Posts by Nowman

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Anyone been caught for drink driving?

by Cordelia in

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just wondered!.

Nowman

Well, this is a loaded question for me. I have gotten caught, I got in alot of trouble, and paid the price. Luckily, I did not kill someone else or myself.

I took classes, and it helped me realize that if alchohol causes me problems, its time to rethink about alchohol in itself, and am I the person that can have self control? I am not sure. I hardly drink now, no desire like when I was younger, but I like to have a good time. I used to binge drink with my girlfriends. In fact, we planned our getting together around wine & beer & bakini martini's.

After I got in trouble, I needed to realize somethings about myself, my life in general. Admittance helped in the "feeling sorry for yourself" (I was so pissed at myself) and being able to learn from it and move on.

Dont drink and drive, the time will come when you get caught, the rules are even stricter now. As of 1/1/09, 1st time DUI sentence is breath-a-lizer device attached to your car before you can turn it on (my case was before this new rule, I got to keep my license)...

Then you need to go to a Victom Impact Unit (volunteers from AIM are there), the people who speak have loved ones that were killed by a drunk driver, its heart breaking, as it should be.

Nikki

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After almost 18 years out, I faced my demon.

by juni in

hey everyone,

this past sunday i resolved to face a demon head on.

that is revisiting a kingdom hall....this after going through years of mental torment.. depression, anxiety and near suicide with years of therapy to heal the wounds of spiritual abuse.

Nowman

beksbks-

I drive by alot of KHs, and I think the same way...feeling sorry for them...especially when I see cars in the parking lot, where I know they are out in "service" and I find myself apprecaiting that I do not have to do that ever again (its been 16 years)...but you get a strange feeling...driving by KHs.

Nikki

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After almost 18 years out, I faced my demon.

by juni in

hey everyone,

this past sunday i resolved to face a demon head on.

that is revisiting a kingdom hall....this after going through years of mental torment.. depression, anxiety and near suicide with years of therapy to heal the wounds of spiritual abuse.

Nowman

Hi Juni-how are you doing...long time no talk....

I am glad for you...it appears it was something very important that you needed to do.

Take care!

Nikki

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I think she cried herself to sleep

by OnTheWayOut in

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i had a thread on jws about a discussion with my mother:.

http://www.jwsupportforum.com/index.php?topic=5675.0.

basically, i will cover it again here in my most recent jw-related discussion with my wife.. .

Nowman

OTWO-

I think you are great individual from what I have read, sticking by your wife, and "confirming" so to speak so as to not have major drama in your life...I am a true believer in "rewards" for those that try...you will be rewarded even through difficult times.

Although I never claim to understand it completely (your side), I still have good instinct...the rewards will come....sometimes the pain comes 1st, or the foul bad mood you may be in...rewards will come.

That is what I keep telling myself anyway...

Nikki

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I just want this to stop!

by mrsjones5 in

as some of you know my husband became ill and we lost our house in indiana.

my parents offered to help and although i really didn't want to do it knowing that my parents have limited resources i really didn't have a choice.

i also wanted to come back to a place that was familiar and where most of my family and friends are.

Nowman

Oh Mrs Jones...I am so sorry you are going through this....

Nikki

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...Jehovah`s Witness`s have the most Stable Marriages...

by OUTLAW in

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jehovah`s witness`s have the most stable marriages..very few jehovah`s witness`s cheat on thier mates..most jehovah`s witness`s stay married for thier entire lifes to the same person..jehovah`s witness`s have the happiest marriages!..becoming jehovah`s witness`s,has saved many marriages..................................................my experience has taught me none of that is true.................what is your experience?............................outlaw.

Nowman

That what my parents wanted everyone to think, that we were the perfect little JW family. But, behind closed doors it was a different story, funny that when your a kid...its seemed like normal life...then your out for 16 years ..and you know its WRONG.

Everyone was marrying at 18 back in the early 90s, I used to be so envious because I wanted to have sex too - LOL

Nikki

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How did your Jehovah`s WItness Family treat you,when you no longer wanted to participate as a Jehovah`s Witness?

by OUTLAW in

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when we leave the wbt$ religious cult "jehovah`s witness`s"..the wbt$ encourages our familys to have little,or nothing to do with us..........our own jehovah`s witness parents will do exactly as the wbt$ commands..mine did.......my jehovah`s witness parents told other jehovah`s witness`s,"i hated all jehovah`s witness`s"..not true..i just did`nt like the religion..i had no problem with most individual jw`s.............................how did your jehovah`s witness family treat you,when you no longer wanted to participate as a jehovah`s witness?...........................................................................outlaw.

Nowman

I left in 1992.

Have not seen my dad since 1992. My mom and I reunited after 8 years of not seeing each other in 2000...but our relationship is not good, she has too much going on mentally for me to be qualified to handle...she was DFd in 2000 which is why she was able to talk to me again....

its really sad what JW parents do their children! I have 3 of my own, I could never do it to them, I still do not know to this day, how my parents did it.

Nikki

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What does nicotine feel like?

by Elsewhere in

i have never smoked or used any tobacco products aside from puffing on a cigar a few times (maybe 5 times in my life).

even with the few cigar experiences (which i did not enjoy much) i never noticed any real "feeling" from the tobacco.

what is it supposed to feel like?

Nowman

I smoke and like it, feeling of needing it. Yet, I feel "bad" about doing it, I need to quit, but I just do not hate it! I do not smoke in my house, always go outside no matter how cold...I do not like the smoke smell on others, therefore others probably do not like the smoke smell on me, but I can't smell it on me, you know???

It makes me feel calm when I have not had one for awhile. Which is why I needed a smoke anyway!

I need (want) a cigarrette!

Nikki

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Bethelite reverence

by Waffles in

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have any of you had the experience of a bethelite brother visiting your kh?.

here's how it always seemed to go in my experience:.

there is a general kh-wide excitement in the air that a real, live bethelite rockstar is at the hall; overheard are numerous convo's featuring words like "o, he's a bethelite".. visiting brother bethelite gives the closing prayer and is immediately mobbed by adoring fans.. all the single sisters are on high alert, you can smell the estrogen in the air.

Nowman

In 1992, when I was 18, (a few months before I left home and the org), we had someone from our hall that got accepted to Bethel. He was a few years old than me, and we were both pioneers, so we spent alot of time in service together.

Well, we were having a good bye party for him, and the new thing to do with going away parties for people accepted to Bethel, was to take the movie "The Wizard of Oz" and make a play about it, and taylor the lines to go with the JW type of talk and poke fun at the person going to Betel. Guess what, I was picked to be Dorthy! Instead of saying "Somewhere over the rainbow...I sang..."Some time in the near future, God's kingdom will arrive...blah blah (*gets a little sick*)"

Then we had to do interviews for him on video, and I made a joke to him, perhaps "I may be disfellowshipped when I see you again"...little did they know that I was planning my escape even that day that I had to do this little play...

Having a bethelite or someone going to bethel was a huge deal in our area...I know my parents wanted me to marry a bethelite...oh the memories...

Nikki

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Former Hardcore Elder Now In and Out of Psych Ward (long)

by neverendingjourney in

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i was informed recently that a former hardcore, dyed-in-the-wool elder (lets call him elder a) has been in and out of a mental ward recently.

it came as a surprise at first, but upon further reflection, it really isnt that surprising.

let me give you some background.. my childhood up through elementary school was played out in the 80s.

Nowman

Well, my mom was married to my elder dad for years. She divorced him in 2000, I think. She was DFd in 2000 for adultry. She has become an alcoholic, has been in and out of rehab, has been in and out of psych wards since. In fact, she had another break down yesterday and checked herself into one again...I am not involved, I hear this from her sister...

Anyway, after reading about the former hardcore elder on this thread, and then thinking about my hardcore JW dad, and former hard core JW mom, well there sure is a pattern.

Nikki