I was and still am married to a non-believer. He never pressured me to leave the JWs, but was there to support whatever I chose (not many guys like that, I'm lucky). I chose to leave the JWs about 6 years after we were married, and our son was raised a nonJW.
Based on my experience, my advice would be to get the kids out of the KH and JWs immediately. Take advantage of that option while it's open to you. The longer the kids stay in the org, the worse they are damaged.
In the meantime, continue supporting your wife. If you and the children are happy, that will do more to help her than any amount of talking about beliefs.
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At a crossroads, need advice
by doinmypart inover the last few years i have been trying unsucessfully to get my wife out of the org.
we've had a lot of ups & downs, arguments, and miserable times.
well, my wife has finally told me that she will respect my decision to no longer be a jw, and i can also do what i feel is best for our children in this respect.
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Just informed...
by tan inthere is a local brother that was appointed to eldership in january.
he was dating and was recently put on reproof...denounced his eldership and married this sister like within a month.
we all know what happened...but i think it sucks that he covered his ass in such a way.
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***It makes me sick that these individuals are in the position to sit and judge the little people when they're doing the same thing.***
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Apostates are organized, all in one group
by ocsrf inthis is a perception that many have who are faithful jws.
i have to admit this of course was my feeling at one time.
only after being part of this forum do you realize that so called apostates are just people with only one thing in common and that is they feel misled by the organization and have a differing opinion which is never, ever allowed to be voiced without being condsidered apostate.
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The WTS judges others using their own miserly scales: since they themselves are a tightly organized and paranoid group, they assume their detractors must also be organized and paranoid. It makes JWs feel special to believe satanic opposers are plotting in secret to persecute them.
To me, this board seems to made up of almost every religion (including JWs) and non-religion out there. It reminds me of something...................what is it?.....................oh, yes. The real world.
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Wife beating during 20 years and fiduciary duty
by chasson inwife, a member of the jehovahs witnesses, sued watchtower society and church elders alleging that the church and the individual defendants failed to render assistance to her when she was consistently and repeatedly beaten by her husband over a period of 20 years; actions for intentional and negligent infliction of emotional distress and for breach of fiduciary duty time barred; limitation periods not tolled by the doctrine of fraudulent concealment; church teaching that members were not to resort to lawsuits did not postpone the running of the limitations periods until plaintiffs expulsion from the church; however, the claim for breach of implied contract to protect plaintiff so long as she was obedient to the church was timely because the alleged breach could be considered to have occurred on the date of plaintiffs expulsion from the church; but the claim for breach of implied contract was barred by the first amendment case # 801 (10/00) (conn. super.
ct.) (for collateral proceeding in the same case, see index entry in the next paragraph) .
wife, a member of the jehovahs witnesses, sued watchtower society and church elders alleging that the church and the individual defendants failed to render assistance to her when she was consistently and repeatedly abused by her husband for nearly 20 years, but counseled her to continue to endure in the marriage.
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***Conduct on the part of the defendant that is merely insulting or displays bad manners or results in hurt feelings is insufficient to form the basis for an action based upon intentional infliction of emotional distress.***
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Wife beating during 20 years and fiduciary duty
by chasson inwife, a member of the jehovahs witnesses, sued watchtower society and church elders alleging that the church and the individual defendants failed to render assistance to her when she was consistently and repeatedly beaten by her husband over a period of 20 years; actions for intentional and negligent infliction of emotional distress and for breach of fiduciary duty time barred; limitation periods not tolled by the doctrine of fraudulent concealment; church teaching that members were not to resort to lawsuits did not postpone the running of the limitations periods until plaintiffs expulsion from the church; however, the claim for breach of implied contract to protect plaintiff so long as she was obedient to the church was timely because the alleged breach could be considered to have occurred on the date of plaintiffs expulsion from the church; but the claim for breach of implied contract was barred by the first amendment case # 801 (10/00) (conn. super.
ct.) (for collateral proceeding in the same case, see index entry in the next paragraph) .
wife, a member of the jehovahs witnesses, sued watchtower society and church elders alleging that the church and the individual defendants failed to render assistance to her when she was consistently and repeatedly abused by her husband for nearly 20 years, but counseled her to continue to endure in the marriage.
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***Apparently, it's ok to counsel someone to stay in a marriage for 20 years where they're being abused. Note words :it was not outrageous.***
LDH,
I'm not a lawyer, but I don't think the courts were saying it's ok for the JWs to counsel someone to stay in an abusive relationship. They were saying it's the org's right to give advice, even if it's bad advice, and it was up to the woman whether or not to take the bad advice. The courts assume adult JWs are capable of making rational decisions about their lives. And legally, I guess they have to make that assumption; otherwise, the courts would just end up being another "parent" to JWs who won't take responsibility for their decisions. -
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What do Christians believe about Heaven, Earth and the better RESURRECTION?
by jwfacts inthe bible speaks of several resurrections and several places.
how are these reconciled by christians?.
will people continue to live on earth, and if so will there still be death?.
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Answers will vary, depending on the Christian you ask.
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Wife beating during 20 years and fiduciary duty
by chasson inwife, a member of the jehovahs witnesses, sued watchtower society and church elders alleging that the church and the individual defendants failed to render assistance to her when she was consistently and repeatedly beaten by her husband over a period of 20 years; actions for intentional and negligent infliction of emotional distress and for breach of fiduciary duty time barred; limitation periods not tolled by the doctrine of fraudulent concealment; church teaching that members were not to resort to lawsuits did not postpone the running of the limitations periods until plaintiffs expulsion from the church; however, the claim for breach of implied contract to protect plaintiff so long as she was obedient to the church was timely because the alleged breach could be considered to have occurred on the date of plaintiffs expulsion from the church; but the claim for breach of implied contract was barred by the first amendment case # 801 (10/00) (conn. super.
ct.) (for collateral proceeding in the same case, see index entry in the next paragraph) .
wife, a member of the jehovahs witnesses, sued watchtower society and church elders alleging that the church and the individual defendants failed to render assistance to her when she was consistently and repeatedly abused by her husband for nearly 20 years, but counseled her to continue to endure in the marriage.
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Maybe I'm not getting all the legal jargon, but doesn't it mean she lost?
***Summary judgment granted to defendants on plaintiff’s actions for intentional and negligent infliction of emotional distress.***
***Conduct on the part of the defendant that is merely insulting or displays bad manners or results in hurt feelings is insufficient to form the basis for an action based upon intentional infliction of emotional distress.*** -
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Are there any believers here?
by kwr ini'm a unitarian christan and do read the watchtower and awake regularly.
i'm curious if any one here believes in the god of abraham or are there all doubters here at this web site?
kwr .
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I'm a believer in the Church of Parakeet. It's a non-denominational, non-monotheistic, non-proselytizing, non-biblical, non-doctrinal church with a membership of 1. I searched for many years and examined many religions before I discovered this church, but it was worth the time and effort.
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Should you try and call an old dub friend? What if you did?
by gumby inok, sunnygal inspired this one.. today i wondered what would happen if i called an old dub friend.
he's an elder.
i met him in jr. high as he was in my metalshop class and i mentioned i was a witness.
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What would be the point, other than to see whether or not they hang up on you? If they haven't kept in touch, they don't care about what's happened to you. Don't give them the satisfaction of feeling they've done a good and noble thing by snubbing you.
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As a Dub, did you read the magazines to understand the Bible, or......
by AK - Jeff indid you use the bible to support the magazines?.
it was only in the last year or so before i 'saw the light' that it dawned on me.
i knew co's who could quote wt texts, page and line, but almost never really used the bible.
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As a lazy JW teenager, I avoided reading the WT because I found it too boring for words. I read the Awake only if I saw an article that piqued my interest, usually about animals--Porcupines, Our Prickly Pals, or some similar nonsense. I occasionally read the Bible out of curiosity, never to help me understand the magazines.