it all starts after you hear "these things we pray through jesus christ, amen".
i gather my books and the kid's books and put them away.
by that time people are walking over to us and talking to my wife and playing with my kids.
Thank you for that post. I've been a witness all my life and have never had a better glimpse of what being DF'd is like till I read it. You really made me feel sad for you and others in the same situation. You sound like a really good natured person and a loving and considerate husband and father. No, you don't deserve such treatment and I don't believe it's Jehovah's way.
As for advice: onthewayout said it best. I can't do any better that.
Take care...
i was thinking this morning about an incident that happened yesterday and came to a very welcome realization..like rett butler, i simply dont give a damn..what others preconceived notions or expectations of me are anymore.i am happy, and content with who and where i am in my life.its a good place to be emotionally and mentally, after being soooo tormented for so many years.with all the negative people pleasing baggage i carried around.its like erica jong said:at fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose, stomps down the stairs, and sets fire to the house.
she won't be imprisoned anymore.its a great place to be, as a woman.anyone else care to share?.
terri.
My husband and I will be 50 in 2009. I suggested to him the other day that we use the next three years to better ourselves and our lives in every way. Loose some weight, develope some new good habits, establish some goals and meet them, make some new friends, become more aware of other's feelings, deepen our relashionship with each other.... And then in 09 take a cruise with our kids and celebrate the beginig of the better part of our lives. I want to appreciate what the past has taught me and look foward to the wonders the future has in store.
for the first time in my jw history, i turned in a slip with a big zero written in every column,.
turned it over and wrote "zero tracts" below that, i wrote "stumbled by the co".
( see http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/121888/1.ashx if you want to understand the co comment.).
You are either brave or insane. Either way you're asking for it!
nonamegiven's thread on the walk of shame (walking thru the hall while df'd) reminded me of my own experience while disfellowshipped and still a believer.
i kept a diary from that time, serving as a safe place to vent off the anger and frustration of being df'd.. here is a little chunk of one entry.
to set it up, "greg" was the chairman of the committee that df'd me.
That was good reasoning you used. Thank you for sharing.
i talked to my mom yesterday.
she just had to vent about some "brother" in her car group this week.
he had been in the hospital and racked up a $25,000.00 bill but had no insurance to pay for it.
Amazing is right. We don't know the whole story. However, the "Jehovah has blessed me" part boils my blood. I have heard it all my life and it has always irked me because it implys that those whose problems don't get solved are not blessed. What makes those who get a blessing more worthy that others
And on the other hand when something bad happens, they blame Satan. Nothing bad is ever their fault. Nothing good is never the product of intelligence or hard work. And "time and unforseen occurance" gets swept under the rug.
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or life in general can prove to be quite challenging at .
times.. having been a lurker before making the commitment to.
Nice perspective LIttleToe.
ok, ive been posting here for quite a few days and i realised that i havnt actually introduced myself properly.
at the moment i am slowly gathering as much information about what the org has done wrong and i will be putting it into an easy to read (easy enough for jws to read i should say.
later on i would like to go to an assembly and put my new 'tracts' on the seats and under peoples window washers, anywhere where they can be seen, because i view this as my new form of witnessing, and let me tell you its going to be alot more fullfilling than anything ive ever done in the jehovahs witnesses!.
Welcome Sam! The UN issue is big for me too.
this may have been discussed before but did any of you have crazy strict parents...i mean did they have even more strict ideas than what the religion already had put restrictions on?.
my stepfather had been a crazy drug/alcohol addict before dragging my family into the "truth"...then it seemed he became obsessed with the religion.
honestly...i don't know which was worse!
Wow!Your parents sound even creepier than mine. I thought it wasn't possible. I'll PM you sometime and compare notes.
several posters (whom i will not name because it doesn't matter) have basically said good-bye lately.
we all responded as usual, with genuine sentiments - how much we will miss them, etc.
but, quite frankly there is something almost disparaging or critical implied toward the rest of us who choose to remain on the board by those who "move on.
Bizzybee: I feel the same way.
Wanderer: don't sweat the small stuff! Just post whatever pops in your head or whatever you feel you can contribute. It doesn't need to be a thesis everytime.
actually, i'm new to the whole forum thing in general.
i guess i should say something about myself...
i'm 23, born and raised in the organization.
Welcome!
