Posts by Cindyrenee

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Are You Afraid To Die?

by avidbiblereader in

not the kind of death, but actually dying?

not trying to be morbid, but for now, it is a part of life.. abr.

I am not afraid at all of being dead. The process of dying itself is not something I am looking forward to. As a nurse, I see death frequently. Some people have the blessing of dying a peaceful, painless death, others are not so lucky. Death itself holds no fear for me.

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Have you recovered financially since leaving the Tower?

by lovelylil in

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friends

remember how many families (maybe even yours) struggled with money issues while being a jdub?

i remember lots of families under stress due to being jdubs.

you are always told by the tower not to work overtime if it conflicts with the meetings and not to go for higher education, for the same reason.

Cindyrenee

Doing much better. 25 years in borg, hubby was elder, I reg pioneered, then cut down to aux. when parents became ill, raised two children. Operated window cleaning and janitorial service (imagine that), anyway, here we are (out) five years later, I am a registered nurse for two years, hubby has a good job, not physically exhausting for him, and although most of our friends are financially secure at this point in life, we are like twenty year olds just starting out. Have college loans, etc., but can go out for dinner and order what we want, buy a gift for our kids, etc., and not worry if we have enough money to pay our electric bill. Life is good!

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As lurkers, what kept you from posting? Fear? Was there a basis for it?

by What-A-Coincidence in

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for me it was the fear of getting 'caught'?

if that's the case, just don't give out names, places or dates.. i have been on jwd for over 2 years.

the only way 'they' can catch me is if i give out details on the forum.. so lurkers...come out and get empowered!.

Cindyrenee

I'm just a bit shy & timid until I get to know people.

I think I was told too often when I was little that "Kids are to be seen not heard."

I also have a bad habit of sticking my foot in my mouth. Over the years I've found it best if I just be quiet. :)

Very well put. This is why I read, every day, but rarely post. Somebody else always says exactly what I am feeling. I have NO fear of being caught. This forum has helped me so much. I feel at home lurking here. Thanks all.

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They make you think there are no good people out there.

by LynnTink in

what a wonderful response i have received from my last (which was my first post) post from everyone here.

the one thing that was drilled into my head was that you can not trust anyone that is not a jw.

i had only one worldly friend since high school and she has been there for me thru everything.

Cindyrenee

The people on the outside are much nicer than the ones inside for the most part. Now I know what unconditonal friendship is. Keep your chin up, it gets better. Remember, the friends you make now, are friends because they want to be your friends, not just because you are JWs, and there is no one else to hang out with. Lots more to pick from. Enjoy!!

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child getting baptized

by Cindyrenee in

nine year old grandson studying to be babtized.

any thoughts on this??

i think it is insane.

Cindyrenee

Last night they all sang Christmas songs, including the nine year old studying to be baptized, they were all having a great time, with no JW's around to make them feel guilty. This morning they are all going to church. Not sure where, one of the churches so popular with young families today, where they go and have fun, don't get spanked or anything for moving around, etc. All of the children are excited to go. I'm sure that when their JW daddy finds out the *#%* is going to hit the fan. OUCH!!

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Lost and looking for answers

by LynnTink in

this is my story.

i was born a jw and never knew anything else because my parents shelter from everything but for other reason.

from the time i can remember my dad beat my mom.

Cindyrenee

I am so very sorry that you have had to endure such horrible things. You are alive and have the rest of your life ahead of you to be happy, and in control of your own future. I believe the elders keeping things quiet is the only way they can control. If your Dad would have been corrected for beating your Mom, your life may have take a different turn. Elders have much blood on their hands. I wish the whole world knew these stories. I can't stand the pain they cause innocent people. Reading the posts here will help you realize you are not alone. There are good people, who really care about YOU.

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child getting baptized

by Cindyrenee in

nine year old grandson studying to be babtized.

any thoughts on this??

i think it is insane.

Cindyrenee

Scully,

What you said about marriage and engagements, I know this is true, but my daughter went to visit a friend, she was 18, still in high school. It was spring vacation, she was to graduate in June. Anyway, she met this JW MS. He called her every night for 2 weeks, then came to visit us. He seemed quite nice, very personable. He asked our daughter to MARRY him the next week. Three weeks from the time they met. He was 23. Of course, we freaked. My hubby was an elder, I was pioneer at that time. We refused to go along with this, she was in LOVE, had stars in her baby eyes. We finally agreed to a 6 month engagement. NO WAY. He came up, drove 6 hours, with an elder from his cong, explained to my husband that he couldn't wait, didn't think they could go six month without having sex, and risk disfellowshipping!!!! The elder that came with him, stood there and told our daughter she was 18, an adult, could do what she wants, and we would just have to get over it. She left, married him, two months after meeting, and look at the mess she has to live with now. Our local elders were in complete support of us. We contacted the society; big surprise, they don't get involved. We probably are being over protective, they saie, after all, he is a MS. That is when I stopped pioneering, my hubby stepped aside, and we began our fading journey. At least it was good for us!!! Different congregations seem to have different rules, and not to step on toes, but a back wood congregation of witnesses is a scary thing to deal with.

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child getting baptized

by Cindyrenee in

nine year old grandson studying to be babtized.

any thoughts on this??

i think it is insane.

Cindyrenee

Thanks for all of the excellent input. You have reaffirmed my feelings and thoughts. The eldere where they live are like "Deliverance" elderes. Do what they want. My ex son in laws brother, was baptized at 9, he wrecked his Dad's truck at 6. Anyway, it was such a big deal, ***** is getting baptized, woohoo. Well now ***** is 19, and has been disfellowshipped for dating a worldy girl. Horror. My Grandson has no clue; last year he was all excited to celebrate Christmas, this year he is a prim, little JW. The step mother has a JW view of discipline. My daughter also has triplets, besided the nine year old, they are six, and really confused, anyway the step mother pulls their pants down, spanks them with a wooden spoon, for being disobedient and not sitting still at the KH, etc. My daughter asked them when was the last time she spanked them with the spoon, they looked at the nine year old, who gave them the "SHUT UP" look, and wouldn't talk anymore. They knew he, as the good boy, was going to go home and tell Dad everything they said. I really dislike what they do to people. Breaks my heart. Cindy

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Medical professionals

by Cindyrenee in

looking for information from society that states a nurse, etc., is bound by scripture to turn in members who break jehovah's laws.

thanks a bunch.

cindy

Cindyrenee

Yes, the HIPPA laws are very strict, and this is one of the reasons, people like JW's ratting each other out. I used to work in acute psych, had a woman come in, oh my, she had a break down, all kinds of horrible stuff came out. It certainly was not my place to say anything. She was having enough trouble the way it was. I think it was hard for her to understand that I was NOT going to tell anyone. I wonder how many JW's, if any have been punished by the legal system for HIPPA violations?

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child getting baptized

by Cindyrenee in

nine year old grandson studying to be babtized.

any thoughts on this??

i think it is insane.

Cindyrenee

His Mother, who is df'd asked him if he understood he would not be able to talk to her, he said "No.", he has no clue,as stated here, they want to push the numbers up, don't really care about the individuals. His uncle, his Dad's youngest brother, was baptized at nine also, he is now 19 and df'd. My Grandson and his uncle were VERY close, together every weekend, etc., now all of a sudden, they can't associate. How is that in the best interest of any child. Anway, we are trying to stop it. That is why this nasty custody issue is coming up.