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  QUIT PUSHING IT AWAY.................PLEASE..........................

  by Warlock in

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  i have noticed that part of, if not all of, the problem with some ex-jw's is that they insist on pushing their jw experience away.. look, you were jw's and that is a fact that you cannot change!.

  converted, or born-in.

  it is a fact of your life.. quit pushing it away!.

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  dobbie

  Well said Warlock, though it can take time to accept your past. The way i see it now for myself is that it has happened, i regret some things but they can't be undone. I see it as all experience and i am a stronger, wiser person now for having been through it and come out smiling! I also wouldn't have my kids if i hadn't gone along and met my hubby so tho i would change some things/decisions i wouldn't change joining it initially as they are everything to me.

  I can't underestimate getting support to help you through, whether it's from a professional counsellor or good friends, it's so much easier if you just find one person to share it with - but this board is a huge help, esp at first when you might not be ready to talk openly face to face with others.x
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  MIL shunning me.....

  by AK - Jeff in

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  saw it was her on the caller id.

  mil: silence.

  mil: i am looking for mrs ak jeff [spoken as if she had no idea who the man who answered the phone could be].

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  dobbie

  So sorry, i know it's hurtful, my mil won't even knock at our door to see her grandkids, she's never seen the youngest and she lives in the same small town, my hubby now supports me and she does'nt even text him now, it's all so nuts. Funny thing is she took my d'fd sis in law out clothes shopping for her kid - guess i was never in favor to begin with! Sending you a big hug, you so don't deserve this treatmentx
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  How many TIMES can a JW be DF'd before the ELDERS dismiss them PERMANENTLY?

  by african GB Member in

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  i know a "sister" who has been df'd 10 times for adultery within a period of 15 years..... she is married....her hubby was an elder until she got df'd for the 1st time...he was then deleted....apparently the sister was not happy in the bedroom, he was always away doing cong duties, including jcs....... she keeps getting reinstated, and usually it does'nt take long for her (not the usual 6 months).....apparently she is a very good actress (she cries like a baby in the jcs )..... how many times can she keep getting df'd and reinstated like this until the elders say it is enough?.

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  dobbie

  They will just keep on reinstating, they are desperate to keep their numbers up!
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  talk about an AWKWARD heavenly arrangement for satan...and Jesus...

  by oompa in

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  ever notice how incredibly patient god is?....esp re: satan?

  wt never wants to discuss this i think.

  they love their "universal issue" of gods sovereignty, and how it must take thousands of years to prove his point that he has the right to rule (just barf stupid!

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  dobbie

  Does that mean that Satan did all that bad stuff and they didn't even shun him? Hmm hardly fair on the rest of us!
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  How Tall are You ? Weight Optional - Only if you are Comfortable ?

  by flipper in

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  my wife and i were talking about this and thought it would be fun.

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  dobbie

  When i was a baby i was 5lbs and they told my dad i wouldn't live more than a day!But we shorties are toughies! I'm 5ft1 and currently (owing to having my baby last yr) 11st! But before i got pregnant i was 8st7lbs so am hoping to get near to that - just may take me a while lol!

  My little ones were 2lbs1oz(13 wks prem), 6lbs3(2 wks early) and 6lbs7oz(3 wks early) when they were born, we seem to breed small babies in our family lol
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  Family is shunning us.

  by AgentSmith in

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  mrs smith and i have faded away for many years.

  we knew the day will come that we would be questioned directly what our stand is.. this past holidays we were confronted by our jw family.

  we told them the truth, we are not jw's anymore and that we go to any church that strikes our fancy.

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  dobbie

  What you both did was really brave, it takes guts to come out and tell them so well done.

  I have little ones too, one of them does remember the hall, the other doesn't, they are the reason we got out. Although it was my hubbys family shunning me, i too found it extremely hurtful and went through so many different emotions hurt, upset, feeling stupid, blazing anger at them and at myself, you will probably go through it too - it is totally normal.

  I am now so much happier, two yrs on, i still have been left with anger i admit, but life is great, we have a normal happy family life and am v proud of my family. Hubbys own mother who lives in the same small town has never seen her 11 month old grandson and my 4 yr old doesn't remember her, we put their attitude down to mental illness as thats how we see the religion nowadays. Please stay strong, its a rollercoaster ride of emotions but such a relief to be out of it all, and it really does get better.x
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  Any Vegans on the Board?

  by PrimateDave in

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  my new year's resolution is to make the lifestyle change to the vegan-pure vegetarian diet: no animal derived foods.. it is a change i have considered before on different occasions.

  i didn't stick with the diet in the past due to lack of information, or perhaps the abundance of misinformation available on the optimum diet.

  i've never been grossly overweight, probably never over 170 lbs.

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  dobbie

  i've been a vegetarian for about 24 yrs, since i was 12. I did try to become a vegan at 15, but with a father who was firstly a butcher and then a milkman, plus my love of chocolate lol it didn't work. I ended up v anaemic and mum and i had to see a dietician as we didn't have a clue on what i should be eating! Mind you i was lovely and slim cos i hardly ate anything! I know its alot tougher being vegan though you can have soya milk and even chocolate. You would need to eat lots of pulses some nuts etc.

  I still cook meat for hubby and the kids tho they actually prefer the veggie food, but although raw meat turns my stomach over wouldn't be fair to make them veggie, that's up to them to decide when they are older, it doesn't bother me either way.

  You could always try veganism for a couple of months say and see how you are feeling, then if you find its not right for you, too hard etc go back to your normal diet. My favorite recipe is lentil bolognese if you'd like the recipe let me know.
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  What kind of sandwiches do you like to make?

  by asilentone in

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  dobbie

  My favorite is cheddar cheese with lettuce and toms in fresh wholemeal bread, and then cheese and cress, cucumber, jam sarnies and also marmalade ones (just like Paddington Bear lol)

  I also have some lunchtimes a mushroom and onion sarnie or potato waffles and ketchup, vegeburger in a roll or a good ole chip butty!

  My mum eats banana sandwiches now thats just gross!
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  Ladies, What kind of flowers do you like to receive from your guy?

  by asilentone in

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  dobbie

  personally i prefer none, cos they are usually dead within the week (hubby likes to get the reduced ones!) and i would rather spend the money on something else, the other week i had been a bit down and i had a bunch three days in a row. But miserable cow that i must be i would have preferred the money and bought a new top or something that would last lol!
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  Why men die first

  by The Lone Ranger in

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  why do men die first?

  this is a question that has gone unanswered for centuries, but, now we know.

  it requires a bit of explanation!!.

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  dobbie

  Your'e one brave man lol!