "good" out of fear of punishment or loss of promised reward.
loyalty = paradise for the individual. That good intention is selfish and exploited by the likes of ISIS
Either my flair for subtlety is severely lacking or my wife is exceptionally sensitive (probably both) because this doesn't work either. Sometimes I'll be innocently trying to talk to her about something I find interesting and it just so happens to go counter to JW doctrine (sometimes not even then, but it touches on a topic that she thinks might go against JW doctrine) and she'll flat out leave the room and not talk to me for a couple hours. But that's getting a bit far off topic, I think...
Well don't give up, I used to the go through the same thing, my wife has done a 180 degree flip. Just keep being the peaceful one and showing yourself to be better out of this cult than you were in it.