Posts by Nowman

what was your mindset like when you were disfellowshiped?recalling the day, i wrote the watchtower society to tell them that they were disfellowshiped .

as an organization for conduct unbecoming a christian organization was one of mixed feelings .

it was a sad heart wrenching reality that fourteen years of my life in this organization had finally .

Nowman

My mindset was....crazy, crazy, crazy, do I really have the guts to walk away and not go back? What if my parents do a good job at convincing me to stay? Will I succumb and give in to them like I always did? Will I have enough money? Will I be successful out there? Will I get pregnant and turn to drugs? Will I just screw up my life? Will I die at Armagedon? Why does this decision feel so good and exciting? Is that Satan? Am I strong enough?....keep in mind 15 years ago when I left, I still had the JW mind set...Turns out I was strong enough.

Nikki

20

Anyone else end up on a JC after losing their virginity?

by yaddayadda in

jw
friends

yep, i did.

i got 'privately reproved' after rushing to the elders to confess my sin after losing my virginity via fornicating.

i think all that shame and guilt and legalism that flowed on from that experience must've f*cked me up a bit, scuse the pun.

Nowman

I was never in a JC meeting but I did get DFd for fornication. It was 15 years ago, I was 18. I had planned my escape for 3 months prior. I was secretly seeing a very nice boy. When I left on a particular Monday, his parents let me stay with them and him of course. They were very free spirited, good people. I was still a virgin even when I left that day, I did not sleep with him until 3-4 months later. My dad called me every week to see if I had commited fornication, lol. I kept saying, "Dad, I am being honest, I have not had sex yet, but when I do, I will tell you". Eventually, he called me on a particular day, and I said "yes". I was annoucned not too long after that, I refused to meet with my dad the elder and the other elders for a JC.

Nikki

23

This forum using same type of thinking as Jehovahs Witnesses?

by AirDuster in

i notice one of the biggest complaints around here about the organization is often related to their constant use of the "us versus them" mentality, (i.e.

"we" need to be seperate from "them" because "they" are wrong and "we" are right).

yet i also notice that many of the posters here use the exact same kind of rhetoric and thinking.

Nowman

Welcome Air Duster....

I think your post is somewhat self - righteous. We all remember why we come here, there are all sorts of different reasons. As long as all play by the easy "rules" of this forum, you can pretty much express what you want. If you do not want to read or post about certain things, then don't.

Nikki

5

I emailed the AMW/McClean link to my parents for mothers day and. . .

by Pioneer Spit...oh, i mean Spirit in

jw
friends

they proved to me once and for all that they have gone completely bananas.

i sent it without any commentary, just 'link attached'.

mind you now, we do not speak.

Nowman

Dear Pioneer Spit....lol

I understand completely, the frustration. I am 33 yrs old, an only child. I left when I was 18 because I could not take my parents anymore and what went on behind closed doors at our home. I have not seen my dad since Oct 1992, and my mom and I did not speak from Oct 1992 to our reuniting in Sept 2000, 8 years. She eventually came to her senses, but suffered very much from the after effects (she stayed in it so much longer than me). I have 3 children, 10 year old daughter, 8 year old son, and a 3 month old baby girl. They will never know their grampa (my side, grampa from dad's side comes over everynight) and as for my mom, she sees them very rarely (she lives in Arizona) and she is always sick, but shes there for them now, thats all that matters to me anyway. The JW org is sick, the responses from your mom piss me off...yet she is just brainwashed as you know...I just wanted to let you know that I feel for you and I understand.

I also lived in Colorado from 94-98, my oldest was born at Aurora Regional hospital, then we moved back to Illinois so she could know her family (only my parents were JWs). Otherwise, if I did not have my daughter, I would have stayed in Denver!

Nikki

64

Board Demographics

by snowbird in

jw
friends

maybe this thread has already been started before.

please forgive me if it has, but i would like to know how many on board are active witnesses, inactive, da/df''d, or never been witnesses.. i am inactive since 2005, black female, separated, head of household, etc.. rsvp.

snowbird.

Nowman

Married white female, 3 children, and I left the org in October 1992, I am disfellowshipped. Thats me on the right (avatar).

Nikki

12

Do We Pair Off With People Who Look Like We Do?

by The wanderer in

jw
friends

do we pair off with people who look like we do?the thought of what physically attracts one individual with another crossed.

my mind recently and it raised some questions about the subject.

there are some dating websites that promote relationship compatibility .

Nowman

My answer would be for me, no. I am Italian mostly, my 1st husband was Dutch (he was american though), light skin, hazel eyes, we got together at 1st by physical attraction. We were young though, and we wound up getting divorced. We have kids together, him and I live 3 blocks from each other. My 2nd husband (my soul mate) shaves his head completely, and huge googly blue eyes. His personality is alot like mine (or I should say alot like his), we both are smart asses! We got together 1st by physical attraction. Its true. Physical attraction happens 1st for me.

I prefer the entire package, good looks, good personality, but I do not expect a six pack. I do not mind the "love" handles. My hubby does not want me bone thin either, we like to look good for each other though, you know.

Basically, I think certain people just click. Thats what happened to me.

Nikki

35

URRRRRRRRR

by Missanna in

i am getting so tired of people telling me what is wrong with me and that i have left jehovah!!!

i'm so angry.

Nowman

I only started realizing there were sites like this about couple of years ago, my mom 1st told me about silentlambs. My point is, there was a website where a an exJW would post stories of JWs leaving (at the time, I did not know there were so many) and I posted mine. So, not exJWs read my story but so did other "strong" JWs. I left an email address, so I get emais about once a week trying to encourage me to come back...I always respond with, "thank you for your message, it seems to be really sincere". Why are there so many depressed people in this organization? Or why does despression set in after a being a JW for so long? Why does the org harbor pedifiles? Why is shunning OK? Why are families torn apart because of certain family members deciding not to be a witness anymore? Just based on some of these questions, why would I, Nikki, want to be a part of this organization?". I usually get no response, or a thanks for my sincere answer.

Nikki

15

The Watchtower Lie That Hurts Children and Families (6/1/07)

by metatron in

jw
friends

question from readers, june 1 2007:.

"does proverbs 22:6 guarantee that if christian children are properly trained, they will not depart from .

the way of jehovah?".

Nowman

As I have posted on several occasions, I am one of those former JW kids disowned by their mom and dad at 18 because of this cult. The good thing is, my mom came to her senses 8 years after I left...my dad, its been 15 years since I last saw him....

Nikki