am going to bear more in this post than I have in any/all posts thus far. Waiting on Jehovah. What a big fat stinking lie that is!!! (3 times for emphasis) I was married at the ripe old age of 17. Yep, my parents signed for this to happen. After all.............he is such a pillar. It wasn't until years later that I found out that "one" elder approached my parents to tell them what a mistake this was, BEFORE they signed.
Anyway, 5 months into the marraige................he shoved me. Not necessarily bad, considering the schedule he kept. Up at 3 am, to work by 4 am and not home until around 6-8 pm. At that point I thought it was a normal reaction to a lack of sleep and a demanding work schedule. But it did not stop at that. Over the years I experienced verbal, physical and sexual abuse from this man. He never became a Servant or an Elder while we were together.
Verbal:
Always able to "explain' away anything he said. Quite a coniver he was! So he could say things in the meanest way possible (and the point was taken by the words and by the way it was said) but in a way so that if it were questioned later................BY THE WORDS SPOKEN, could be explained away.
For 10 long years he blamed me for the death of our first child. Long story. He was even told by the Dr attending our son that it was NOT my fault. He still believed it.
Physical:
The man repeatedly hit me. Punches, slaps, etc...............even within 2 weeks of having a c-section for our first child. He would take hammers to my head and threaten to kill me. He even hit me one time with a childs broom that left an ugly bruise. One person saw it and I lied to cover it up. I didn't fool her.
Sexual:
This is a good one. A few years before I left this degenerate he would force alcohol down my throat, to the point of choking, because he knew I would do anything he wanted. Just before I left him he would come to me because he had found the "right" person to have a 3-some with us. Or I remember him going all over town trying to find the Playboy that had the Jackson girl in it. He tried to convince me that it was ok to go to a strip show (unusual for the town we were in) He would come home smelling of vagina and force me to go down on him. He tried to get others to have sex with him while he looked on................the list goes on.
Anyway, I finally told the CO the last time he tried to kill me. He (the CO) sat there with the most disgusted look on his face and said that he (my ex) was lower than a dog for what he did. Priveleges were taken away. Just before the CO's visit again in 6 months one of the elders (who my ex had something on) came to our house and asked my ex (not me) if things were better. Yes? Ok, you have your priveleges back. He stated that it was supposed to be a committee thing but his coming to the house would suffice. Ugh!!!
For many of the years that I was in the Borg I tried to get the Brothers to listen but no one would. In fact at one meeting one of the Elders leaned back and looked at one of the other elders in the eye and said (about what I was accusing) ' I don't believe it! ' Needless to say, I was left out in the cold because they backed the male in this situation.
To make a long stopry short.....we divorced, I lost the children, and he remarried (a newly reinstated sister, and I mean within 6 months) and he became a Servant and was urged to accept Eldership.
Wait on Jehovah, right!!!!!!
