My husband and my kids. I LOVE to just sit and look at my 4 year old daughter when she is sleeping. So peaceful! Kids make everything worthwhile! I got remarried in June to a really wonderful man. He loves my kids like they were his own and he works hard to provide a nice house for us. He also just loves me for me. Doesn't try to change me or turn me into someone that I am not. It's nice to be accepted and not have to keep up with rules and regulations that are nearly impossible to meet.
Woofer
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What makes you happy to be alive?
by restrangled ini think we need a positive thread..... i am happy to be alive for my family and my pets.
i feel valued.. i am also a music and art lover........ how do you feel, and what makes you happy?.
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"You are the connection to evil." (or, my JW sisters and me)
by Fleur inwhy is it that i have known for so long what to expect of my jw relatives, and they continue to exceed my expectations for crazy-making behavior, yet still sometimes, i am blindsided by a comment so out of left field, so removed from the way that i see my world and the way that i live my life (or try to)...why does it still hurt?.
i have posted before about my sisters.
the oldest is a pioneer and elder's wife.
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Woofer
You're free and she is not - thats the part she cannot stand.
Before I was d/f I used to be "jealous" of other d/f people. I thought "they have the balls to stand up for something that they believe in, and right now I don't".
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Divorce Rate of Those When Young??
by buffalosrfree inmy daughters were at a club the other evening ( saturday) and ran into 5 witnesses they knew as younger children, they had all been married and were in the process of getting divorced.
four were men, 1 woman, two of the men we had known literally for years and i had liked them all.
i had told my children when they got married that it wouldn't be long before they were married.
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Woofer
I married at 19 after only 11 months of dating. We lived over an hour apart and saw each other about every other weekend (chaparoned of course).
"Worldy" people told me I was too young to get married, but being a dub (and smarter then everyone else of course) I did it anyways. I'll admit that I got married because I wanted to have sex. Three weeks after my wedding I came home from work and cried and cried my eyes out. I realized what a mistake I made.
I left after 4 years . . I didn't care if I was d/f and lost my entire family (which is what ended up happening) I just needed out!
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Read any good books lately?
by I quit! ini picked one up today i'm really enjoying.
"screwed, the undeclared war against the middle class" by thom hartmann.
i am finding it to be very insightful into why jobs are being sent overseas.
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Woofer
I just received C of C about 2 weeks ago and I am still reading it.
Wonderful material. A must read for all dubs!
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Your going to the meetings whether you like it or not!
by Atlantis inyour going to the meetings whether you like it or not!
thousands of jehovah's witness children have heard those threatening words backed-up with spankings, whippings, or even severe beatings.
but what if they are too small to understand?
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Woofer
My mom had a favorite phrase she used "Your going to the meeting unless you are dead or dying".
I hated her saying that!
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Has anyone appealed a D/f, and what was the outcome?
by dido ini appealed against my d/f because i wanted to expose the elder that d/f me, the chairman.
i thought it was so hypocritical as he had been calling at my house alone (yes alone) making sexual innuendos, i never invited him in, but couldn`t believe the things he said to me.
then when i was summoned to the j/c, him, his step father, and his side kick little elder friend were siiting in judgement of me.
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My grandmother appealed her d/f and won. She was so bitter that she stayed away for over 30 years. She eventually started attending meetings again and going out in field service. She died a dub in good standing.
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NZ beautiful
by ania ini love it in here sooo much and so do my kids just wanted to share some of my photo's with people who i know will appreciate the beauty of our natural environment and wildlife: if anyone ever gets a chance to visit nz please don't drive through kaikoura on your way (from christchurch to blenheim) you would be missing out on one of the most special places in the world!!!.
seals about 3 minutes walk down the beach from where i live.
aren't they gorgeous???.
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Woofer
Beautiful (except for the spiders . . I got goose bumps just looking at that pic). Although I know they are good for the environment I still have a fear of them.
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What's it like?
by Jerohobobonadad inhello all.. i have always wondered what feelings people have in the hours/minutes prior to getting baptised, the seconds immediately afterwards and then the first few hours thereafter?.
i've never done it, but it seems like it would be a real head f-!.
anyone willing to share their experiences?.
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Woofer
I thought "Now my mom and dad will get off my back!"
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For those raised as Witnesses ... What was your personal crossroad?
by The wanderer inuntitled document <!-- .style1 {font-family: verdana} .style3 {font-family: verdana; color: #0000ff; } --> the crossroads in life there will be many times in which an individual.
will come to a fork in the road or to a crossroad.
question is?which road will he or she take?.
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1. How long did it take you to leave once you knew it was no longer the truth?
Even after I got d/f I still thought it was the "truth". I just couldn't take the rules and regulations that came along with being a Witness. I made a tragic mistake at 19 and got married to someone I knew that I shouldn't of married. I couldn't comprehend having to pay for a mistake for the rest of my life by staying with someone who was completely wrong for me. Also the attitude taken by the elders after learning of my molestation by my brother-in-law left me very bitter. They had a "just forget about it" mentality. Everytime I heard news accounts of wars or something like that I would think "well this is it - I'm gonna die". It wasn't until I did reasearch on the internet and found out what lies the JW's teach.
2. How much harder knowing you had friends and family in the org did it make it?
Being raised a dub I KNEW what was gonna happen to me. It was hard for me for a while, but I had to break free and live my own life. I think I prepared myself mentally for it before I actually left.
3. Would you have done things differently?
I think the only thing I would have done differently is I would have d/a myself instead of letting the elders d/f me. I wouldn't have given them that satisfaction of doing that to me. My sister d/a herself several years ago and my parents still talked to her, so I think if I d/a myself I would have still had my parents. For some reason they view d/f as so much worse.
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Coming off pioneering - made up excuses!!
by jambon1 inthe excuses made for coming off pioneering were, at times, cringeworthy.. one minute the brother is claiming ill health and the next month he is in a full time job!.
its all down to position and status - "oh yes, my son came off because he is getting married!".
did anyone ever watch the comedy sitcom - 'keeping up appearances'?
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Woofer
I LOVE Keeping Up Appearances! That show is hilarious!!!!