Posts by DanTheMan

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Not enough proper investigation.

by JNS2 in

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last night there was a true story about a man who killed his wife by setting up another man, getting him to come to their house.

he murdered both the wife & the other man.

the police immediately thought the guy was innocent so they closed the case right away.

DanTheMan

Yeah, vanity is a tough thing to overcome.

When I was a newbie j-dub, I took a job in the accounting department of a local company. Lo and behold, one of my coworkers was a rabid born-again flag-waving fundamentalist man who was working his way through Bible College so that he could become a preacher. I couldn't stand him, he was so political, he would go on and on and on about Bill & Hillary and liberals and gun rights all freakin' day long. (Kinda like some of the conservatives on this db!) When he found out about my involvement with JW's, he started bringing up stuff at every opportunity. He also started fomenting hostility towards me among my coworkers. I eventually quit the job to get away from him, he was too aggressive for me to be able to handle. Management wasn't crazy about him either, but I don't think they knew what to do with him.

That experience probably kept me in the JW's much longer than I may have stayed otherwise. I was so disgusted by this man's "Christianity", and I would think of how much I couldn't stand him and how much more Christian I thought the JW's were in comparison to these right-wing nutcase fundies like him. I'd still take JW-world over conservative-evangelical-fundie-Christian world any day. But eventually I had to start being honest with myself, to where I could say, this whole Watchtower thing is a little crazy too.

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Would You Marry A Person Of A Different Race?

by minimus in

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yes....no.....why??

?

DanTheMan

I think that sometimes white women take advantage of black men.

I've seen too many cases of white women who are total head cases go for black men, simply because they will put up with their crap and will kiss their ass from sunup to sundown.

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C of C Just Arrived

by eyeslice in

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crisis of conscience has just been delivered by mail to my office.

i wouldn't dare let it be delivered to home in case my wife found out.. i am still "in", so the question is, should i read it?

and if so, are my days as a jw numbered?.

DanTheMan

It took a hell of a lot of guts and personal strength and conviction to leave that den of thieves and write about his experience.

As others have said, this book has a ring of truth to it, you really see the small-mindedness and the arrogance of the boys at the top of WT world.

Ray has said, "I am ashamed at what I took part in". Amen Bro!!

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Religious cults - how to understand them

by ballistic in

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found this by mistake... it came up in a search for 1980s music (?).

religious cults - how to understand them.

"people who end up in cults are normal people.

DanTheMan

Thanks Ballistic, excellent article. This statement jumped out at me:

I believe people join a group to have their needs met. These needs may be recognized by the individual but it is more likely they are not. A common feeling on meeting a sympathetic group is that "this is exactly right", "this is what I have been looking for" and feeling no doubt about that. This is because subconsciously, the individual senses that a lot, if not most of their needs can be met within the group. This can be a very emotional moment.

For all their talk of "reason", I think that people who join JW's make an emotional decision to do so, not a rational one.

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Door to door work really being done?

by freedom96 in

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obviously the witnesses are going door to door, but is it as effective as could be?

in all my years as an adult, only once has any witness come to the door preaching "the good news.

" this is once in over 15 years.

DanTheMan

For the better part of 6 years I lived outside my home cong's territory. The cong who's territory I lived in didn't know me from Adam. Never in that 6 years did they come to my door. And I was home on Saturday mornings, being the slacker dub that i was.

They did send me a real generic letter with a tract once.

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Do You Think That You'll Ever Heal & Recover?

by minimus in

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after reading so many touching personal stories of your lives , do you think that one day you will fully recover from being a jehovah's witness?

do you feel that in time, you will be able to heal?

will you ever be able to trust yourself and others?

DanTheMan

When I was 22 years old, I was a scared, lonely and bitter young man. JW's came along, and it was like a drug, and I became a JW junkie in no time flat. Now that I've left, I still have me to deal with. I joined the WT to escape from my hated self.

I'm recovering, but it is taking time. Self-esteem and approval-seeking issues still dog me. I'm reading some good books that are helping me though.

I don't know if I'll ever be able to vote, I am still totally cynical about politics. If I ever do vote, it will just be going into the booth and voting democrat straight down the line. On the other hand, I celebrated Xmas this past December and me birthday in November and felt no pangs of guilt whatsoever.

I think I'm doing pretty well considering I've been out less than a year.

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Anyone Ever Reinstated After "Apostacy"?

by ExpandedMind in

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good morning!

i was just wondering if anyone on this site has been reinstated as a jw after having been disfellowhipped or disassociated from the watchtower society for "apostasy"?

if so, would you mind telling us what it was like for you to go through the "process" of reinstatement after having "seen the light" <smile!> about the organization?

DanTheMan

They'd sooner take back a murderer or a pedophile than they would someone who questions the Faithful Slave authority doctrine, or the blood issue, etc.

Lockstep unity is what the WT values most.

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Herbal Smokes - are they okay?

by Beck_Melbourne in

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they look like ciggies, they even taste like ciggies, but they smell like horse poop.

hell i don't care...they'll do me.. i've been off smokes for 2 years...but had a terrible craving (stress related) and so i surrendered to the craving and had a few drags of a peter jackson number 8...then i had another...and another.

i had some crazy thoughts about buying a packet.

DanTheMan

I worry that you may get bored with them and actually want to smoke a REAL cigarette

Ditto. I think you are fooling yourself here Beck! You're either a smoker or you aren't, so get off the fence with these herbal cigs!

According to a recent study, cigarettes have been shown to cause premature wrinkling of pretty Aussie girls' skin. We wouldn't want that would we?

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I Made it Through Hell Week

by Robdar in

i made it through my first week without a cigarette.

it still seems odd that a cigarette is no longer the first thing i think of when i wake up.

this is the first time it has happened in 20 years.

DanTheMan

It's 4:30 and I can't sleep.

Congratulations Robyn! The worst is behind you.

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Ever run into a DF'd person & didn't know it?

by DanTheMan in

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'bout 3 or 4 years before i left the borg i ran into a dub acquaintance that i hadn't seen in a while while grocery shopping.

i was at her congo for 5+ years, and she knew who i was.

as i approached her she quickly looked away and started looking at some items on the shelf.

DanTheMan

Wow, touching story Esther!

Glad she found you and gave you CofC, or else you might have gone groveling back to that pathetic excuse for a religion!

Since that time in the food court, I have made a point to say hi to any and all jws that I see. I think that if any of them left, as I did. . . I would not want to miss the opportunity of getting to know them all over again. . .this time on the outside of the cult.

Excellent, I will put this into practice. I don't run into dubbies very often though as I moved right around the same time I DA'd.

Thanks for sharing your story.