Posts by jojochan

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Advice on Separating & Divorce

by damselfly in

we have a few posters on here that are going through a divorce or a separation.

in order to respect their privacy i will not be naming them in this thread.

do you have advice to give them?

jojochan

The one positive thing for me was that I never had children with that woman. Don't get me wrong; I loved the idea of being married, but we grew apart. She had her own agenda in her own life, and I wasn't part of it by HER choice. In the end I know I should'nt let that make me bitter but it's hard. The one thing now that I enjoy is time for myself. I was always the type of person that was happy when my woman was happy.Now I have time for myself to make me happy. I go out now, I work out. And I enjoy my solitude.

But I still long for that female companionship though. I know I have female friends, but that one certain woman that I could call my own? No.

Personally I feel that I don't have anything left in the tank to give.

jojochan.

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Where were you when the realization hit, that the WTS was not in the truth?

by whyizit in

jw
friends

i was listening to a testimonial by valerie acuff and she said that she was sitting in an assembly, looking around at the crowd and thinking to herself, "this is your family, these are your people.".

she said at that moment she heard a voice inside say, "these are not your people, this is not your family, get up and leave now, and don't ever go back.

" so she took her two children at that very moment and left, and she never went back.

jojochan

For me it was several things. The politics of who to d.f or to give private or public reproof. The blood issue, the conditional love. "Their" bible, but when you look in the bible in living english it mentions of jesus' crucifixtion. The doctrial changes, ect. You see where this is going right? Deep down inside I always had this naggin feeling inside of me; questioning is this all there is to my life? Running to the hall, and pushing magazines out in the streets? Being obssesed with turning in feild service time? Time that I could never get back? I gave my youth, I gave my heart..What I learned in return from that place was how to give circular reasoning, yes...I learned how to bullsh&t!

Plus when I learned that they had joined the U.N and did'nt mention anything to the lambs, that was it...They could've made a new light policy change like they ALWAYS did...but they did'nt, which makes them suspect. Plus it was too much like the matrix, it did'nt feel real. It was phoney. I got screwed more in the collective than on the outside of it. Strange indeed.But also I've noticed that more of my "friends" that were inside at the time were on anti depressants. Most of my family is on antidepressants, and anti anxiety meds as well. And they "that" was the truth...The funny thing is, now that they left; they did'nt need them anymore, the reason was they were struggling to embrace the lie for their family and for themselves. Many a time I had to sit ther and listen to them cry about how they did'nt feel good enough for god that they did'nt go out in feild service. inside I was pissed. It's just so pharaseical of the organization to impose this on the flock in this way. That's when I came to the realization that I had to escape for my own sanity, and if I were to be in a relationship again...for HER sanity as well...If that ever happens.

For me it is an ongoing struggle, I have my good days then bad. But I'm satisfied with my life now than how I was 8 years ago.

That was a mindfu^k in all itself...believe me.

jojochan.

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Final Fight - Round 1

by KW13 in

jw
friends

i did something smart lol!

firstly talking respecfully to my mum got further than shouting so now the last ideas.... firstly i e-mailed the british musuem, ask about their tours, information on things they have on the site and all that.

this will enable me to take mum there and show her the truth.. secondly and finally i've decided i want to contact the united nations.

jojochan

OH and the oddest thing, i prayed that mum wouldn't go to the meeting on the Sunday and guess what?! There she was sat downstairs and we had a huge chat about JW's

XD!!! I had to laugh at that one.

Well done, but tread lightly....the scariest thing for you to do right now is to free a JW's mind so abruptly. Take it slow. It will be fine.

Oh, yeah...Pm if you would like on the J Dilla donuts, and your opinon on that record.

cheers,

jojochan.

18

What is Love?

by Soapydish in

i've become confused w/love in these past two years.

my wife says she's polyamorous.

that opened my eyes to a whole way of seeing things.

jojochan

Love is a stupid emotion that makes otherwise intelligent people do very stupid things.

Yep.. that pretty much sums it. Or how about this one,

"Love is never having to say you are sorry."

Or better yet...here's my favorite right now,

"Like I say many times....Love is an illusion."-Jamie Cullum.

mho right now.

jojochan.

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I had that "itch" over the weekend.

by jojochan in

you know the feeling...seperation anxiety.

after that relationship with that "woman" went down the toilet i noticed one creepy thing.

i had way too much time on my hands.

jojochan

Now, to celebrate your new path in life, go get some new clothes, a new hairstyle, grow/shave your facial hair, basically anything that gives you a physical change. It will make you feel like you're on a new path!

That's funny, considering that I had lost 15lbs now over this. I wear smaller clothes, brighter clothes. And I'm growing my hair longer now. I feel better about what happened...she did me a favor.

jojochan.

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Please Give Constructive Criticism

by collegegirl21 in

against my better judgment i have decided to write lack of love life.

i am so confused with someone right now.

here is my story and sorry if it is long.

jojochan

but I found out that he never left where he was coming from. So the joke was on me the whole time. Although I must say that I acted a little ridiculously. I call and left a message and called him a "chicken F*cker" and I told him that he wasn't a man and that he could at least have the balls to let me know if he was ok.

OMFG!! HE is such a pu&&y.

He is not a man. I'm sorry sweetie

jojochan.

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I beg your pardon, but your breast is in my eye!!!

by Scully in

ok, so i'm at the dentist this afternoon - nothing major, just something i've been putting off for a while - and the dental assistant is doing her thing with my teeth - my mouth is wired open (i think i was able to tune into radio transmissions for a while) - and i've got my eyes closed, my glasses off, trying to relax in the chair, while listening to the piped in muzak.. suddenly, i can tell she's really getting into her work - she's leaning against my face and getting quite vigorous about whatever she's doing to my tooth.

then it dawned on me.... ummm... hello.... your breast is in my eye!!!

except my mouth is frozen and wired so that all that's coming out is unintelligible garble... and drool (from being wired open, not because it's the least bit "interesting").. so i'm thinking to myself, if i push her away from my face, she looks the type that would clock me for sexually harassing her... if i say anything to her about it, she'll be embarrassed and might screw up my tooth... if i wait a couple more minutes, she'll be done and i might have an interesting story to share with mr scully... finally, it occurs to me that they said i could give them a signal to stop what they are doing.

jojochan

"Did her breast touch your eye or brush the eye?"
"Was it her left or right breast?"
"Did you touch the breast?"
"Did you have an orgasm when the breast made contact?"
"Do you dream about the breast now that you're not in the chair?"

HAHAHAHAHAH!!!

jojochan.

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Create a Convention name!

by Nosferatu in

jw
friends

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how about the "godly oatmeal" convention.

....or how about the "divine chocolate cake" assembly?

jojochan

THIS JUST IN FROM THE "EVIL SLAVE":

"OBEDIENCE WITHOUT QUESTION" District Convention. "

Coming soon this summer.

jojochan...so and so.

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Afterthoughts on the 3/5/06 article on "Patience"

by jojochan in

it depressed me.... while reading this article i could'nt help but to feel my self worth plummet.

it made me realize one thing about their organization.

what your place is among them.

jojochan

What makes them and the various local Elders so special? Considering all of the problems that have surfaced and has come to light, everyone should demand to see the qualifications and the PROOF of such placement in leadership from GOD.

what makes them so special?? Well, according to THEIR bible they can point to any specific scripture and justify ANYTHING. Plus everyone is too weighed down with their own anxieties, and fear to demand proof, imho.They sum it up to holy spirit,and you HAVE to accept it if you want to stay in the collective. To be a fellow lamb.

A silent lamb.If you are content with being and living that way. Some are content with that life, but I am not.

jojochan.

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UBMs - why do we love JWs??

by Super_Becka in

i think there's been a thread on this before, but i figured i'd ask again.. for all of the ubms out there, why is it that we love witnesses??

what is it about them that we find so attractive??

why are we putting ourselves through this mess when we know full-well that there are lots of non-jws out there who would be better for us??.

jojochan

I think he's finally seeing that there's a fun and exciting world out there and now that he has someone to share it with, he wants to get out and see everything. Sometimes, when I think about it, I think that we're both helping each other grow in different ways.
I think that we're both very immature and inexperienced, but at least for now, we're both growing together, learning new things, seeing new sides of each other, it's nice. And I think, in a way, that's what we both need, someone to grow up with, someone to help us figure out who we are...

And that's the thing that i wanted those that are lurking and are in a relationship with those on the outside to understand. There is infinite possibilities in a relationship with no rules and conditions to strictly to abide by. Foer them to let go, and not be afraid to step outside of that box that they've been poking holes in to see on the outside of all this time. They need to understand how it feels to the other person when they see all this before their eyes.

The good thing is that you accepted him for how he is, even though he is inactive and not baptised.The base foundation is that you love him and desire to make it work. Grow together and not apart. Even though there will be hard times and he will get pin pricks because that's just how it is regarding this belief; you know that he loves you.

And you love him.

jojochan.