While you are there, get his phone number added to the 'do not call list'. I don't think this helps with companies he may have accepted offers from in the past, but it should help cut down on any new companies. But still, it couldn't hurt.
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Grandparents and money schemes/scams
by darkuncle29 inhi peoples, .
do any of you have experience with your parents or grandparents getting hooked on money making scams, publisher's clearing house, or other "schemes" where people call and use high pressure sales tactics and manipulation to get you to buy there program?.
i know this is not jw stuff, but to me, it pushes alot of the same buttons.
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Here's a hint
by Junction-Guy inif you want people to live a good life to show that happiness is the best revenge, then why not put your words into action and reach out as a real live friend to someone local in your area.
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Sawyer
If it's your choice, right now, to not make friends and remain aloof then that's fine. That's your choice.
If you can't look externally for those sources of happiness, then this would be a great time to work on your internal choice of happiness. Use this time productively and figure out what makes you tick. Then, be happy that you are making progress whether in small steps or large ones.
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History leading up to my "happiness" thread
by Junction-Guy insome of you seem perplexed as to my latest threads, i thought i would give you a little background.. .
about 3 years ago, amanda and i met up with an xjw elder here in knoxville.
it started out ok, but deteriorated rapidly.
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Sawyer
I could have many times tried to seek revenge ...
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And you didn't, because that doesn't fit your code of honor. That is something for you to be 'happy' about when you hit the pillow at night. You are content with that value in your life...that you didn't act out of revenge.
As far as your example people go...is the cheater, abuser really happy with himself when he goes to bed at night? Maybe he is, maybe he isn't but says that he is. Some people have no empathy or concept of what empathy truly is. You have an overabundance of empathy. But the bottom line is that his version of happiness isn't yours.
I learned long ago that if I spend all my time worried about the injustices in the world, I will have time left for nothing else. Pick your battles carefully, because you won't have time to battle everything.
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Here's a hint
by Junction-Guy inif you want people to live a good life to show that happiness is the best revenge, then why not put your words into action and reach out as a real live friend to someone local in your area.
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Sawyer
My 3 years in Kentucky, and especially the last year proves that there can be happiness outside of the JW's, and NO they werent JW friends I had in Kentucky.
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You're right. I did miss something in your story. Oops! Sorry about that.
Since you had friends in Kentucky, why not go cultivate some where you live now? I can attest that southerners like to fish and hang out and have fun. You can have friends that have nothing to do with your activism and friends that do help your activism. Two sets of friends..sounds nice to me.
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Why I dont go along with the "happiness" crowd
by Junction-Guy inthe old saying "happiness is the best revenge", to me that is the most rubbing statement i can ever hear right now.. .
someone mentioned that jw's dont think anyone can have true happiness outside of their religion, i dont necessarily buy this.. .
when someone is happy inside the borg, they say its jehovah's blessing, when someone is happy outside the borg they say that satan is blessing them.
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Sawyer
One poster on this board stood me up twice.
One practically shunned me.
If you want someone to be happier about their lives and to try to move on from the JW experience, then try to treat others as you would like to be treated, instead of offering hollow advice.--------------------------------------------------------------------------
There you go again. Blaming everyone else for your lack of happiness. You said "If you want someone to be happier...." That's the whole point! It's not what WE want. It's what YOU want.
I give up. I personally think you like to wallow in your miserableness or you want an easy answer. Life isn't easy. It's up to you what you get out of this life.
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Why I dont go along with the "happiness" crowd
by Junction-Guy inthe old saying "happiness is the best revenge", to me that is the most rubbing statement i can ever hear right now.. .
someone mentioned that jw's dont think anyone can have true happiness outside of their religion, i dont necessarily buy this.. .
when someone is happy inside the borg, they say its jehovah's blessing, when someone is happy outside the borg they say that satan is blessing them.
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Sawyer
"The old saying "happiness is the best revenge", to me that is the most rubbing statement I can ever hear right now."
"That is why Im an activist, because I want the world to know exactly the problems this cult causes in the developing mind of a JW child."
"If all we do is show how much happiness we now have, then they will never know the pain we have suffered"-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
JG - I posted on your other thread about 'happiness'.
I honestly don't think you understand what happiness is? Being happy isn't all sweetness and light and living in Candyland. What is happiness to you?
You can be happy, have the best revenge, and also be an activist! It's up to you. Why can't you see that?
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Here's a hint
by Junction-Guy inif you want people to live a good life to show that happiness is the best revenge, then why not put your words into action and reach out as a real live friend to someone local in your area.
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"When I lived in Kentucky"
JG - do you realize how often you say that phrase? I think you might be one of those people who likes to dwell on the past and not one of those people who likes to build for the future.
I realize you had a group of JW friends that were ready-made simply by going to the kingdom hall. Most of us had friends that were ready-made in high school (those of us who were never JW). But, life changes and we grow, we pursue careers, we marry, we move (like you), and life advances. We see our high school friends at reunions, we think of the good times, then we get up the next morning and life goes back to the way it is NOW.
As you move into different phases of your life, whatever the reason, it is up to YOU to create your new reality.
Also, on this thread are two different types of happiness that are being discussed, and they aren't mutually exclusive. ButtLight's example is explaining what I consider to be external happiness - that we get from being with friends, laughter, and having fun. The other kind of happiness that others are explaining to you is internal happiness - if you aren't happy with yourself, you will not find happiness with others. Guess which is harder to achieve?
Now, that doesn't mean that we are happy, gleeful, jumping from the rafters with joy every minute of every day - but at the end of the day, we are happy with ourselves INTERNALLY. We are happy with the person that we are today (no matter the hell we may have gone through to get there) and the values that we hold. When life is difficult, or even downright dreadful, the internally happy person still hits the pillow at night secure in who they are, and 'happy' with that person, despite the circumstances they might find themselves dealing with. Now, this doesn't mean that we are 'happy' with every single aspect of ourselves (maybe need to lose a few pounds, get rid of a few wrinkles) but we are content and hopefully proud of our Internal self.
If JG wants to be happy, he has to start with his internal self first and quit living in the past. Of course, some people are happy simply by throwing themselves a big old pity party everyday.
So, that's my analysis on happiness. In my humble opinion.
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I'm in love and I need your help
by lola28 ini went to borders yesterday to buy a book and this borders happens to be next door to petsmart, as i'm driving in i notice a group of people with dogs and i realize it's adopt a pet sunday, i love animals so i made a mental note to go by and see the dogs.
so fifteen minutes later, i spot her sitting by herself in a corner and i'm in love.
her name is peaches, i called her and she ran up to me a licked my hand.
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Sawyer
In my experiences working with rescue groups, the foster families are the best source of information about the animal.
Most animal rescue groups will re-rescue the dog if you are unable to care for it. So, the foster families are usually very honest about possible issues because they want to make sure the dog has a good home and will not come back through the system (which leaves room for other animals to be rescued).
You will (should) be able to talk to the foster family once you express interest, and they will be your best source of info. Is she trained? Any health issues? Any behavioral problems? Favorite toys? Energy level and exercise needs? Grooming? Things like that.
Good Luck - she's a sweetheart!
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Something is trying to get in my apartment..and I'm freaking here...
by FreedomFrog ini don't know what it is or why it wants in my apartment but this is scaring the crap out of me.
the corridoor lights for our apartments are all out, including the 2 downstairs as well.
they have been out for several days and i keep meaning to let the office know but keep forgetting.
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Sawyer
OK. I see I'm 45 minutes late on this one! Hope all is resolved now :)
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Something is trying to get in my apartment..and I'm freaking here...
by FreedomFrog ini don't know what it is or why it wants in my apartment but this is scaring the crap out of me.
the corridoor lights for our apartments are all out, including the 2 downstairs as well.
they have been out for several days and i keep meaning to let the office know but keep forgetting.
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Sawyer
Is there any way that you can see under the door with a flashlight to determine if they are animal legs or human ones? Maybe say loudly, I'm calling 911. See if it goes away. Sounds like it would be a dog before it would be a cat, at least in my experience. If human, and it's not talking, sounds like someone being rather tricky...be careful. Keep us updated!