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  Any help with 8 year old still in?

  by megsmomma in

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  i am very sad that i am in this situation.

  it is pretty much my own fault that i have this situation...but i didn't know at the time what all the consequenses would entail.

  (i got real ddepressed and left my jw husband and da'd myself after i had a baby with him) my daughter is a happy well adjusted kid with a new jw mom and an elder dad.

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  merfi

  I have little people as well, but my situation is a bit different. I'm DA and have custody; JW dad is a couple hours away so gets them every other weekend. So they get two meetings a month is all (if dad isn't "sick" or "busy" -- he's a flakey JW, thank goodness).

  Anyway, what I did in the beginnings of my Freedom was show them how fun the once-forbidden holidays and b'days actually are, without coming out and saying "we're going to celebrate your birthday cuz JW are a f'd up cult" etc. And when none of us were struck down with lightening for giving presents or enjoying something holiday-related, it was one step closer to them accepting that it's all ok... we're still on the journey, but making a lot of progress (I have in front of me three "Dear Santa" lists. lol THAT is progress!)

  I guess what I'm getting at is to be subtle. Just show her that Xmas is about family and togetherness and, since she's 8, the "pretties" (as my kids call all our lights).

  I wish you the best.... this sort of thing is hard.

  ~merfi
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  Well its over....

  by kerj2leev in

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  after 13years of marriage, today it finally came to an end!.

  it felt very strange as i entered into the court room, my attorney on the right and hers on the left.

  we were the first group of 15 or 16 case to be heard today.

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  BTDT too, Kerj. Even the 13 years and many of the memories you described. I'll echo that it does get easier, sort of. Maybe 'different' is a better word. Anyways, I'm 2 years past the day you just described (I got a "congratulations" from my atty, too) and so far so good.

  Tomorrow is another day

  ~merfi
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  1:09am and the frickin' meeting tomorrow!

  by 5thGeneration in

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  2. friends

  just want to chill out.

  sleep in.

  get up at 11 and make some spam 'n eggs.

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  Sucks to have your Sunday stolen. What you wish you could do is what people should have the choice to do.

  Stupid cult.

  Heading to bed shortly to awake whenever I damn well feel like it, make a brunch (I like your idea of Spam n eggs :) ) and then it's football baby, football!

  There's always the "Bingo" game to keep you busy at meetings.
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  Lonely Hearts Club - Roll Call

  by confusedjw in

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  2. experiences

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  home listening to prairie home companion - drinking wine with my dog.

  he doesn't like wine, but does like guy noir

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  merfi

  Just got back from "Happy Feet" with daughter, son and son's buddy (this would be a 10 and two 9-year olds. Now I need a beer....).

  So yeah, that's MY Saturday night.

  ~merfi
  (my msn is in my profile -- add me, I'm BORED this weekend! )
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  Curious on beliefs

  by lydia69 in

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  i have been researching a particular subject lately and have been wondering how different religous groups feel about it.

  the rh factor, of course this is a protein found in the blood of at least 85% of the population, the name coming from the discovery (the same factor found in rhesus monkey blood, 1940-landsteiner and wiener).

  during pregnancy if a mother is negative (does not have the factor) and the father is positive, and the baby is positive, there is a possiblity that the mother's body will reject the baby.

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  My own personal opinion is that Rh factor has nothing whatsoever to do with the bible/religion and that's the last place I'd look for an explanation. I lean towards the Rh factor as being more evolutionary than anything else... the factor is found in monkeys -- hmmm.

  One of the things I remember from med tech school is that sickle cells resist malaria better than 'normal' red cells. Sickle cell trait or disease is most common in Africa and also African-Americans. Malaria is all but endemic in Africa. Coincidence? I don't believe so. Same to be said of hemoglobin variants like C (causes some funky crystal-shaped red cells) and the Thalassemias. Each of these two traits cause the red cell to be more resistant to malaria. So I have no clue really why the Rh factor, but perhaps in another million years of evolving we'll know why.
  
  ~merfi
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  Welcome to xirian

  by BlackSwan of Memphis in

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  xirian:.

  good to see you made it here.. you have a pm.. .

  (lady fey).

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  Hello from another Iowa girl!

  I'm also leaning towards the Pagan beliefs as they just seem to make the most sense to me. :)

  Welcome to the board -- great place here.

  ~merfi
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  Feeling bad for doing normal things - SLIGHT ADULT CONTENT

  by jambon1 in

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  i was reading the article in the nov awake about musterbation (not a typo, i just hate that word & have to rephrase it)!!.

  it took me back to the days as a young man who had normal feelings of a sexual nature.

  new in the truth and fighting, with every fibre of my being, (at least in the beginning) against the idea of having a ham shank.

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  Sex can be such a beautiful thing if you're not required to hate yourself for enjoying it.

  This doesn't sound at all preachy to me, in fact I totally agree. Once I finally let go of the 'guilt' for actually enjoying sex, I felt so much more free and a bit more empowered in a sense (hard to explain). I have my own rules of what is 'right and wrong' about it, not some dumb cult's freakish and controlling ones.

  ~merfi
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  DID ANYONE ELSE GET PASSED OVER W/THE KN TRACT?

  by juni in

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  i live in a small, rural town pop.

  2000. my daughter and i did not get any visit or tract.. i thought this was supposed to be a final warning - a life saving work.. not complaining, but just curious if you didn't get one.. juni .

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  merfi

  I didn't get one, either. Guess my pagan Christmas decorations spooked them off.
  
  ~merfi
  (yeah, a bit over-excited about my first Christmas since 1987...)
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  Feeling bad for doing normal things - SLIGHT ADULT CONTENT

  by jambon1 in

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  i was reading the article in the nov awake about musterbation (not a typo, i just hate that word & have to rephrase it)!!.

  it took me back to the days as a young man who had normal feelings of a sexual nature.

  new in the truth and fighting, with every fibre of my being, (at least in the beginning) against the idea of having a ham shank.

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  merfi

  haha! Good catch!

  
  ~merfi
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  Feeling bad for doing normal things - SLIGHT ADULT CONTENT

  by jambon1 in

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  i was reading the article in the nov awake about musterbation (not a typo, i just hate that word & have to rephrase it)!!.

  it took me back to the days as a young man who had normal feelings of a sexual nature.

  new in the truth and fighting, with every fibre of my being, (at least in the beginning) against the idea of having a ham shank.

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  merfi

  One in authority should give instruction and not peer into the private matters between man and God. If a person asks for help from one in authority, they acknowledge their weakness therefore seeking guidance. Once should not be punished for seeking guidance

  Nobody has "authority" over this body of mine or what I do to and with it except me. No silly elders in particular. And why would I need instructions? ;) And usually this "instruction" is indeed peering into private matters between man and G/god as elders THINK they are some sort of mouthpiece or sumfin.

  As for "one should not be punished for seeking guidance" -- yeah, but in truth, they usually are.

  As for "weakness" -- I don't think so. It's all pretty natural...

  Guess this one hit a button for me. No weak pun intended.

  ~merfi