It sounds like you really love each other and it would be a shame to throw that away.
If you do marry, it will be you that has to make all the sacrifices to accomodate his beliefs. Are you prepared to do that?
The good thing is that he has no other family members that are jws, so at least the marriage won't be subject to added pressure from them. You never know, you could raise a few issues about the jws that you learn on this forum and be able to get him out of the evil cult. Now that would be worthwhile!!
Good luck with whatever you decide. XXX
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Should I marry a JW ?
by curiousabouthim ini am new to the jw world, not one, but do love one.
met a man who down to the tee is amazing.
he is a great man, the only thing i am not so sure about is his "religious" beliefs.
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Has the rules changed?
by pratt1 ina relative of my wife, just got engaged to a "worldly guy".. the young lady is a baptized publisher, and i am shocked to hear that no one has made a negative comment about her future husband not being an dub.. even her mother who is a pioneer has not made an issue of the engagement.. has things changed?.
are the elders easing up a little on the rank and file?.
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My sister is married to a non believer and when she started dating him she was publicly marked. She had been a regular pioneer for 8 years and had to stop. Everyone in the cong didn't really understand the marking arrangement so they all basically just shunned her.
She is still happily married 9 years later and is still a very active jw. Her husband is very friendly to all the jws and sometimes attends meetings, but has no intention of ever becoming a jw. The cong stopped shunning her after about 2 years!!
My parents were told that they weren't to attend the wedding, a concept they completely disagreed with. They not only attended the wedding but they paid for it too. My mum is staunch jw and has pioneered on and off for years. She didn't have any privileges taken from her for attending the wedding.
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Agent Smith's story
by AgentSmith ini was born into a jw family.
my father's parents were jw.
my mother?s family was a big mix.
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Hi Agent Smith and a very warm welcome to you and Mrs.Agent. You are right, there are lots of people on this forum with similar experiences to yours, so you will always find empathy here.
I am glad that we have a South African here (I don't think there are many). I went to South Africa for my honeymoon 2 years ago, it is beautiful. We visited the Kruger national park and Cape Town. Also my husband was born in J'burg but returned to England as a small baby, his user name on this forum is South African Beef!!
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Would you feel safe traveling to the Middle East as a tourist?
by free2beme inone of my dreams is to one day making to cairo egypt and see the great pyramids.
i want to see a lot of things in that area, as well as other parts of israel, and the middle east region.
i have been into history, for as long as i can remember.
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Hi Hemp lover. I'm afraid I have to correct your comment that it is difficult to travel to any other parts of Egypt other than the pyramids.
That is BS. I have just returned from Egypt and trust me, you can travel to just about anywhere in the country as long as you have the money. It's a big country so travelling around normally involves internal flights. We were bombarded with offers of trips all around Egypt but finances meant we only went to the pyramids. -
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What does your REAL name mean?
by Peaches-n-Cream injordon is hebrew and it means "to descend or flow"....ha~!
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Just wanted to share good news ;)
by Shazard insome time (about year or less) ago i was approached (on other christian forum) by jw.
he attacked me for attacking jw.
later we started private letter writing (all in i-net) and soon he and i realized that he is not so sure about jw atall.
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Well done! Another person free of the WBTS is something to celebrate.
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Would you feel safe traveling to the Middle East as a tourist?
by free2beme inone of my dreams is to one day making to cairo egypt and see the great pyramids.
i want to see a lot of things in that area, as well as other parts of israel, and the middle east region.
i have been into history, for as long as i can remember.
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I can assure all you scaredy cat yanks that it is fine in Egypt. Safe safe safe.
The pyramids could collapse at any moment due to their age, and then you'll have to live the rest of your lives knowing you could've gone to see them but didn't!
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Probably going to church tomorrow
by fullofdoubtnow ini may well be making my first visit to a place of worship since i da'd tomorrow.
my friend marion wants to go, and i have agreed, a little reluctantly i must admit, to accompany her for support.
the service we are planning to attend is at a baptist church near where we live, and is billed as a family service.
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I'd like to go to a church service just out of curiosity.
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Would you feel safe traveling to the Middle East as a tourist?
by free2beme inone of my dreams is to one day making to cairo egypt and see the great pyramids.
i want to see a lot of things in that area, as well as other parts of israel, and the middle east region.
i have been into history, for as long as i can remember.
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Me and my family have just returned from a holiday in Egypt. We went to Sharm el Sheikh which is a seaside resort on the Red Sea peninsula. It was fab.
We also took a flight to Cairo and saw the pyramids. That was one of the major highlights of my life, they were absolutely awesome. And never once as a tourist did I feel unsafe.
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Hi!
by sarahbear76 inso i just registered and i thought i should say something about myself instead of just lurking about.
i'm 21 years old and i left the the jw's when i was 18. i was born into the religion so it's been really hard getting use to things.
my story is pretty complicated and for some safety reasons i can't say to much.
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Hi Sarahbear and welcome to the forum. I hope you will never feel lonely here, you now have many friends.
I'm glad you and your family are out of the org, it's the best decision you all made.
Love Marie. XXX