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  preventing baptism of minors

  by og in

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  here is the situation: my wife is a very faithful true believer (and a wonderful person, i will add, who really wants to do what's right) i have been da'd about a year, and we have 2 children.

  our oldest is 13, and really buys into the witness line ( as, of course, i professed to until last summer) and i am fairly sure she is considering baptism.

  here is my question: as one half of her parents, is there any legal doctrine that would allow me to prevent her baptism until she is 18?

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  desertflower

  If I remember right they always told us baptism was the most important
  thing that we would ever do and for us to write down when we
  were baptized. So we really need to be sure of what we are doing.
  I"m 68 yrs. old and never knew the history of JW until couple of
  years ago. I was baptized because my husband got baptized. Smart
  move Huh?? So don't do it just because someone else you love and
  want to be close to. Do it for the love of Jesus.
  You have had so much good advice sort it all out make it your own.
  Jesus sit the example for us to follow and we all know how old he
  was and he had it all together. I hope you can reason with her and
  she is willing to wait. I had 2 grandkids that was 16 & 17 when
  they were baptized and one was df and the other one pregant. & she
  just left the truth. Take care & my best to you.
  Desertflower
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  rekless in hospital

  by desertflower in

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  i thought you all would like to know that rekless had a heart.

  attack.

  he was at work and was taken to hospital by ambulance.. he had 2 stints put it and they are hoping that will do the .

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  desertflower

  I thought you all would like to know that rekless had a heart
  attack. He was at work and was taken to hospital by ambulance.
  He had 2 stints put it and they are hoping that will do the
  job for him. We saw him this morning and he seems to be doing
  ok now. Will know more tomorrow. It was a real surprise to him
  Let you know more as I do. Desertflower
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  An inquiry about my cousin, Sharon

  by Mulan in

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  for those new ones who haven't read my cousin's story, i am posting the link here again.

  http://www.exjws.net/shunning/sharonkennedy.htm.

  today, i received a very nice inquiry about sharon, and whether this all was true.

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  desertflower

  Hi Mulan,
  Thanks for post the letter about Sharon again. I wrote to you after
  Sharon had died. Your letter about her had touch my heart. I had a
  sister that died of cancer. Iwas 2 yrs younger than she was. We
  were very close. I have a lot of wonderful memories of her and family
  So now I keep in touch with her 4 sons. They were never JW"S so
  they don't shunn us like the JW side of the family.
  Sharon's story sounds alot like our story. Going to NY. in 1958.
  One day I'll try and write more. Just trying to get use to posting.
  I hope you remember me I mailed you personally.
  BETTY
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  I want to talk to a friend HELP

  by lv4fer in

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  i have only two close friends who are witnesses that i care about.

  i would like to share my feelings with them and still not get dfd.

  do you think it is possible or should i forget it.

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  desertflower

  We are not da nor df but still shunned by all.
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  I want to talk to a friend HELP

  by lv4fer in

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  i have only two close friends who are witnesses that i care about.

  i would like to share my feelings with them and still not get dfd.

  do you think it is possible or should i forget it.

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  desertflower

  You have received alot of good advice. Becareful who you talk too
  my husband and I talked only too our kids. One of our daughters
  was so upset with us she told me she was going to talk to the
  elders. I told her if we needed help we would talk to them.
  But she decided to talk to them anyway and of course we had an
  elder meeting before we knew what happened. So don't trust your
  family if you don't want to be turned in. We are being shunned
  by all the so called friend we have ever had . We were in 47 yrs.
  Important to make friends before you leave. Handle with care.
  desertflower
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  30+ years of Field Service Observations

  by Tulsi Das in

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  some very random thoughts based on 30+ years of field service activity.

  would especially enjoy responses by jt, alanf, amazing, & others.. why they do it.

  1. guilt.

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  desertflower

  spender
  you mention Calif. way of doing service. We always went to Burger
  King or McDonald's for our coffee breaks and stayed as long as
  we wanted too or until the next bunch came in and saw how long we
  had been there. I was with pineers one day and they were really
  draging their feet I kept trying to push them and finally they
  told me, you are today but we are here everyday so don't push.
  That was in Shasta Co. in northern Calif. Sounds like everyone
  did't want to go in service much. I really did not mind it until
  I realized I that telling them the truth and that really bothers me
  DERERTFLOWER
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  "You Are Expected to Believe As We Do&quot...

  by stevieb1 in

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  i am currently having visits made on me by the elders,who are trying to help me "unbelieve" the things i have learned to be true from the bible, which naturally contradict wt doctrine.. as well as asking me "where else will you go" they said that members of the public walking into a kingdom hall expect all within it to be jehovah's witnesses holding firmly to their doctrines and not holding divergent viewpoints like i do.

  they said it would not be proper for someone to hold a belief that was contrary to the society and still be expected to remain a jw, even in name only.

  i have stated to them that i can no longer preach the wt version of the "good news" so they automatically assumed that i am not obeying jesus' command to preach.. i am in a bit of a predicament as you can see.

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  Stevieb
  Seems like you never know when the elders will come to get you.
  We only had 1 call and all they wanted to know was, it the org.
  the channel of communication from God. We told them we had
  questions and had to check the bible out for more information.
  That has been 2-1/2 yrs ago. Not one word since. Not even a
  follow up sheparding call. So we think we are safe just trying
  to slip away quitely because of our children. Well now they just
  said they are changing terriorty and one our daughters that will
  talk to us may have to go to the kingdom hall that we were in.
  Makes you wonder if now they may want to know if she associaties
  with us. We are not df nor da. only because of family.
  I hope things work out for you .
  desertflower
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  another newbie

  by desertflower in

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  guess i've been lurking long enough.

  been about 2 yrs or longer.. take a lot of nerve for the first post.my husband and i both left.

  together although he knew long before i did.

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  desertflower

  Thank all of you for your respond. Guess we need to feel welcome
  and that make us braver for the next post. JW you made me feel
  special. Glad someone like older ex witnesses. Will tell more
  later. desertflower
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  Why are the witnesses suddenly smiling at me?

  by Inquiry in

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  hi all..... i was starting to feel like i was walking around outside in me undies.... is there something new going on... people who normally always looked at me with disdain are suddenly smiling and making friendly.... is anything up????

  just last week, i was sure i was still satan's spawn....???

  weeeeeiiiirrrdddd..... inq :)

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  I'm not df nor da but I have not had anyone calling on me does
  that mean they don't want me. No even my own kids.

  DF
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  another newbie

  by desertflower in

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  guess i've been lurking long enough.

  been about 2 yrs or longer.. take a lot of nerve for the first post.my husband and i both left.

  together although he knew long before i did.

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  desertflower

  Guess I've been lurking long enough. Been about 2 yrs or longer.
  Take a lot of nerve for the first post.My husband and I both left
  together although he knew long before I did. Hard to tell your mate
  of 50 yrs. that we were in the wrong religion and ours was a cult.
  We were baptized in 56 so you see it was a hard thing to do (leave)
  We have 4 kids and 11 grandkids and 3 great grandson's. They are
  all JW. some weak. Last 2 years have been really hard as my husband
  had a 3 way bypass 1-1/2 years ago. The stress of being shunned is
  more than some of us older exjw need.
  Best advice that I have seen on here is that we can't change the jw's
  no matter how hard we try.Unless something happens in their lives to
  change them. Also if you are coming out of the org. make new friends before you leave. It is really hard at our age. We do know reckless and he and Jo are our friends we get together often. Have a couple more here and they are a blessing. This is it for this time
  thank you all for being here. You been more help than you know.
  Yes I would like to make some new friends here.