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  When a family member has bi-polar.

  by purplesofa in

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  18 years ago

  as some of you know, my daughter has been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder.

  its been years of dealing with it, until a proper diagnosis, plus she has addictions....alcohol and drugs.

  she did get approved for disability and just now has medical benefits.

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  looking_glass 18 years ago

  Purp - my grandmother was schizophrenic with manic depressive disorder (now called bi polar disorder). It is very difficult to deal with. My ex-fiance's mother is bi polar and he still to this day does not want to accept it, believing that if she exercises and takes vitamins she will be fine (and no he is not Tom Cruise nor a Scientologist).

  For someone who grew up with members who have the disorder .... there are a few very important things to know. 1) there will be times that your daughter will feel that she is fine and will not want to take her meds, it is part of the disorder, she MUST continue on the meds regardless of her moods or her current mental health because this is usually the high end of the mania and the car that she is riding in will start to take a downward turn and soon. 2) You will never be able to make her better or whole, nor will you be able to get people to understand the disease who chose not to accept it. For some family members it involves fear, they are frightened that it may happen to them or that they will be stuck tending to the family member over time. All you can do is hope that they will eventually understand that the disease is real and not some thing that should be held against the family member. 3) There are some theories out there that say that people with mental illness are highly intelligent and that is what is causing some of the overload to the brain and functioning. The theory is that these people are unable to filter out everything that enters into the brain and they pick up on everything. As humans we learn to filter and not take EVERYTHING in otherwise it would be systems overload, but for those who work on a higher intelligence, they cannot filter and thus, they start to have breakdowns. I don't know if that is true or not, but my grams was one of the most intelligent people I knew and on a good day she could blow you away with knowledge.

  Do as much research as you can handle. Right now you are overwhelmed because it is all new. But in time it will reach its steady and you will find your place. Know that there are resource out there for family members because YOU will need to take care of YOU as well as helping your daughter take care of herself.

  Much peace to you and your family. Feel free to pm me with any personal questions you may have. I will do my best to address them as quickly as possible.

  Peace L_G

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  Worst flatulence experience? Here is mine... Can you top it?

  by What-A-Coincidence in

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  18 years ago

  i had been having bad gas for a few days...when i mean bad, i mean clear the room bad and call in hazmat, it was so bad my dog left the room crying.. anyway, i was at the mall and i had to let one go and a man passed by and he said, "dam, they must be repairing the sewage pipes.

  " i said, yeah, huh.

  i was having a bad day but i just had to laugh.

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  looking_glass 18 years ago

  My favorite story is one of the boys I grew up w/. There was this self righteous kid and his parents always made him out to be christ reborn. So every chance my friend got, he would fart when he would pass him and then look over at the kid with an expression of "that's gross". Eventually a couple of the older ones pulled the kid aside and gave him a talking to. My favorite line of that talking to was the old brother who told the kid ... "you are just being lazy, clearly you have to take a dump and refuse to do so, so you punish us with the foul odors. Next time you fart, I will personally escort you to the men's bathroom". Of course the kid constantly protested that it was not him.

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  "You'll never even get to finish school in this System of Things....."

  by WingCommander in

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  18 years ago

  this statement was often echeod to me during my formative years.

  i remember my very first day of elementary school (stateside) at the age of 4. my parents were flustered because they couldn't believe they actually had to start their only child into public school to begin with; after all, the end was right around the corner!

  this was 1984, the year the first apple mac was introduced, 80's music was loud and in your face, the delorean was cool, and miami vice was just in production.

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  looking_glass 18 years ago

  My mother was told that she would never graduate school. She did and then proceeded to have kids, she was told her kids would never graduate school and they did (a few of us went off to college). Now she has grand kids who are graduating high school. I really believe that is what is making her so angry. She is unwilling to accept that everything she has lived for is a lie. If she acknowledges that, what does she have left. You have to admit, it has to be frightening being an older jw ... the reality of life and the fact that the "end" is not right around the corner, the "truth" is old age and death is more "right around the corner" then the "end of this system of things". What a sad reality that must be.

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  Anybody attended the Memorial last night? What was your experience?

  by Cindi_67 in

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  18 years ago

  for the first time in a year i set foot on a kh.

  the memorial to me is still somewhat sacred so i decided to attend.

  i thought i would feel different, in the sense that maybe i would miss meetings, but i was wrong.

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  I didn't go this year either ... I have not been for a couple of years now. My mother sent me the "you are dead to me" ltr, so any invitation and possible guilt into going, was not there. What is interesting is that a friend of mine who is still a good little JW was at the same memorial as my mother, she said that my mother looked very worn and sad. My only comment was "well maybe if she did not cut out the only member of the family that actually helped her, she would not have the weight of the world on her shoulders. I hope the religion provides her with the family members she has kicked out of her life." I know, I know, a little bitter, but to me it seems some what hypocritical to go to the memorial ... something that is suppose to signify god's loving kindness for mankind, all the while this same group of knuckleheads are condemning everyone around them!

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  Are you a "Leader" or a "Follower"?

  by JH in

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  18 years ago

  i'm a "loner", so no one is following me, and i'm not following anyone.. maybe i tend slightly towards being a follower, but it better be worth my time, or i'll be back to a loner once more.

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  looking_glass 18 years ago

  I am more a leader than a follower. However, I have a couple of very strong minded friends and I have learned to give into their wants/wishes, so in that case, I am a follower.

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  Anyone seen a Memorial talk outline?

  by undercover in

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  18 years ago

  if i remember correctly, someone last year posted the memorial talk outline a week or so before the memorial.. does anyone have access to this year's outline?

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  i'm curious because of the new wt article that basically backs away from teaching that the 144,000 were all chosen by 1935. i'd like to see how it is mentioned in this year's talk because, as we all know, the memorial talk is more about the anointed and how they alone partake than it is about jesus..

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  looking_glass 18 years ago

  Wasn't there suppose to be some special announcement made at the memorial this year? If so, does anyone know what it was?

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  JW secretary getting a (second) talking to

  by looking_glass in

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  18 years ago

  some of you know my sitch.

  long & short, had a temp secretary who is a jw.

  had problems, eventually got rid of her, but she still works at the firm.

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  looking_glass 18 years ago

  No, she is not a temp. She was my temp secretary. She is a floater, so she is considered an employee of the firm. She is the only black secretary that we have of the 50+ secretaries. Though that is a condition of our firm. Of the attys we only have 6 chicks, only one is not white. Of the remaining 69 attys, only 2 of the dudes are not white. Of all those people, we have no shareholders that are women. And as for the executive committee, not only are are there no women, they are all white men. Over the last year we have had 2 sexual harassment claims and one wrongful termination claim. So right now the place is running scared. The issue is that instead of recognizing that they need to diversify, they just hang on to the few bad apples we got, rather then getting rid of them for fear of getting sued. The other problem is that our office policy does not address inappropriate material in the work place other than sexually explicate material. The office policy sucks to tell you the truth! It is vague enough to not box them in a corner, but not specific enough to be able to go to someone and say "hey you are violating office policy" knock it off.

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  JW secretary getting a (second) talking to

  by looking_glass in

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  18 years ago

  some of you know my sitch.

  long & short, had a temp secretary who is a jw.

  had problems, eventually got rid of her, but she still works at the firm.

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  Fran - I hope for my sake she leaves. My fear is she will think this is a persecution thing. Also, I hope HR handles it right and does not name names otherwise all hell is going to break lose. She and I went toe to toe when she was calling after me right after the memorial last year to ask me if I went, all the while I have a client I am walking back to the board room. It was horrible, that is how it all began. I do think she is more over the top then most JWs and she has a chip on her shoulder on top of it. So besides the fact that she is a crazy JW, she is a mean and nasty crazy JW. Let's hope this is the end of her!

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  JW secretary getting a (second) talking to

  by looking_glass in

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  18 years ago

  some of you know my sitch.

  long & short, had a temp secretary who is a jw.

  had problems, eventually got rid of her, but she still works at the firm.

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  looking_glass 18 years ago

  Some of you know my sitch. Long & short, had a temp secretary who is a JW. Had problems, eventually got rid of her, but she still works at the firm. Anyways, since yesterday JW secretary has been in overdrive regarding memorial and giving peeps tracts/brochures/mags, etc. I finally had it today cause I was trying to get something out the door and she was busy preaching to the service people. So, I sent a nasty gram to HR. I just checked my work e-mail and I got a response from our CA HR Dept advising that they would be meeting with her tomorrow to address the problem and express the seriousness of this second "reminder" about her conduct at work.

  KEEP YOUR FINGERS CROSSED THAT SHE GETS PISSED AND STORMS OUT THE DOOR TO NEVER RETURN.

  And b/4 someone once again asks why a law firm is frightened of its peeps, yes, yes, I know every one thinks that law firms are ball busters, they are not and we keep crazies for years cause we are afraid they are going to sue us. Why, cause we are filled w/ all old white men, so there are tons of classes that we discriminate against and if you discriminate against religion on top of it, we are up sh_t's creek. I am waiting for the day we get sued, cause it is coming and fast.

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  Woodbury Vermont - anyone know

  by looking_glass in

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  18 years ago

  the tallmans from woodbury vermont.

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  looking_glass 18 years ago

  Nahh, not checking to find them cause I want to return to happy memories, I was wondering if anyone knew about the family cause of some of the things going on w/i the family. They are the shady side of the jws, you know the ones that the jws try and hide ... a lot of frightening things. Unfortunately a friend married into the family and is now reaping the ugly consequences, so I was hoping people here might be about to connect some dots for me.

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