Posts by Quandry

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now wat??

by xtreemlyconfused17 in

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aloha everyone...................please do help if u can.

hope u dont get bored reading this quite long text

i'l soon be 17, i'm an unbaptized publisher, but innactive (havent gone door to door)for more than a year, but still very strict with our organisation's standards (lyk no teenage dating).

Please be patient. At sixteen, you have lots of time ahead. One thing that is really good...you are not baptised. This gives you an opportunity to ask questions, but know this. The more questions you publicly ask, the more you may be seen as a bad association for many young people in your congregation.

I hope that you will focus on your education.

My daughter was df'd for some silly teen stuff she did when she was 16. (not fornication-stuff like tried a cigarette, etc.) She was berated and humiliated by five men. That did it for our family. We left the JWs.

She went on to graduate from High School with honors, and went on to college. She just graduated from University with highest honor-Summa Cumme Laude-almost perfect grades, with a degree in biology. She just got a job in a laboratory.

You can do anything in life that you set your mind to. Formulate goals for yourself, then stick to them. Perhaps you can come to be in a position to help mankind through your future work.

For the time being, just put your head down, and go to school. Learn all you can. Then when you are older, you can make your own decisions. Right now, try not to upset your family. Heed their advice, even if it means going to meetings.

You can do it!

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Is my marriage worth saving?

by sacdfan in

long story - will make it short - i was a jw for 4 years.

hy husband took to it straigt away and has been a jw for 20 years - we were both converted by one of his workmates.

our 4 kids were all baptised jws and thankfully 3 escaped (2 disfellowshipped, one fading) - so my eldest son is still in with his dad.

Quandry

Hi and welcome to the forum.

It is certainly your decision as to your future, but right now, could you find some women's travel groups? The ones where groups of women travel together to interesting locations? How about taking trips with your children? Visiting them?

Don't allow this man to dictate your happiness. How about if you take your own on-line courses? In other words, choose to live a more exciting life, even if at present you don't change your address.

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Can someone please help me?

by ruderedhead in

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hello, i'm new to posting here, although i have been reading and gaining insight for quite a while.

thank you to all of you.. i wrote a letter of disassociation this week, and sent it to the local kh.

i have been faded for a number of years, and after much research, know that the witnesses do not have the truth.

Quandry

Welcome.

Remember when you went out in service to tell people they were buzzard bait if they didn't listen to your words of wisdom? Remember asking them a question but not even listening to their answer because you had your rebuttal already?

Same situation applied when you spoke to your friend. There was no way to make a point. At the first hint of anything anti-JW, she wasn't listening, but formulating her reply.The only words that were of lasting import were her words that she doesn't want to talk to you anymore because you don't spout the party JW line.

Better to have questions that can't be answered, than answers that can't be questioned.

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Oh happy day!

by venetian in

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ahhh!

the sheer joy of seeing a bright cold frosty tuesday morning and know that i don't have to get ready for field service.

isn't life sweet?

Quandry

Yes, indeed, really getting to enjoy the outdoors (or indoors), taking your time to reflect on things instead of frantically reading enough of the magazines to "make a presentation" and run out the door to the group......it's all good!.

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WT Compares Higher Education to Drugs and Alcohol

by Bangalore in

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bangalore.

Quandry

Thanks so much for posting this. I printed this out. There is a young JW woman where I work that mentioned to me that she is taking some college courses.

I asked if she knew that the WTS says that it is wrong to pursue higher education, and she assured me that they don't. I told her that my husband had been an elder for twenty years and that the WTS had even recently stated that any elder who encouraged others to this end could lose their position. As she was trying her best to get away from me, I told her to be careful who she told about her education plans.

This article is just what I need to make her feel guilty! Ha!

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Family Dinner

by fade_away in

so my wife and i decided to throw a little dinner for her parents and mine.

they are all hardcore jws and my wife and i have been out for a little more than a year.

her father has been innactive for years, but as soon as we decided to leave, her father decided to go full throttle jw.

Quandry

Of course they are doing it to "help" you, without directly speaking to you. Why have both sets over at once? At least with one at a time, you can both sit.

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Sedge-moor JW Pedophile Dustin Gandley

by blondie in

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http://www.thisisthewestcountry.co.uk/news/9492203.paedophile_jailed_for_30_months/.

paedophile jailed for 30 months4:00pm friday 27th january 2012. a paedophile from sedge-moor has been jailed for 30 months for sexually abusing a young girl over a period of four years.

dustin gandley, 37, sexually assaulted the girl, who was aged under 13, a total of 11 times until she told her mother and he was reported to the police.

Quandry

30 months? The child is sentenced to live with this for a lifetime and he only gets 21/2 years? He'll be back to the KHall working his way up to elder before she is out of her teens!

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i am a regular pioneer in my cong reading crisis of conscience.here goes...

by MsGrowingGirl20 in

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i'm on page 90 right now...the info is definitely new and gives me a totally diff view as to how i used to think of faithful and discreet slave.

i was thoroughly disgusted with the way the brothers handled the oral sex and leadership problem and the insight on the scriptures book...... still have alot of questions though.

Quandry

Ms. Growing,

Adding my welcome. I believe in God and Jesus.

Please take the time to do some thinking and reflecting on the history of the Watchtower Society. Do not be hasty in any decisions.

I no longer believe everything the WTS says. I did at one time. I believed that the ones at an age of understanding in 1914 would not die before Armageddon, then I believed that the ones born in 1914 would not, then I was asked to believe that the generation was "the contemporaries" alive at the end who did not believe, but began to question, and now I hear that you must believe in an "overlapping generation." New light? Or just trying to gloss over the fact that the ones who were alive and at an age of understanding, and even those who were born in 1914 are no longer alive?

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My Experience Growing Up in the Watchtower

by Eiben Scrood in

i thought i'd relate my experience here.

can others relate to it?

does it sound familiar?.

Quandry

Well written and witty- I also await more........

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I just thought I'd introduce myself...

by celticstorm in

Quandry

Welcome to the forum.

So glad that some in your family do not shun you, and that you are out and happy. Live is soooo worth living.

I was "in" for over thirty years, now I revel in the freedom to question and chart my own path. Also it is wonderful to slow down and not run crazy getting to every meeting and out in service. THAT was depressing as one can never do enough!