Posts by becca1

34

What Do Men & Women Want From Each Other???

by minimus in

jw
friends

i recently read of a survey regarding unhappy wives.

it seems that nearly most women wouldn't do it all over again with the same man.

they were unhappy for various reasons.

becca1

trevor: you sound like you've been happily married for a long time and have it all figured out!

13

Advice for daughter please

by AuntieJane in

jw
friends

ok, i'm a perpetual mom.

my 24 yoa daughter has been back in college and did ok this past semester.

but not what she is capable of, grade-wise.

I have a daughter who I have in the past called an "underachiver". She is brilliant, but somehow never took school too seriously. She made decent grades but I knew and she knew they could have been much better. Well, I've learned a few things since then. For some of us, living up to our potential is very important and we strive to do so in every aspect of our lives. For others, getting by is OK. You said your daughter's grades were OK. Be grateful for that, praise her and love her unconditionally. We are all different, what makes one person tick may stress another person out Try to view your daughter as the unique individual that she is and realize that there is more than one road to happines. Success is differnt for different people. If she's happy and productive, let her find her own pace..

17

well, i am off to the circuit assembly tomorrow.

by ?me? in

jw
friends

i will see if i can pay attention.

after reading a review of some of the stuff said, i may have to even take notes!

(for my own reasons , of course).

becca1

Don't forget to put in the 20 and not the five!

42

Skeptical of the Apostates Motivation

by The wanderer in

jw
friends

skeptical of the apostates motivationmy best friend presented a hard-hitting question about former jehovahs.

witnesses.

he believes that many individuals leave the truth because it is hard; and they look for any miscue to escape the organization and their responsibility to god.

becca1

Everone has their own motives. Are there people who leave because it's too hard? Sure. Are there those who want to live a life w/o the moral constraints of the Society? Sure. But there are also many, myself included, who just don't believe it anymore. We've seen too much, learned too much and we've dared to think for ourselves. Personally, if everything they taught was according to scripture, made sense and there was no hypocrisy, the "work" would be worthwhile. But knowing that it's not makes the "work" futile.

Like anything else, you can't make blanket statements about people and be right.

16

Socially Stunted?...you betcha.

by Lumptard in

jw
friends

my apologies if this has been done to death, but i was just curious how many of you feel that you have been socially crippled as a result of your association with the jws?

granted, this probably affects people who were raised as jws more than those who chose for themselves, but i just wanted to see if anyone else has had the same experience...also, how did you work through it if you were able to?

becca1

Yes and no. Being raised in the truth, being an only child and having parents that were witness fantics affected my social skills greatly as a child. However once I was allowed to go back to regular school (7th grade), though I went through an awkward period of adjustment, I got the hang of it pretty soon. I attribute this to having a naturally outgoing personality and also to being in tune with other people's feelings. If I had been naturally introverted and detached I may not have faired so well.

29

When did it all go wrong for the WTS? I say 1980's.....

by jambon1 in

jw
friends

after speaking to an elderly jw a few weeks ago, it occured to me that the wts genuinely experienced good times in the 50's and 60's, perhaps the 1970's.

it seemed a good place to be.

people seemed more relaxed.

becca1

Was it ever right?

8

WBTS Branches

by SB in

jw
friends

i have been to 7 branches but never the ny bethel.

it's too bad i was disillusioned before i could make it there.

czech republic.

becca1

Brooklyn, Walkill, Puerto Rico

14

Personal Ethics of XJWs

by NanaR in

jw
friends

while reading on jwd last night and this morning, i was reminded of a situation that i had with my husband when i told him i was not ever going back to the kingdom hall (this happened in october 2006 so relatively recently).

this statement should not have come as a great surprise to him, as he knows that i now belong to the american legion auxiliary (in fact i am the local unit president), that i vote, and that i helped convince our daughter to have a blood transfusion that may have saved her life.

also i had told him in the past that he should not set up any meetings for me with the elders as i would not talk to them.. in spite of his knowledge of my present activities, his reaction to my "never going back" statement was severe.

becca1

I am currently fading. I have no desire to live immorally or do harmful things to others. I agree with you that "the golden rule' is the best way to live. Will the witnesses that realize I am no longer "strong" in the "truth" believe I can leave the org. and lead a good life. Probably not, but that's their problem, not mine.

31

Belief Poll : Please Indulge Me

by Morocco in

jw
friends

just sort of curious about this, i know it has probably been done a gazillion times but let me do it again.

1.do you believe in a personal god who takes interest in you as an individual?

2.do you believe that the bible was written by god?

becca1

To all your questions: I honestly don't know anymore...

29

Where are you in your recovery process?

by Nicolas in

hi everyone and happy new year.

it's been a long time since i posted here, i've been lurking for a while too but now i would like to share my experience.

i would also like to hear your experience.

becca1

Am now officially "inactive" (6 mos. no FS). After this last CA I don't think I can go to anymore meetings. It will depend on how much flack I get from my grown children. We shall see...

Emotionally, I've experienced: shock, anger, fear, confusion... Presently, I have accepted that I will not go back. I can't go back and be honest with myself. My only sadness is that my children are still "in". I maintain a warm relashionship with them. I don't know what will happen if I don't return to meetings....